Confused! Too skinny? Slim? Room for improvement?

splucy
splucy Posts: 353
edited November 9 in Health and Weight Loss
Okay so I have lost about 10 kilos in total since calorie counting with MFP. WOO!

What is really frustrating me at the moment are the mixed opinions I am getting from people.

Some people are saying that I look too skinny (Most of these people are coworkers) and should put weight on.

Some others are saying that I am looking really good and athletic and should maintain what I have.

My PT and some others are saying that I shouldn't lose too much more but should begin focusing on some more tone.

I am 180cms and weighed in this morning at 60.6kg.

With all of these mixed opinions, it has me wondering if I am sick in the head? Like I am looking in the mirror and seeing room for improvement yet other people see this anorexic stick!?

I stand from the side and look at myself in the mirror and see a slight pudge in the tummy. I see my thighs and see that they could slim down slightly more.

I see SO much improvement in my body and I'm so happy with it :) but one thing I never thought I would have to deal with is the paranoia of looking 'too skinny'. I just can't bloody win!

I only intend on getting to 60kgs. Underweight for my height is below 57. I want to build more muscle and look 'sculpted'

I am just thoroughly confused at the moment :( I'm happy with my weight loss but I'm depressed at the thought of looking skinny. Sometimes I think to myself that I can have a few more treats here and there and exceed my BMR to put on weight but then I am scared that I will regret it and want to lose it. Ugh!! Help!!
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  • jfluchere
    jfluchere Posts: 346 Member
    I think you look fine in your pictures. Other people are weird when normal weight people want to drop a few. I'm sure they are carrying around a few extra pounds and people will always say you look fine the way you are / don't loose any more weight. Level off and maintain now...
  • splucy
    splucy Posts: 353
    Just uploaded a new photo of me from last Saturday incase anyone was wondering what I did look like. I don't think I am 'too skinny'?
  • Pebble321
    Pebble321 Posts: 6,423 Member
    Your pic looks great. 60kg sounds low to me (I'm 164 cm and 70kg) but as long as its in the healthy range, then that sounds ok.
    At this stage it's probably going to be more about building stronger muscles (which will make you look leaner and flatter) rather than losing more kg.
  • splucy
    splucy Posts: 353
    I think you look fine in your pictures. Other people are weird when normal weight people want to drop a few. I'm sure they are carrying around a few extra pounds and people will always say you look fine the way you are / don't loose any more weight. Level off and maintain now...

    Yeah I'm only planning on a tiny bit more but that's only so I can round it off at 60. I'll probably gain more weight as I aim to gain muscle. Blegh!!!
  • lisakyle_11
    lisakyle_11 Posts: 420 Member
    you look fabulous!! seriously. if i were you, i'd focus on maintaining and keeping your muscle (so not losing!).
  • DOElston
    DOElston Posts: 102
    If you look like your photo, you look wonderful! Sad to say, negative comments of being "too skinny" likely come from those who are a wee bit jealous. If those you truly love and truly trust to be honest see what you see, go with that. Ultimately, you have to be comfortable in your own skin. As long as your physician isn't the one worried about you being "too skinny", don't give it another thought! All the best to you!
  • _CiaoParis
    _CiaoParis Posts: 166
    You look amazing!! People tell me I'm too skinny also, it's annoying!
  • Animaniac87
    Animaniac87 Posts: 74
    First and foremost, based on your current photo you look AWE-mazing!

    Based on that and that alone, I would tend to agree with your PT. I wouldn't drop too many more lbs/kilos, then you might start looking a little too thin for my taste.

    As for the coworkers, they are probably just being hateful because they are jealous. I'm no where near looking too skinny and a few of my coworkers are telling me that I'm losing too much weight too fast, etc. Women (especially coworkers) can be so hateful when another women loses weight and they haven't lost any and/or hate the way they look.

    WE didn't lose weight for them, we did/doing it for ourselves. So I say go until you're happy with the person you see in the mirror. Everyone deserves to like what they look like, find what that is for you, and then maintain/
  • oliviaseward
    oliviaseward Posts: 66 Member
    personally i think you look absolutely wonderful and im quite jealous hahaha youve done so good. you should need to do what makes you happy. personally i think you look perfect right now and should just maintain/tone if you want.
  • swillis21
    swillis21 Posts: 251 Member
    You look great :) And I kinda know where u are coming from. I think it helps to pick a healthy person you look up to. Like I love Rachel McAdams and she has what I think of as healthy weight w/o looking like Angelina. And when I feel like my tummy area arching out looks fat I realize that's just the curve/shape of my build, and that once my stomach flattens out some I will be at a healthy weight and look good too, which you are. So, don't focus on "improvement" just focus on continuing to be healthy, which includes challenging your body, but for the challenge, not to make this or that little bit of skin/fat look different. cuz w/no fat, ppl don't look good. So, don't fret, just focus on good health I'd suggest :)
  • JAllen32
    JAllen32 Posts: 991 Member
    You look amazing!!! That pic of you in your bikini really shows your stomach and thighs, and you don't look at all like you need to lose anything. So at this point, if I were you I'd worry about maintaining and toning. I know its hard to look at yourself and say "Yep, no more fat." lol But you really don't look like you have any left to lose. Don't stress and just work out for fitness and health now, not weight loss. Good luck and GREAT JOB!!!!!
  • Ms_Lassie
    Ms_Lassie Posts: 24
    You sound like you are preparing for maintenance with tummy toning or muscle definition in your thighs as something you want to happen... I'm only 1cm shorter & am aiming for the even 60kg too!

