Wife Just Not Getting Results
taneum
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She has been with this for about 2.5 months and zero results. She is about 315 and started at the recommended 1800 calories. No results so we knocked it down to 1600 calories, still, no results and now working out as well and no results. Sha wee knoeck it down to 1400 or possibly even 1300 calories just to see if it works. She is sooooooo frustrated and wants to quit and it doesnt help that I am losing weight at 210 punds.
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She has lost zero pounds? Or is just losing more slowly than she'd like?
She is probably over-estimating her calorie burn, and under estimating how many calories she's consuming.0 -
I don't want to be mean, but she might be cheating.
It takes enormous energy to carry 315 pounds around.
At 315, you could argue she is 175 pounds overweight.
Think of all the energy it takes to carry 175 pounds for even a minute.
Has she seen a doctor about this?
Does she exercise?
Best of luck.0 -
Is she drinking enough water? How's her sodium intake? Is she measuring all her portions? Is she exercising at all?0
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Is she drinking enough water? How's her sodium intake? Is she measuring all her portions? Is she exercising at all?
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I agree, she definitely needs to get some bloodwork done, especially if she is doing everything right and still isn't losing weight. She may have hypothyroidism, which makes it super hard to lose any weight at all.0
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No progress of any kind? Has she had blood work done?0
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Also is she a member here? If not I'd suggest that she sign up with her own account so she can log her food and talk to us for herself (no offense, it's just easier to talk to the person who is actually having the problem)0
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You might want to take her in to have her thyroid checked.0
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If she is perfectly healthy, thyroid and such...then she's cheating herself..not logging everything or underestimating calories and such. Doctor first, if everything is ok..take a look at behaviour.0
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I would have her checked for diabetes, thyroid issues, and PCOS. PCOS is caused by insulin resistance. She would need an insulin glucose tolerance test to test her insulin response. High levels of insulin make weight loss almost impossible. I have PCOS (but not diabetes) and take a diabetes drug, Metformin, to control my insulin levels. The medication makes weight loss possible (still not easy, but possible). I also have Hashimoto's thyroiditis which was working against me.0
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I would also suggest seeing a doctor. I had the same problem when I started. I worked for six months with NO results. And I seriously mean no results. I never cheated and I worked out daily, I measured my food too. But, nothing changed. I went to the doctor and found out that I have PCOS. The change for me was simple, no more processed carbs. That did it. I started dropping weight almost immediately (wihin the first week I cut the processed food from my diet). So, perhaps it is something along those lines. Good luck!0
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I would have her checked for diabetes, thyroid issues, and PCOS. PCOS is caused by insulin resistance. She would need an insulin glucose tolerance test to test her insulin response. High levels of insulin make weight loss almost impossible. I have PCOS (but not diabetes) and take a diabetes drug, Metformin, to control my insulin levels. The medication makes weight loss possible (still not easy, but possible). I also have Hashimoto's thyroiditis which was working against me.
I agree, PCOS makes weight loss almost impossible. And the odds of having it as a women are staggering, it is something like 2/5 women have it, and most don't know.0 -
Im a few pounds heavier than her and I found that the amount of protein and fiber makes a HUGE difference in my weight loss. I stay under 1700 calories a day but my protein intake is 112 and fiber is 22 (but i typically go over). I agree that she should have some blood work done also. I have PCOS which makes weight loss a little more difficult so it can be really frustrating. Dont give up. Best of luck.0
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She has been with this for about 2.5 months and zero results. She is about 315 and started at the recommended 1800 calories. No results so we knocked it down to 1600 calories, still, no results and now working out as well and no results. Sha wee knoeck it down to 1400 or possibly even 1300 calories just to see if it works. She is sooooooo frustrated and wants to quit and it doesnt help that I am losing weight at 210 punds.
