Anyone NOT with an ED want to be friends?

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  • HonkyTonks
    HonkyTonks Posts: 1,193 Member
    Encouraging others to do this is just wrong. If people want to do it that's up to them, but not on a website that is here to promote healthy living.

    People's lives get destroyed by ED's and encouraging others to fast is just ignorant, selfish and dangerous.

    Good for you. I'll send you a req.

    I encourage others to fast because it is healthy and a perfectly legitimate way to lose weight. It has nothing to do with eating disorders.

    I don't mean to be rude, but I would say you are the one who is ignorant (on this particular topic).
  • nrcarter81
    nrcarter81 Posts: 10
    You are ignoring the fact that the OP stated that they were encouraging each other to fast and become 85lbs?

    I wouldn't say that is a particularly healthy weight, would you?
  • HonkyTonks
    HonkyTonks Posts: 1,193 Member
    You are ignoring the fact that the OP stated that they were encouraging each other to fast and become 85lbs?

    I wouldn't say that is a particularly healthy weight, would you?

    True, that's not healthy, I was more referring to the "encouraging others to fast is just ignorant, selfish and dangerous." bit. If that's just in reference to people with eating disorders, that's fair enough.
  • Alida1985
    Alida1985 Posts: 4
    85 pounds isn't healthy unless you are just a very small person...but fasting doesn't always mean an eating disorder. The term seemed scary and incorrect and unhealthy to me too for a long time, but I have since learned that that isn't correct either. Intermittent fasting is not unhealthy and actually does the opposite of storing fat. It's not for everyone an I am typically to weak to do it regularly myself--but respect the people who do it and are able to get to their goals more quickly through the discipline. Brad Pilon's written about it ("Eat Stop Eat") and he's anything but starving and he looks amazing. Not eating at all is one thing...but fasting correctly is another. Just make sure you're doing your research before you make assumptions that what is generally accepted by the overweight population is correct. I have made that mistake myself and have had to eat my words.
  • chrisdavey
    chrisdavey Posts: 9,834 Member
    You are ignoring the fact that the OP stated that they were encouraging each other to fast and become 85lbs?

    I wouldn't say that is a particularly healthy weight, would you?


    That has nothing to do with fasting & everything to do with ridiculous weight goals.

    I don't encourage people to fast as I don't really care what other people want to do but I will definitely back it up with scientific research if clueless people are bashing it.
  • Alida1985
    Alida1985 Posts: 4
    I wonder myself if the 85 pounds was an exaggeration and she just didn't like the sound of fasting.
  • Trilaina
    Trilaina Posts: 61
    Feel free to add me, I'm all about losing the healthy way and being at a healthy weight. :)
  • waterbrghtasdskyy
    waterbrghtasdskyy Posts: 2
    I have been in recovery from bulimia nervosa for the past 2 years, and currently run a pro-recovery/postive fitness blog on tumblr. I am also a resource navigator for the national eating disorder association. If you come across people with severe disorders it's best to stay away, maybe refer them to somethingfishy.com or www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/ (=

    that being said, after putting a halt to my destructive habits and forming a love interest with running i lost 20lbs the right way and was in the best shape of my life training for and running a half marathon! Right after which i found out I was pregnant and am now working on getting rid of the baby weight the right way! (=
  • petewilson69
    petewilson69 Posts: 48
    I'm such an idiot...I couldn't figure out ED to save my soul. :)

    We all want to lose weight quickly but that's not the healthy way to do it. Be friends with the people that support you and motivate you. Because it's not about anyone but YOU. So find the people to support you thok I'm an idiot. What's ED mean . Lolat click with you and your goals.

    That's what it's all about....
  • bjfmade
    bjfmade Posts: 543 Member
    lmao, thought you had too many guy friends with ED (not eating disorder!!!)
  • Dcbear24
    Dcbear24 Posts: 21 Member
    Hey there! No eating disorders here!
    friends?
  • dlyeates
    dlyeates Posts: 875 Member
    While I believe that there are benefits to fasting when done on an intermittent basis I do not believe in using fasting for trying to lose weight.

    I personally don't fast (I like food too much) and my only ED would be overeating (hence my weight issues). Okay, so I don't have an ED. But I believe in doing this in a way that is sustainable and healthy.

    Feel free to add me if you want some positive support!!
  • summalovaable
    summalovaable Posts: 287 Member
    It's my favourite time of year on MFP, a wave of people trying to lose weight who are quite ignorant about the various terms.

    I believe many people have cleared up the difference between "fasting" and "eating disorders".

    Also, some comments here seemed to make people with eating disorders seem like worthless pieces of society following "gimmicks". As someone who still struggles to recover from builimia, I know there is usually a much more serious underlying issue. To say "I want friends without eating disorders" could be similar to saying "I want friends who aren't depressed, and will bring be down"

    This post could have easily been reworded to be much less offensive. A simple, I'm interested in friends who want to lose weight in the old fashioned healthy way would have sufficed.

    With that mini rant over, I wish you the best of luck with your weight loss journey. I also hope you take the time to educate yourself on the many wonders of the weight loss world. :flowerforyou:
  • teamlangston
    teamlangston Posts: 25 Member
    So yes recruiting people and encouraging them to be at seriously low weights is scary, unhealthy and could be deadly. Someone said that maybe she was exaggerating the 85lbs...believe me she is not. I work with eating disorder patients and that is a weight that I see more then I'd like to. When these girls talk about fasting they mean NOTHING by mouth except possibly water or tea for as long as they can go or until their body gives out (becomes too weak) and they have to stop.
    That being said...those of you saying I can't have an ED, I love food too much. I know that most of that was joking and sarcasm, but I wanted to remind that binge eating is also a confirmed eating disorder. For most people who are over weight, obese, or morbidly obese...the weight is a symptom of something else that is going on.

    I have dealt with people from 83-400+ pounds. EDs come in all kinds of packages.

    Just my 2 cents though.
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