is Over 30 high risk???
tinalatina
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So...im throwing this out there! if anyone gets offended im sorry but this woman at my work really pissed me off!
We were all sitting at the table having lunch chit chat and the subject with having kids came up. She mentioned in a very obnoxious tone of voice that all women in their 30's are now considered HIGH RISK for pregnancy. FYI - I am 30! I am planning on having another kid in a couple of years and she knows this.
Then she proceeds to tell me that I should have them before its too late! (Well im sorry I cant have one now because babies are expensive and we are waiting a couple of years.) So apprently my baby might problems like spinobifia "Her Words" This woman is driving me nuts!!!
Can anyone tell me if this really is true or not? I know so many career women like me who have waited till after 30. I already had one at 20 but now that I'm remarried we want another child.
Thanks
We were all sitting at the table having lunch chit chat and the subject with having kids came up. She mentioned in a very obnoxious tone of voice that all women in their 30's are now considered HIGH RISK for pregnancy. FYI - I am 30! I am planning on having another kid in a couple of years and she knows this.
Then she proceeds to tell me that I should have them before its too late! (Well im sorry I cant have one now because babies are expensive and we are waiting a couple of years.) So apprently my baby might problems like spinobifia "Her Words" This woman is driving me nuts!!!
Can anyone tell me if this really is true or not? I know so many career women like me who have waited till after 30. I already had one at 20 but now that I'm remarried we want another child.
Thanks
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Finally then, after potential parents have weighed the age factor in terms of conceiving and carrying a pregnancy to term, they may be comforted to know that a child born to older parents does have advantages. In some studies that have controlled for social factors and parity, such children do better at school than those of very young parents.12,13 In the demanding task of raising children, older parents may be less resilient than younger ones, but their experience and knowledge are almost bound to be greater, their economic situation better, and child rearing more affordable. Biologic disadvantage is to a degree balanced by social advantage.
This is from an study by the National Institute of Health.
The risks of having children in later life
There is some biological difficulties with older mothers - but they normally occur around 40 not 30.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1071137/0 -
Thanks Lynn!0
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My mom was 30 when she had me and I'm awesome. So don't worry about it.0
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I am a midwife and she does speak some truth unfortunatly. We do class women over 35 as a high risk group as they are at risk of more problems BUT we class lots of groups as high risk...BMI over 30, smokers, drug takers, diabetics, teenage mothers etc. so it does not mean you will have problems. The amount of women over 30 having babies these days is increasing and in the majority of cases everything is fine! Don't let her comments upset you, it is much more important you are in a position financially and mentally to have a baby and they are being bought into a wanted loving enviroment than your age. Good luck with your future pregnancy!0
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She probably is sexually frustrated. LOL0
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Oh good god, now only women in their 20's are allowed to have babies???? :huh: I didn't know 30's was old!!! Hmph. *hobbles off to my walking chair to do some knitting* LOLOL0
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Generally over age 35 has higher complications, but it doesn't necessarily mean that on your 35 birthday, everything is going to hit the fan. Of course the younger you are the lower the risks are. Ideally, the body is best to bare babies in the teens, that doesn't one should.
I wouldn't too much about it. I know when I hit 29, people started coming out of the wood work about how I better get on to babies. I had mine at 31 and 34. They healthy little kids.0 -
After age 30 there is an increased risk of your child having Down's Syndrome. There may be other risks that go up as well with age, but increased risk does not mean high risk. It just means it's higher than it was.0
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I thought over 35 was classified as higher risk...I had my 2 at 32 and 34 and they're both fine - naughty but fine.