Are you around her 24 hours per day? Almost zero chance she eats 1800 calories per day and not loses any weight. She's likely snacking while your not around or she's horribly undereporting her intake (either by accident or purposely).0 -
If she is not cheating and actually measuring her portions with a food scale and measuring cups - then I think the next step is to see a doctor and get a full physical with blood work. Also, when she works out is she using an HRM or the MFP database or machine estimates? There is a huge difference in all of that and you don't mention if she eats her calories back. If she is going to eat her calories back then she needs the HRM for accurate readings. I would also suggest using a tape measure. This is the first time I am doing it so I can't tell you what the results are yet but I know that it usually takes my body a lot of hard work before I see decent results on the scale - so I taped myself for the first time 1/1/12 and will retape 2/1/12. Either way try to encourage your wife to continue and not give up. Good Luck:flowerforyou:0
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Are you around here 24 hours per day? Almost zero chance she eats 1800 calories per day and not loses any weight. She's likely snacking while your not around or she's horribly undereporting her intake (either by accident or purposely).
^This. If not, then visit a doctor. It's very rare that someone at 300+ pounds isn't losing weight on 1800 calories a day.0 -
I don't want to be mean, but she might be cheating.
It takes enormous energy to carry 315 pounds around.
At 315, you could argue she is 175 pounds overweight.
Think of all the energy it takes to carry 175 pounds for even a minute.
Has she seen a doctor about this?
Does she exercise?
Best of luck.
Depending on her height/age...it might not be THAT hard...I was 5'8'' and started out at 327 pounds and at that time, I wouldn't have described it as "difficult" to get around. I do agree that the 1800 was too much. When I started here, that's about what MFP recommended but it didn't work. The biggest thing that kick started my loss was more water, less junk, and walking. NO CHEATING ON ANYTHING until the first 10 pounds were gone. I remember trying to justify myself in that way for treats, not necessary. I agree she needs her thyroid checked and ore than likely a support system too. With that much weight to lose, it's hard...just plain hard. She'll feel like nobody understands her.. that makes it harder. Tell her good luck, I hope she finds out something that works for her very, very soon.0 -
I would have her checked for diabetes, thyroid issues, and PCOS. PCOS is caused by insulin resistance. She would need an insulin glucose tolerance test to test her insulin response. High levels of insulin make weight loss almost impossible. I have PCOS (but not diabetes) and take a diabetes drug, Metformin, to control my insulin levels. The medication makes weight loss possible (still not easy, but possible). I also have Hashimoto's thyroiditis which was working against me.
I agree, PCOS makes weight loss almost impossible. And the odds of having it as a women are staggering, it is something like 2/5 women have it, and most don't know.
It was blatantly obvious for me from the time I was 14. Most women with PCOS have ovulation issues, and most of those start before the weight gain. I guess those women wouldn't necessarily know they have PCOS though - they likely don't seek out a Dr until they try to have children.0 -
She should try eating more whole foods as processed foods can put a halt to your weight loss. Try fruit and veggie smoothies, they have tons of fibre to help keep you full, and lots of vitamins to keep you healthy. Keep the carbs and dairy to a minimum, drink lots of water, make sure to eat your daily required protein intake so as you are not losing muscle, and drink plenty of water.
She also may need to try a colon cleanse as a healthy colon is what get's the ball rolling
(No alcohol - only 1 cup of caffeine per-day)
Hope it all works out Don't give up 0 -
I agree, PCOS makes weight loss almost impossible. And the odds of having it as a women are staggering, it is something like 2/5 women have it, and most don't know.
Crap. It makes it harder but women with PCOS can and have lost weight.
I was only a little bit smaller than OPs wife and have a terrible case of PCOS and have lost quickly. I just have to be stricter than most. But hitting my cals means I lose weight. Most women with PCOS are the same.
