sad, ashamed and mortified

charlee_a
charlee_a Posts: 11
edited November 8 in Introduce Yourself
Well, ive bit the bullet and realised that I need to get a grip and lose weight to be happy and healthy for me, my partner and my 2 children.

Just weighed myself and I am mortified. Cannot beileve how much I have let myself go and how disgusting I look! When I was younger I was so outgoing, reasonably confident but now Im so ashamed!

Heres to a new me though, so if anyone wants a 'friend' to support each other then please add me xx
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  • sunshine91479
    sunshine91479 Posts: 15 Member
    You can get it under control. It's all about the support and the want to do it. Sounds to me like you want it bad enough. At least that is what my trainer told me. If you want it bad enough you will have it. Good luck
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    I felt the EXACT same way in December of 2010.

    Remember that you are in this for the long haul. Take your time and never forget this feeling. Let it motivate you to keep going.

    My #1 rule to newbies is this:

    Learn to forgive yourself but never forget why you are doing this.

    You will slip up. You will make mistakes. Your weight will fluctuate. Just keep going and you will find success.

    *hugs*
  • charlee_a
    charlee_a Posts: 11
    Than you so much!

    I am 100% determined to do this and I WILL do this. Im getting married next year so thats my goal - I will not be a fat bride xx
  • timeformetofly
    timeformetofly Posts: 64 Member
    you can do it.. once you start losing it will keep you going.. it is the getting started that is hard.. good luck.....
  • runnercheryl
    runnercheryl Posts: 1,314 Member
    Than you so much!

    I am 100% determined to do this and I WILL do this. Im getting married next year so thats my goal - I will not be a fat bride xx

    Great stuff! When are you getting married? Mine's 1st June 2013.
  • stephcookdolly
    stephcookdolly Posts: 1
    Hi - I came on here about 3 days ago - and can say it is very very exciting seeing the weight dropping off! Literally in 3 days - so exciting - good to have you on board!
  • heidi2004
    heidi2004 Posts: 35 Member
    I'm in the same boat, last week i had the rude awakening of the scale!! i hate that thing!!!! her we go once again!!!
  • mmapags
    mmapags Posts: 8,934 Member
    You can't change the past. You can only learn from it and go forward in a better way. A journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step. You have take that step! Bravo!!
  • 72MonteCarla
    72MonteCarla Posts: 169 Member
    I think that's how a lot of us found ourselves here - myself included. But you will love the positive attitude and encouragement of the community here on MFP. I had over 80 pounds to lose when I started just over three weeks ago. I am on track to lose 10 pounds in my first month, and I've lost one pant size and two jacket sizes already! Feel free to add me, I'd love to take this journey with you. WE CAN DO THIS!!!!
  • myfourcats
    myfourcats Posts: 13 Member
    :wink: I would love to add you as my friend. We are all in this together!! Dont be so down on yourself!! You are doing it now that whats matters!! I left my weight since my kids came home (they are adopted) and had 4 miscarriages before them so all I kept getting was weight gain and dissappointment. But this year is for me!! I have only lost 10 pounds so far, it is coming off slowly but that is a good thing!! Be positive!! You will get there!! I have a friend who just hit 50 pounds weight loss!! We can do this together!!! hang in there!!!
  • budgetqueen79
    budgetqueen79 Posts: 310 Member
    You can do it!
  • Debbe2
    Debbe2 Posts: 2,071 Member
    You can and will succeed and joining mfp is a tremendous first step! Congratulations and good luck!!!
  • Bexx435
    Bexx435 Posts: 83 Member
    I felt the EXACT same way in December of 2010.

    Remember that you are in this for the long haul. Take your time and never forget this feeling. Let it motivate you to keep going.

    My #1 rule to newbies is this:

    Learn to forgive yourself but never forget why you are doing this.

    You will slip up. You will make mistakes. Your weight will fluctuate. Just keep going and you will find success.

    *hugs*

    True stuff. So congrats on taking your first step to a healthier you! You'll find a lot support here on MFP and before you know it you'll be well on your way to your goals!!!
  • stephaniethomas80
    stephaniethomas80 Posts: 190 Member
    Where there is a WILL there is always a WAY :happy:
  • jnsjns
    jnsjns Posts: 1 Member
    We have all been there. I lost 50 lbs without this tool - just trying to track calories and nutrients on my own using Joel Furhman's "Eat to Live." Now I am trying to get rid of the last 10 pounds with proper nutrition and excercise - using this tool will make it much easier. It helps keep you honest and gives you the information you need to reach your goals. You can do it. Just get started with having the right foods on hand and excercise plans.
  • JeSuisPrest
    JeSuisPrest Posts: 2,005 Member
    Now let go of those feelings. THAT is the old you! Welcome to the new you! You are off to a great start! MFP is valuable tool!!
  • cameillev
    cameillev Posts: 12
    This is just your starting place! I think everyone feels this way at some point. It's hard when we make time for everyone else but ourselves but you took the first stop and now you are on your way to a healthy you!
  • queenlaureen
    queenlaureen Posts: 21 Member
    Take a look at the "success stories" on this website and see how much change can happen in 6 months. You can do this! You WILL do this! For you, your partner and your children!
  • Pollyfleming
    Pollyfleming Posts: 147 Member
    You CAN make a change! There's lots of support and kindness here!
  • myfourcats
    myfourcats Posts: 13 Member
    To charlee-A

