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HWT2003
HWT2003 Posts: 45 Member
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What do you think is the top three things that make or break a relationship?

What is something that you wish your significant other would let you do for a day?
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  • runnercheryl
    runnercheryl Posts: 1,314 Member
    My top three would be

    - Communication
    - Trust
    - Love (obviously)

    I'm not sure what you mean by your second question,
  • HWT2003
    HWT2003 Posts: 45 Member
    Is it anything that you wish you can do, but cannot becuse of your boyfriend/husband?
  • lyssamichelle
    lyssamichelle Posts: 1,307 Member
    Since my longest relationship was a month..
    I'm guessing there aren't any real triggers to what break them for me.

    But I do know you have nothing with out trust & mutual affection.
  • Uhmanduh
    Uhmanduh Posts: 85 Member
    1. Communication!!!
    2. Trust
    3. LOVE

    Communication is definitely number one and oh so important!!!
  • Nitachi
    Nitachi Posts: 142
    Been in a 3 year long relationship and for me the 3 most important things in a relationship is
    - Love/Passion/Intimacy (They all go together)
    - Respect/Loyalty/Trust
    - Communication
  • NightOwl1
    NightOwl1 Posts: 881 Member
    Everyone else pretty much covered your first question.

    As to your second question, Scarlett Johansson would be nice.
  • premiumchilenita
    premiumchilenita Posts: 600 Member
    -Honesty
    -Trust
    -Love (sex)

    for the second. I would love an evening with Usher :smooched:
  • kunibob
    kunibob Posts: 608 Member
    -Communication
    -Similar sexual needs (or willingness to compromise)
    -Seeing eye to eye on finances (I can't count the number of times I have heard of people breaking up over money)


    For the second question, there's nothing I'd want to do that I couldn't do while married, so I'm all good.
  • amyleehealey
    amyleehealey Posts: 9
    Honesty without a doubt, followed by trust and communication. The three biggest cliché's.
  • Jaxster12
    Jaxster12 Posts: 25 Member
    1.Spontaneous SEX
    2.Dirty SEX
    3.Freaky SEX
  • Shannonigans84
    Shannonigans84 Posts: 693 Member
    Communication
    Pulling your weight with responsibility within the relationship
    Trust
  • Nitachi
    Nitachi Posts: 142
    Communication
    Pulling your weight with responsibility within the relationship
    Trust

    Pulling your weight within the relationship is certainly important...
  • runnercheryl
    runnercheryl Posts: 1,314 Member
    Is it anything that you wish you can do, but cannot becuse of your boyfriend/husband?

    Not at all. :)
  • JE55Y
    JE55Y Posts: 333 Member
    1) love (compassionate, romance, commitment to the relationship)

    2) communication

    3) excitement

    Not sure about the last one... Are you looking for something specific?

    I broke up from a long term relationship because the guys communication skills were bad... He never remembered anything I told him or asked him. He wasn't romantic... Except for when he was on the receiving end of it. He was boring... Wanted to sit around the house all the time.

    Lol... Hence why I gave him his things back in a bin bag :)
  • 623Hernandez
    623Hernandez Posts: 458
    1.Spontaneous SEX
    2.Dirty SEX
    3.Freaky SEX

    lmao True!

    1. Trust
    3. Respect
    2. Communication

    If you trust, respect and communicate with your partner the sex will fallow.
  • EulalieOwona
    EulalieOwona Posts: 16 Member
    For me it would be:

    1. Communication
    2. Totally Different goals in life
    3. Respect + when one partner is trying to change the other to what they want them to be
  • MissGatekeeper
    MissGatekeeper Posts: 48
    1: communication, communication, communication.
    2:Trust, loyalty, respect and all that. To me those are pretty much the same the same.
    3: Caring for eachother and actually liking eachother. I've loved men that I still didn't like. (Sounds weird, but is possible...)

    And.. My SO pretty much lets me do whatever I want.. He's not to keen on me wanting another tattoo, but that's hardly something I could do for just one day. :p
  • GrahamBarwick
    GrahamBarwick Posts: 459
    communication-

    Love-

    The abilty to compromise


    and within all of them there so many components- compassion, respect, patience, passion and the list go's on and on and on
  • lovemydrmartens
    lovemydrmartens Posts: 144 Member
    Intellectual equality ( I know that sounds odd but It really matters to me...)

    LOVE

    laughter ( esp having the same sense of humour...)

    Nobody ever prevents me from doing anything... I may choose not to do certain things out of love.. that is different...
  • GrahamBarwick
    GrahamBarwick Posts: 459
    Intellectual equality ( I know that sounds odd but It really matters to me...)

    LOVE

    laughter ( esp having the same sense of humour...)

    Nobody ever prevents me from doing anything... I may choose not to do certain things out of love.. that is different...

    'LIKE'
  • Bahet
    Bahet Posts: 1,254 Member
    1. Communication - being able to discuss things without yelling. Being able to compromise. Listening and understanding the other's POV all included there.

    2. Companionship - Laughing together, private jokes, intimacy, etc. Hubby is my best friend and confidant.

    3. Trust - I don't want to have to worry that he's with someone else if he's late coming home from work or if he has to go out of town for a meeting. But even beyond that. I trust that when I'm sick or in the middle of tax season he'll help pick up the slack. I trust that he'll contribute as much to our family as I do. I trust that our family is his #1 priority.


    As for the 2nd question there is nothing. He doesn't "let me" do anything and I wouldn't want to do anything that would ever hurt him.
  • Ro0kins_Wedding
    Ro0kins_Wedding Posts: 295
    I agree with everyone else but for me one of the most important ones next to Love and Trust is...