If she's truly eating right I'd go to the doctor. Eating only 1800 cals and not losing means there's something wrong.0 -
Okay......SHE (is me)!!!!!!! Let's get all my thoughts out there! Am I cheating?? No, I have been very truthful in my recording!! I have now for one week added daily exercise and tommorow I my "weigh-in" so we will see! Zero results?? No there have been some! As much as I like or as much as I know I can lose!? NO...4yrs ago i lost 96pounds! Extreme (biggest loser type exercise multiple times a day)! It was a competition! (I won the game and it was over-went back to my ways)! Now at 34 I want a lifestyle change!!!! Not for the "game" so that is why irbid slower to come off! I think! I did accually eat around 1000 calories a day then! I'm making it a healthy calorie intake now, which is why I'm more frustrated it is slow coming off! I Do have a dr appt set up so that is good! My water intake is not the best and I drink diet coke like nothing! Now this last week one diet coke a day! So...will see why tommorow brings! Anyone wanting to be a friend add me!
extra support and ideas are welcome!! 0 -
Drop the diet coke and drink more water.0
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Well, there are many reasons why she isn't seeing any results.
She's under estimating her caloric intake and over estimating her calorie burns.
It's possible that she's not eating enough. At 315lbs, I'm guessing she probably needs more than 1400 calories a day. First thing I would do is check her BMR (you can do that here). After that, I would find out her TDEE (this is your BMR times your activity level). Once both of those are determined - deduct 500 calories off and go from there.
So, if her BMR is 1600 and her TDEE is 2400, she needs to be eating around 1900-2000 NET calories.
Has she been eating back her exercise calories? If not, I would give that a shot too.
Creating too large of a calorie deficit often causes a slow down or even stall in weight loss. I know that it would seem you could do it and lose faster, but it doesn't happen that way. Our bodies NEED fuel in order to function properly. Not functioning properly will result in little to no weight loss.0 -
I would have her checked for diabetes, thyroid issues, and PCOS. PCOS is caused by insulin resistance. She would need an insulin glucose tolerance test to test her insulin response. High levels of insulin make weight loss almost impossible. I have PCOS (but not diabetes) and take a diabetes drug, Metformin, to control my insulin levels. The medication makes weight loss possible (still not easy, but possible). I also have Hashimoto's thyroiditis which was working against me.
I agree, PCOS makes weight loss almost impossible. And the odds of having it as a women are staggering, it is something like 2/5 women have it, and most don't know.
It was blatantly obvious for me from the time I was 14. Most women with PCOS have ovulation issues, and most of those start before the weight gain. I guess those women wouldn't necessarily know they have PCOS though - they likely don't seek out a Dr until they try to have children.
I have PCOS and it has been a challenge every step of the way but have gotten 52 lbs off so far...it's not impossible. I would definitely get her to a doctor, AND get her to have her own account on here where she can track every single crumb that goes into her mouth, it's amazing the things we put in our mouths without thinking...it adds up quickly!!! Best of luck to you both!0 -
Okay......SHE (is me)!!!!!!! Let's get all my thoughts out there! Am I cheating?? No, I have been very truthful in my recording!! I have now for one week added daily exercise and tommorow I my "weigh-in" so we will see! Zero results?? No there have been some! As much as I like or as much as I know I can lose!? NO...4yrs ago i lost 96pounds! Extreme (biggest loser type exercise multiple times a day)! It was a competition! (I won the game and it was over-went back to my ways)! Now at 34 I want a lifestyle change!!!! Not for the "game" so that is why irbid slower to come off! I think! I did accually eat around 1000 calories a day then! I'm making it a healthy calorie intake now, which is why I'm more frustrated it is slow coming off! I Do have a dr appt set up so that is good! My water intake is not the best and I drink diet coke like nothing! Now this last week one diet coke a day! So...will see why tommorow brings! Anyone wanting to be a friend add me! extra support and ideas are welcome!!