Thinking about it my mum was 30 when she had me (which back in the 70s was geriatric, she was by far the oldest mother at the school gate!), and I'm disgustingly healthy.0 -
Personally I think that lady is crazy....age in my book has no bearing....I know a girl who is 25 baby born with cleft pallet , I know a mom who is 24 had three miscarriages AFTER having a baby, and now she just gave birth to a baby boy, I know a me, who had 2 kids in my twentys, remarried and he is 10 years older, 42 and i was 32 and had NO problems....except...I was FAT, so that gave me issues with joint, back and pelvis pain.......My husbands mom thought she was going thru menopause AT 50, when she gave birth to him.....My friend just had a HEALTHY baby boy at age 45.....they can tell ya what they want, but not trying to get all churchy on ya, but God has a plan, and if babies after 30 is what you want....all you have is faith that the baby will be healthy AND even if it isnt, SHE wouldnt be right.....lots of things cause birth defects......NOT JUST AGE! So have at it, have your babies, make your money, and tell her to quit reading books, internet, or scaring a young women!0
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So...im throwing this out there! if anyone gets offended im sorry but this woman at my work really pissed me off!
We were all sitting at the table having lunch chit chat and the subject with having kids came up. She mentioned in a very obnoxious tone of voice that all women in their 30's are now considered HIGH RISK for pregnancy. FYI - I am 30!
what? no way! judging by your picture I would have thought early 20's!
and I have met other women in their late 30's early 40's that have had kids no problems.0 -
Generally I've read the risks are higher the older a woman gets.. but 30? I don't think there will be any problems. My mother had me at age 38 and I turned out fine.0
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Logic tells me that the healthier you are, the better and easier pregnancy you're going to have. Age is relative.0
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It's always nice when co-workers give out medical advice for free. Otherwise we might need to see doctors and pay for it. That would just suck.0
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I had my third child when I was 34. Don't worry about what this woman said. Just keep yourself active and eating healthy and when the time is right, you body will do fine.0
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I am a midwife and she does speak some truth unfortunatly. We do class women over 35 as a high risk group as they are at risk of more problems BUT we class lots of groups as high risk...BMI over 30, smokers, drug takers, diabetics, teenage mothers etc. so it does not mean you will have problems. The amount of women over 30 having babies these days is increasing and in the majority of cases everything is fine! Don't let her comments upset you, it is much more important you are in a position financially and mentally to have a baby and they are being bought into a wanted loving enviroment than your age. Good luck with your future pregnancy!
Thank you for that reassuring info.....glad im working on being healthy too!0 -
Oh good god, now only women in their 20's are allowed to have babies???? :huh: I didn't know 30's was old!!! Hmph. *hobbles off to my walking chair to do some knitting* LOLOL
Did I forget to tell you she was 16 when she had her first of 5!?0 -
So...im throwing this out there! if anyone gets offended im sorry but this woman at my work really pissed me off!
We were all sitting at the table having lunch chit chat and the subject with having kids came up. She mentioned in a very obnoxious tone of voice that all women in their 30's are now considered HIGH RISK for pregnancy. FYI - I am 30!
what? no way! judging by your picture I would have thought early 20's!
and I have met other women in their late 30's early 40's that have had kids no problems.
haha yes 30! thank you
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My husband and I are not sure we want kids. Right now our dogs are kids but we agree that when I am 30 we will decide what we want. 30 is not too old. I have experenced horrible comments from my family and the older generation about my choices. They say that I am "selfish". If we want to make sure we are happy and can provide for a child then I guess we are!0
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My husband and I are not sure we want kids. Right now our dogs are kids but we agree that when I am 30 we will decide what we want. 30 is not too old. I have experenced horrible comments from my family and the older generation about my choices. They say that I am "selfish". If we want to make sure we are happy and can provide for a child then I guess we are!
Lol, selfish. As if people are somehow obligated to breed within a specific time frame, or reproduce at all for that matter. People are strange.0 -
My mom was 30 when she had me and 32 when she had my little bro. We are both perfectly fine. Even better, we are more than perfectly fine, we are awesome. My little brother has a gifted IQ and I'm, well, we'll say "above average" (not that it has to do with my mom's age, but you get the point). It is true that the older one gets, there is an increased risk for genetic defects to come into play..... but it's NOT 30!!!!! That woman is crazy!!! Your 30's are the perfect time for kids!0
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My husband and I are not sure we want kids. Right now our dogs are kids but we agree that when I am 30 we will decide what we want. 30 is not too old. I have experenced horrible comments from my family and the older generation about my choices. They say that I am "selfish". If we want to make sure we are happy and can provide for a child then I guess we are!