    Dont be so hard on yourself!! We all have to find a starting point and you did it!!Congratulations!! I understand were you are coming from. I have gained and gained weight, throughout my whole marriage. Had for miscarriages and all I got was more and more weight on!! Now I have two beautiful adopted children and now it is my turn, I only lost 10 pounds so far but that is ok, because it takes time to come off and I know that it will!!! I would love to be friends with you!!! Dont give up!!!

    My four cats!!
  • yelleroseuk
    yelleroseuk Posts: 4
    hi i am ..yella
    i was mortified to find out my true weight saturday, i have 2 grown up boys and i am so proud of them, i feel like they cannot be proud of me like i look and i hate myself at the moment so much i cry, but hey no-one put the food in my mouth did they
    so here we are myfitnesspal . I joined on thursday so only been 3 days, finding out lots about the food calories i have been eating and am shocked.
    here is to a new me in 2012
    good luck to you , i would like a buddy As well X
  • sc1572
    sc1572 Posts: 2,309 Member
    welcome! you've taken the right step and picked the right place. :)
  • cntrygrl360
    cntrygrl360 Posts: 1
    none of us would be here if we felt we were perfect. we are all here for the same reason. one day at a time......
  • Scorpiotwinkle
    Scorpiotwinkle Posts: 69
    If you want it you will do it I am sure! Count the days (yes DAYS) until your wedding day. Print off one sheet per day that counts the days down "55 days to go" etc.etc. and rip one off each morning I have done this and the days are really zooming by. It really helps me to focus, which I have never been able to do before - and there have been a lot of "befores"! Go for it, you are in the right place x
  • myfourcats
    myfourcats Posts: 13 Member
    Hi Yella!!

    I would love to be friends with you!! I just started december 2011. only lost 10 pounds so far but that is ok.!!! I am not computer savy so If you could friend me my name is Debby and I am under my four cats!!!
  • runbyme
    runbyme Posts: 522 Member
    You have that positive attitude that will take you a long way! You have total control now! We'll all help you! Good luck with your weight loss and fitness goals! You're gonna be a knock out at your wedding!
  • Cris725
    Cris725 Posts: 81
    I know EXACTLY how you feel. I had the realization on jan 1st. And since then, I've lost 11 pounds. You can do it! Baby steps. My first baby step was NO MORE SODA. I replaced it with water and lost 8 pounds in the first 12 days. I was shocked. Plus, the water made me eat less because I wasnt hungry all the time.

    Lets be real. You're gonna have a few tough days, but you can do it. Dont be ashamed here. We're all in the same boat.
  • Nana_Booboo
    Nana_Booboo Posts: 501 Member
    I will let you decide if you want me as a friend or not

    Hi, I'm Barbra (my friends call me Barbi)

    I believe in eating all or most of your calories burnt by exercise to keep your weight loss steady and fuel your body for the exercise you are doing.

    I believe you have to eat the calories MFP tells you too which is on your diary as "my goal"

    I believe your "net" should never go under 1200

    I will not tell you your doing a good job on your diary if you're under your "net" calories

    I will also not comment if your diary is not public

    I WILL be a great support if you are eating right, exercising, and doing it RIGHT without going hungry.

    because it works

    Welcome. :flowerforyou:
  • may18052007
    may18052007 Posts: 16
    You have all the help, inspiration and keep-on-going mindset for you to change. This website is here to help you to change as and when you want. The tables are of great help. I have only been here for three weeks BUT the one change that helped me is to pick the date a week before you will begin, then to start to change your ways. :noway:

    I placed all that I ate in the food section and so for the exercise. I can see anytime and this is a great way to keep me on track when I feel a bit 'down', and then I changed my diet and exercise routine. You'll be amazed at what you can do.!!!!

    There are friends that are here to help you and keep your spirits up.

    "Just take the plunge and enjoy the swim" :happy:
  • Faye_Anderson
    Faye_Anderson Posts: 1,495 Member
    You will find that there are many helpful, supportive people on here :flowerforyou:
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