DIVORCED WOMEN I NEED YOUR HELP!

I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through, and for the passing of your mother.

From personal experience, I can tell you what helped me is to realize that I'm not alone. There are millions of divorced people out there, and some with similar stories. Talk to people you know who are divorced. Remember you're not alone. And as cliche as this may sound, time really does heal. My husband out of the blue told me he wanted a divorce, and then without warning, left me and our daughters on 08/11/11. He left for work that day and never came home. We weren't having problems or anything like that. He told me he just wasn't happy. I later on found out he was with another woman. I was devastated. I had what I called my breakdown moments. They happened every day in the beginning. But then, slowly but surely, they happened less and less. It's been about 2 1/2 months, and I still occasionally breakdown, but not nearly as often. Also, between work and getting even more involved in my daughters' lives, I'm finding less and less time to feel bad for myself.

As far as letting him go, well, again, that comes in time. I still haven't completely let him go. I still get jealous when I think about the other woman. But honestly, I don't really think about it unless he's coming up to pick up the kids for a visitation, which is only about once a month. He takes them for a few hours normally, and brings them home.

Without my faith, I don't think I would be able to get through this as well as I have. I also truly believe that experiences like this only makes us stronger in the end. I also recommend trying to find a support group in your area so that you can get to know other people with experiences similar to yours. I am currently looking for one myself. I took a required children's first class required for my divorce, and I really enjoyed it.

I don't know if what helped me will help you, since everyone's experience is unique, as are the techniques that helped them. I hope that some of it helped you, though.

Just take it one day at a time, or even just one moment at a time. Feel free to add me as a friend.