Very glad to hear from you. Not that we don't want to talk to your husband, it's just easier to talk to you yourself. My husband has this problem-- he has recently started eating healthy and exercising. In the past he did HCG and he got it in his head that "normal" is 1 lb per day loss. So when he only lost 6 lbs in 3 weeks he thought he was doing something wrong, when actually, he's doing everything right. It's ok if your progress is slower than when you ate a VLCD. Try to relax and not get frustrated by the slower progress. Do you mind sharing how much you've lost? (and I haven't checked but is your diary viewable?) 0 -
Hey, you posted while I was typing my reply. I'm so glad to see that you are on here!! Diet coke...it really should not be allowed to have the word "diet" in it...It doesn't have the calories, but it's just as bad, if not worse than regular coke. Also, another reason why you are not losing as fast as you want is you've done this before and gained it back. Every time you do that to your body it makes it harder the next time...Stick with it, you WILL get there, and make the change forever so that there isn't a next time that is even harder. Best of luck...you CAN do this 0
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Okay......SHE (is me)!!!!!!! Let's get all my thoughts out there! Am I cheating?? No, I have been very truthful in my recording!! I have now for one week added daily exercise and tommorow I my "weigh-in" so we will see! Zero results?? No there have been some! As much as I like or as much as I know I can lose!? NO...4yrs ago i lost 96pounds! Extreme (biggest loser type exercise multiple times a day)! It was a competition! (I won the game and it was over-went back to my ways)! Now at 34 I want a lifestyle change!!!! Not for the "game" so that is why irbid slower to come off! I think! I did accually eat around 1000 calories a day then! I'm making it a healthy calorie intake now, which is why I'm more frustrated it is slow coming off! I Do have a dr appt set up so that is good! My water intake is not the best and I drink diet coke like nothing! Now this last week one diet coke a day! So...will see why tommorow brings! Anyone wanting to be a friend add me! extra support and ideas are welcome!!
Making a complete lifestyle change can make weight come off slower just because you are doing it a way that you will be able to live with forever instead of starving yourself to lose weight. Get more water and get rid of that 1 diet coke a day!! Sugar substitutes do not help with weight loss at all. Start eliminating processed foods and you will definitely see a bigger difference in your weight loss (but don't expect it to just fall off like before!). You can do it, it will just take patience (easier said than done, I know!) Good luck! :drinker:0 -
Okay......SHE (is me)!!!!!!! Let's get all my thoughts out there! Am I cheating?? No, I have been very truthful in my recording!! I have now for one week added daily exercise and tommorow I my "weigh-in" so we will see! Zero results?? No there have been some! As much as I like or as much as I know I can lose!? NO...4yrs ago i lost 96pounds! Extreme (biggest loser type exercise multiple times a day)! It was a competition! (I won the game and it was over-went back to my ways)! Now at 34 I want a lifestyle change!!!! Not for the "game" so that is why irbid slower to come off! I think! I did accually eat around 1000 calories a day then! I'm making it a healthy calorie intake now, which is why I'm more frustrated it is slow coming off! I Do have a dr appt set up so that is good! My water intake is not the best and I drink diet coke like nothing! Now this last week one diet coke a day! So...will see why tommorow brings! Anyone wanting to be a friend add me! extra support and ideas are welcome!!
I certainly will not discount your experience! My mother is like this. She had no problems losing until she hit 40 (older than you, but still), then it seemed like nothing would work. Years of chronic undereating (my mother ate the wrong food, not too much food) and yo-yo dieting had kind of made her metabolism strange. I would certainly go to see a doctor. And other than that, I would:
1. Keep with a steady programme, whatever it is. Make note of how you feel and the outcome, and make changes slowly and methodically. Don't be tempted to change your diet every week (...vegan one week, atkins week 2, 17 day diet week 3, cabbage soup diet week 4) trying to "make" the weight come off.
2. Do NOT undereat in frustration. It will just make things worse. Eat enough! Women are more efficient than men...with less food, we hang onto life and "endure" with fewer calories.
You can do this. Just be patient AND smart.0 -
I agree with the comments about PCOS -- get checked for that.
If you are pre-diabetic or type II and you have PCOS it is almost impossible to lose weight.
I had both.....0 -
Hey, you posted while I was typing my reply. I'm so glad to see that you are on here!! Diet coke...it really should not be allowed to have the word "diet" in it...It doesn't have the calories, but it's just as bad, if not worse than regular coke.
Not true. Every study done on the so-called 'bad' chemicals in diet soft drink have shown it's perfectly safe and does not cause weight gain/sugar cravings ect.
And drinking something that is 161calories (for a can in Australia) vs something that has no calories. No, nowhere NEAR as bad.
If you open your diary you'll get much better, specified advice from people on here.0
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