6'2, 250lb fiance wants to only eat 1500 calories... help me

His health is his responsibility. How is he supposed to learn anything long term if you do everything for him?

I agree with DZ Rogers about him taking responsibility for his own weight loss. I don't think 1500 calories is going to kill him but you may want to tell him if he eat way under what he should be eating, it can actually cause your bodies metabolism to hold on to the fat he has. Also, if he loses weight so rapidly he may risk losing a lot of muscle along with it. Good luck.

I count for him because I make all his meals. I stay at home with our daughter, so I make the meals. It is easier to measure and notate as I cook. I don't mind doing it, really.

I do this as well because I am the only one that cooks out of the two of us..( I work alot though).plus I cook everything from scratch....Alot of people don't really understand why women spoil their hubbies like that....but I do because he deserves it:) I would just make sure he's getting enough nutrients, but 1500 cals seems okay to me. If he's starving then make something satisfying, but HEALTHY and low cal. Hope this helped a little.

I'm at home and I do the cooking (from scratch most of the time), but my husband still counts his own calories. I just tell him what I made. If it's a complicated recipe I create a listing for it. It is up to him to decide how many servings he wants of it. He goes to work and smacks on God knows what. He's accountable for it. My husband has lost over 20lbs. and counting his calories has become an automatic thing for him.

It's not a question of "spoiling" your husband or not. It's a question of personal responsibility.

I'm 6'2 " 273 Lbs and I eat 1500 a day . I cant seem to eat at any more I try but it rarely happens . Been doing it for almost 4 months and Im still here

I count for him because I make all his meals. I stay at home with our daughter, so I make the meals. It is easier to measure and notate as I cook. I don't mind doing it, really.

I do this as well because I am the only one that cooks out of the two of us..( I work alot though).plus I cook everything from scratch....Alot of people don't really understand why women spoil their hubbies like that....but I do because he deserves it:) I would just make sure he's getting enough nutrients, but 1500 cals seems okay to me. If he's starving then make something satisfying, but HEALTHY and low cal. Hope this helped a little.

My 2 cents here:

1) 1500 cal is not necessarily wrong. I am at 6' 1" and my cals is 1880, and will probably be in the low 1700's once I get to my ideal weight.

2) Don't lie to your husband, feeding him more secretely. I would be really mad if my wife did that.

3) Let him count his own calories.
My wife also cooks dinner for me, but I ask her for the ingredients in the recipe, and then I can figure out calories per portion, etc.
My wife spoils me in other ways, but I am in control of what I eat.
If you try to count the calories, you will need to be asking him for what he ate during the day, etc; that would not make sense.
Much better if he counts, so that he knows ahead of time (before eating) how large a portion he should eat, etc.

It's a difficult situation. I can undestand that you do not want him to weaken.
Why don't you try to suggest to go to a nutritionist?
He will surely suggest a different calories amount.

Another way you can try to take action is making him light food. There are a lot of recipes on the internet.
Without sauces, mayonnese and other junk ingredients, you can cook more healthy food in 1500 calories.

Anyway, if he feels weak, he will surely add some calories by himself. I don't suggest you to do it lying at him.
It's not a good idea for your relationship.

Yes. He is responsible for his own weight. Tell him to do it himself. I guessing that if he doesn't lose the weight he's going to blame you. I wouldn't stand for that and neither should you.

Hey I'll tell you I am 283 pounds right now and MFP calculated 1730 for me to lose 2 pounds per week. What does his calculation say? I'll bet it's going to be close to that with him being 30 pounds lighter... Don't worry. If it's too low, his body will tell him.

Wow at all the self righteous people!! I don't believe she was asking for relationship advice!

Anyways, I am about 5'10" 240 and a pretty big guy that should drop about 30lbs.....I often end up around 1500 calories and almost always under 2000. I make sure to keep my carbs below 200, and eat high protein meals (ie:tilapia, chicken, turkey meat, etc). People take this MFP tracker way too serious, and while I think it's a great thing I believe it's more for people who are just getting into shape and learning nutrition. If you are eating too little and slowing your metabolism you will feel lethargic and overall not well, so eating too little is clearly bad. You still want to put your body into a deficit though, so while I only eat 1500-2000 calories a day and burn off whatever I do exercising my body is metabolizing fat for energy. If he feels any different than eat a bit more, I think a similar meal plan to mine would be ideal for him.

Good luck and KUDOS for being an awesome wife!

my husband is 6 foot 2 and was 275 in december. he put himself on a 1500 calorie a day diet, and has actually done a pretty dang good job sticking to it. he is now at 258 as of yesterday morning, and he is very proud of himself. i do not see a change in his energy, and he says he actually feels better now that he has cut all the greasy, fried, fattening food from his daily diet. he is eating mostly raw foods, and taking a "diet" meal to work each day for lunch. he even has a smart ones treat each night after dinner. he definatley does not feel deprived! i feel like its his body, and 1500 calories a day is not dangerous, so, if thats what he wants to do, more power to him. to each thier own i guess!