People that have kids for the sake of having kids when they can't care for them are selfish.... because they had kids because THEY wanted them. Not having them is less selfish because you are thinking about their well being by not having them. I don't want kids either and I wish people would just mind their own business. Who cares what I want or don't want.0 -
It's always nice when co-workers give out medical advice for free. Otherwise we might need to see doctors and pay for it. That would just suck.
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This. I also have a lot of friends that apparently received their medical degree overnight, online even.0 -
My husband and I are not sure we want kids. Right now our dogs are kids but we agree that when I am 30 we will decide what we want. 30 is not too old. I have experenced horrible comments from my family and the older generation about my choices. They say that I am "selfish". If we want to make sure we are happy and can provide for a child then I guess we are!
People that have kids for the sake of having kids when they can't care for them are selfish.... because they had kids because THEY wanted them. Not having them is less selfish because you are thinking about their well being by not having them. I don't want kids either and I wish people would just mind their own business. Who cares what I want or don't want.
Bump!!!
I agree 100% you are not selfish for choosing to wait! Why can people respect the fact that you want to wait for whatever reason it be. Especially your own family...hang in there hun and stay true to your convictions!0 -
My husband and I are not sure we want kids. Right now our dogs are kids but we agree that when I am 30 we will decide what we want. 30 is not too old. I have experenced horrible comments from my family and the older generation about my choices. They say that I am "selfish". If we want to make sure we are happy and can provide for a child then I guess we are!
People that have kids for the sake of having kids when they can't care for them are selfish.... because they had kids because THEY wanted them. Not having them is less selfish because you are thinking about their well being by not having them. I don't want kids either and I wish people would just mind their own business. Who cares what I want or don't want.
Right!
We love kids but we are not sure we ever want one of our own. It is nice to babysit then send them off. The freedom of not having kids is AWESOME! I like being able to do what I want when I want. Dogs are much cheaper, I think I might stick with them. Whats the worse that can happen? When we are in our 30's or 40's and we want kids and cant... holy schizballs theres this thing called adoption. 0 -
Techically "advanced maternal age" doesn't begin til 35. I was AMA for my 2nd pregnancy, nice big sticker on my chart. LMAO
Your coworker sounds like an annoying know it all...but better yet, she doesn't KNOW anything.0 -
Bull****. At 35 they start doing more blood tests because the odds of this that and the other thing being a problem are higher. I had those tests during my last pregnancy, at the advanced age of 37, and was told by the lab that I had the results of a 27 year old.
But don't trust me just because you read it on the internet - check www.whattoexpect.com, webmd.com, or ask your doctor.0 -
After age 30 there is an increased risk of your child having Down's Syndrome. There may be other risks that go up as well with age, but increased risk does not mean high risk. It just means it's higher than it was.
"Down syndrome affects about 1 in every 800 babies born, with a lower risk in younger women and a higher risk in older women. At age 30, for example, a woman has less than a 1 in 1,000 chance of conceiving a child with DS. Those odds increase to 1 in 400 by age 35. By 42, it jumps to about 1 in 60."
http://www.babymed.com/tools/down-syndrome-risk-calculator
Doing the math...between the ages of 30 and 35, the odds of downs increase from 0.1% to 0.25%. You are 3x as likely to have your car stolen than to have a baby with Downs.0 -
I have 3 children--my oldest was born when I was 33 and my twins were born when I was 37. All 3 are healthy and happy. My pregnancies went well and were textbook. I was fine. The kids were fine....still are.0
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It's always nice when co-workers give out medical advice for free. Otherwise we might need to see doctors and pay for it. That would just suck.
This made me laugh... good one and very nicely said too..0
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