I need a reply to this comment I keep getting

just say "let's hope you can keep it off this time,if not i'm sure ben and jerry will welcome you back with open arms!" life's to short to worry about what people think.

Let your friend know you are glad she's found something that works for her and hopefully you can share each other's successes along the way.

You already know for certain your approach to health includes weight loss but also has other important aspects to you such as fitness. Should your friend choose to stay on this path she's only going to get so far and has a high probability of re-gaining the weight back, including the possibility of even more within the next few months. We've all been there....

Rather than having a pissing contest about this, use your reactions and emotions to push you to exercise and make good nutrition choices, which will empower you toward your goal rather than engaging in negative behavior that's likely to drain your energy, possibly even making you want to reach for the carb bag of chips for comfort.

Just focus on your goal and there won't be anything to discuss in 6 months because you're mere presence will state it all....you go girl!!!

Let your body & results be your best comeback!

Shes obviously trying to compete with YOU,..take that into thought ....smile, & keep doing your thing.

If it were my friend I would probably say, "That's great! But are you sure that's really healthy? You have to be careful with extreme diets like that because usually the weight comes back and sometimes twice as much. I'm doing it slowly and healthy and not depriving myself, and I know I will be able to maintain my weight loss. I really am happy for you, but I just want to make sure that you are doing it in asafe and healthy way."

And also agreed about switching your settings so you don't see her FB updates if it really does bother you.

or a really big bat for the friend... which ever..

REPLY TO JazzBar9363

We posted a minute apart about this topic...I like your style.

NIce to know there are other's out there who value decent principles and display good character-possibly while having sore muscles or craving a cookie - anyway nice reply

Congrats on your 11lbs and good luck!

Think of it this way, in a year, when you are all hot and sexy, and she's gained weight back from her "no carb" BS, you can smile at yourself in the mirror and think "I did thi for good, I did this for me, and at least I am skinnier than I was last year instead of big again, like her"

I'm not even on a low carb diet and I saw a big drop the first week. We all know it's mainly water if we've done this before. As an engineer I like to throw math at them. "Oh really, you lost 4 pounds in 2 days. Well you know it's gotta be mainly water because you need to burn 3,600 calories to lose a pound of fat so you would need to burn 14,400 calories above you're calorie intake in 2 days to lose 4 pounds of actual fat."

I'm an accountant and people tend to look at you like you're crazy when you throw numbers their way!

If you are doing it the right way, then the only "comeback" you need will be your ability to keep the weight off come 6 months from now when shes gotten bored of her low carb diet and is putting all the weight back on again.

Just brush it off for now. Be the bigger person.

"Just brush it off for now. Be the bigger person"....in the ultimately long-term, smaller body

Women can be catty like that and human nature doesn't help with the need for instant gratification. I agree just ignore it. Your "come back" will be your lithe and toned hot body a year from now while she's still yo-yo dieting to lose her (now) 20lbs, but will turn into 30, 40 or even 50lbs.

Slow and steady wins the ultimate race of a long healthy life

I have a friend who is super competitive and since I started eating healthier and working out, I guess she had to try and "do better" than me (knowing that while it's coming off slowly, it's still a lot of work).

Yesterday she tells me "oh I just started low carbing again and I've already lost seven pounds! I lost four in the first two days!" I said "oh that's good" and just changed the subject because I found it pretty insensitive to tell someone that, knowing they've been working really hard. Especially when I'm doing it the right way...not by eating string cheese and pepperoni and bunless burgers.

I just know it's going to come up again, especially since today her facebook status was "8 down already!!!" Grrrr. She does low carb at least once a year, loses twenty pounds, loses interest, and gains it all back. I kind of want to remind her of that but don't want to be rude. Any suggestions on how to put her in her place? Hehehe.

I'd just congratulate her on the success she's experiencing and let it go. Different strokes for different folks! The yo-yo diet doesn't work for you, but she doesn't mind it. Let her do her thing and you do yours.

While I think it's insensitive of her to be doing that, take the high road, say 'good for you!' and let it go. This competition is about HER and if you don't play into it, it can't be much of a competition, can it?

I think the best way to reply, if it comes up again, is "I'm glad you found something that works for you. I hope you stay with it this time. I know low carb wouldn't work for me because I don't want to go a lifetime without hamburger buns, watermelon, pasta, pizza, etc....and I know that if I low carb it and don't stick with it, the weight will just come back. so, I'm doing something i believe I can stick with long term."

In related news, I did Atkins in 2005. I lost 17 in the first 3 weeks...and 50 after about 7 months. I gained it all back, plus some, over the next few years because low carb wasn't something I could stick with.

This time around, I just went about learning more about nutrition and eating healthy. This time around, I lost weight slower in the beginning...but it took me the same total time to lose 50 pounds and I am now sitting at 70 pounds down.

In short...you can dump weight quickly doing low carb, but the loss slows up. Just counting calories and eating better, including carbs, weight might not come off as quickly at the beginning...but eventually you will lose just as much as the low carb person, and you will be in better position to stay on the journey and continue losing.

Its your journey. Don't sweat what your friend is doing. She's doing her journey differently...in a way that it would be difficult for you to sustain.

She is "in her place" walking her weight loss journey the way she chooses to. I have learned that each person has to come to the realization that it is a lifestyle change that requires proper use of the tools that work best for their individual body type and life circumstances.

We can never all fit into the same mold. I agree that low carb alone may not be a lasting change, but it may lead to other dietary/exercise changes that will support a healthy lifestyle that can be maintained.

I would just walk "my own journey" with my head held high and avoid the comparisons and competition. You will be physically and emotionally healthier for it.

Say "that's nice, I'm changing my lifestyle so I can get healthy and fit, AND stay that way. I wouldn't want to do the yo-yo thing" And leave it at that

You can only control you, if she bothers and affects you in such a way, delete her as a facebook friend, what she says, the goals that she reaches and how she gloats about them is her business. Your comments and comebacks should only be about your trials, setbacks, and achievements. There is not enough time in the day to worry about others.