    Compromise!
  • GrahamBarwick
    GrahamBarwick Posts: 459
    I agree with everyone else but for me one of the most important ones next to Love and Trust is...

    Compromise!


    I did mate :smile: something you do on a daily basis, or i do lol
  • bsalis76
    bsalis76 Posts: 31
    One thing that's a certain relationship killer, and that's...

    Contempt

    Some scientist figured that out. True story.
  • kehowe83
    kehowe83 Posts: 79 Member
    I had always thought it would be
    Love (romance, intimacy, passion)
    Communication
    Trust

    But after being with my husband for 7 years, who is the most non romantic person I know (Don't think he even knows the word passion), I have come to realize that success in a relationship means so much more and have a new top 3

    Love - (commitment to each other, respect for the other person, allows the other person to be who they are)
    Communication - (Compromise, limiting passive aggressiveness, ability to discuss the hard topics)
    Trust - (that they will do what is right in the relationship (he is gone a lot on business), Trust that I can count on him when I really need it, trust that when I feel my worst, he will surprise me in ways that will make me love him more)

    There are so much more to include money, values, etc.. but these are the three that pop in my head the most.
    I think understanding your definitions for words are extremely important... especially for expecting happiness in long term relationships
  • GrahamBarwick
    GrahamBarwick Posts: 459
    I had always thought it would be
    Love (romance, intimacy, passion)
    Communication
    Trust

    But after being with my husband for 7 years, who is the most non romantic person I know (Don't think he even knows the word passion), I have come to realize that success in a relationship means so much more and have a new top 3

    Love - (commitment to each other, respect for the other person, allows the other person to be who they are)
    Communication - (Compromise, limiting passive aggressiveness, ability to discuss the hard topics)
    Trust - (that they will do what is right in the relationship (he is gone a lot on business), Trust that I can count on him when I really need it, trust that when I feel my worst, he will surprise me in ways that will make me love him more)

    There are so much more to include money, values, etc.. but these are the three that pop in my head the most.
    I think understanding your definitions for words are extremely important... especially for expecting happiness in long term relationships

    this is good and very well put.

    I think that a lot of people dont see the romantic side of a long term partner after been together for a long time or get to the stage where its taken for granted or not seen anymore( not saying this in your case at all hun)

    I like to buy flowers and go to fancy places etc etc but i do see that for me romantic isn't always about that. I like to take the pressure of my fiance by trying to remember to do my bit in the house, make her little boy's dinners for school etc. I see that in its own right as been more helpful than been romantic, although i do like time on our own and to cook for her and send the odd bunch of flowers.

    For me Charlotte doesn't need to buy anything for me to be romantic, she just has to look at me in a certain way or whisper she 'missed me today' That is the kind of thing i love and costs nothing :heart:
  • Bahet
    Bahet Posts: 1,254 Member
    Romance after years of being together is a lot different than romance of a new relationship. For a new relationship it means flowers, nice dinners out, long relaxing evenings in front of the fire, etc. After 22 years together romance is things like when I get up with DH every day and pack his lunch or set up coffee the night before on the weekend. It's the little things you do to make the other person smile. Oh sure the occasional flowers and dinner for 2 is nice but if it was every week it would cause more problems than it would fix because of the expense.
  • kehowe83
    kehowe83 Posts: 79 Member
    I had always thought it would be
    Love (romance, intimacy, passion)
    Communication
    Trust

    But after being with my husband for 7 years, who is the most non romantic person I know (Don't think he even knows the word passion), I have come to realize that success in a relationship means so much more and have a new top 3

    Love - (commitment to each other, respect for the other person, allows the other person to be who they are)
    Communication - (Compromise, limiting passive aggressiveness, ability to discuss the hard topics)
    Trust - (that they will do what is right in the relationship (he is gone a lot on business), Trust that I can count on him when I really need it, trust that when I feel my worst, he will surprise me in ways that will make me love him more)

    There are so much more to include money, values, etc.. but these are the three that pop in my head the most.
    I think understanding your definitions for words are extremely important... especially for expecting happiness in long term relationships

    this is good and very well put.

    I think that a lot of people dont see the romantic side of a long term partner after been together for a long time or get to the stage where its taken for granted or not seen anymore( not saying this in your case at all hun)

    I like to buy flowers and go to fancy places etc etc but i do see that for me romantic isn't always about that. I like to take the pressure of my fiance by trying to remember to do my bit in the house, make her little boy's dinners for school etc. I see that in its own right as been more helpful than been romantic, although i do like time on our own and to cook for her and send the odd bunch of flowers.

    For me Charlotte doesn't need to buy anything for me to be romantic, she just has to look at me in a certain way or whisper she 'missed me today' That is the kind of thing i love and costs nothing :heart:

    yea, we never really had any real passion in our relationship, and that is something I had a tough time letting go of (still always want it), but there is so much more that makes a relationship, you have to ask what would I be losing if I made that my deal breaker?
  • Sh1tsRainbows
    Sh1tsRainbows Posts: 1,227 Member
    Honesty and trust.

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  • GrahamBarwick
    GrahamBarwick Posts: 459
    Romance after years of being together is a lot different than romance of a new relationship. For a new relationship it means flowers, nice dinners out, long relaxing evenings in front of the fire, etc. After 22 years together romance is things like when I get up with DH every day and pack his lunch or set up coffee the night before on the weekend. It's the little things you do to make the other person smile. Oh sure the occasional flowers and dinner for 2 is nice but if it was every week it would cause more problems than it would fix because of the expense.

    spot on

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