    I've lost about 4kgs so far and will be happy with anything under 65kgs as my first goal as I haven't been near 60kgs in 10 years (a couple kids later, knee reco, life(!) etc. getting in the way). But even now I'm feeling fitter & believing I am looking better in clothes and all those good things. Sorry, rambling now!

    If you are able to do all the activity/exercise/living life that you need to at that weight then be happy! I would guess that if you got too skinny you might lose some strength or endurance and your body would tell you to take it a bit easier on yourself.
  • Rayman79
    Rayman79 Posts: 2,009 Member
    fwiw I think you look hot. I certainly dont think you need to lose any more weight but what you do now is entirely up to you (whethert you want to stay as-is or hit the weights).

    Haters gonna hate, just take it as a compliment that they want you to put on weight so you dont look better than them :tongue:
  • Juliette320
    Juliette320 Posts: 144 Member
    How do YOU feel? Are you comfortable where YOU are? EF the other people (: this should be all about YOU !
  • Juliette320
    Juliette320 Posts: 144 Member


    Haters gonna hate, just take it as a compliment that they want you to put on weight so you dont look better than them :tongue:

    ^^ true (:
  • Werglum
    Werglum Posts: 378 Member
    You are in the healthy weight range, but only by a whisker! I'd focus on toning up - I've seen pictures on here of people who look like they've lost 5kg but haven't actually lost anything and have just shrunken everything in by doing weights!
    In saying that I think you look amazing just as you are!
  • Helloitsdan
    Helloitsdan Posts: 5,564 Member
    How tall are you?
    How much do you weigh?
    Whats your body fat %?
    Age?
  • Rayman79
    Rayman79 Posts: 2,009 Member
    How tall are you?
    How much do you weigh?
    Whats your body fat %?
    Age?

    In any other context, this would be totally creepy!!! :laugh:
  • brandonrdn
    brandonrdn Posts: 71
    I would definitely say you're fine where you are. If anything I would do what your PT said and start hitting the weights to tone up a bit. But as of now you look absolutely amazing.
  • splucy
    splucy Posts: 353
    How tall are you?
    How much do you weigh?
    Whats your body fat %?
    Age?

    180cms
    60.6kgs
    14.5% body fat
    24 years old
  • Inlet
    Inlet Posts: 135
    There is no single perfect weight. For every height and build there is a range of weights which can be considered healthy. Many people do not choose, or are not able for one reason or another, to maintain the lowest end of "healthy," and it might look too thin to them. Especially when they consider the fact that they are heavier than you, and still completely healthy.

    You will know when you are underweight. You would be constantly cold, bruise easily, take a long time to recover from workouts, miss periods and start catching every cold that crosses your path.

    Listen to your body. Work it out. Try a few different weights. And realize that those people mean well, and likely are only worried about possible eating disorders that might take you unawares.

    You get to decide what your perfect weight is, and if you find that you do not like the way you look when you reach it, you can always gain a little back.
    =)
  • splucy
    splucy Posts: 353
    Thanks guys. I just thought my goals were realistic but with all of these mixed opinions, it has me wondering if I lost the plot and was infact becoming too skinny!

    To think that I had a mental sickness (in thinking I could improve but was infact making myself look worse) was a depressing thought!
  • LuckyAng
    LuckyAng Posts: 1,173 Member
    I think you look great!!
  • CateLouise
    CateLouise Posts: 60 Member
    Like everyone here i think you look great =D
    however if it was me i wouldnt lose too much more....the problem areas you state can be fixed by toning not just losing

    i think you should focus on toning the re-evaluate later =D
  • Inlet
    Inlet Posts: 135
    And after looking at your pictures I would definitely say to proceed cautiously with any further weight loss. But you look great now. =) You aren't too thin.
  • Helloitsdan
    Helloitsdan Posts: 5,564 Member
    How tall are you?
    How much do you weigh?
    Whats your body fat %?
    Age?

    180cms
    60.6kgs
    14.5% body fat
    24 years old


    BMR 1489
    TDEE 2308
    Lean mass 52kg
    Fat 8kg
    Perfect weight for age and height is 71kg

    Calories to eat to gain 10kg 2539 daily.
    This will net you .21kg per week gains and take 47 weeks to goal.
    If you lift heavy most gains will be in lean mass with some fat.

    You look fantastic but being underweight can cause serious health risks down the road including the inability to have children!
    The good news is you can eat a lot of food daily and hardly gain unless you go crazy at the pizza joint on a daily basis.

    If you decide to use these numbers for gains be sure to use a macro partition of Protein/Fat 30% Carbs 40% on rest days and Protein 30% carbs 50% fat 20% on days you work out.

    Put as much effort into lifting and cut cardio and youll be a lean mean lady!

    If you want to gain at a faster rate but run the risk of added fat, you should be between 15-18%, you can bump calories up to 2770 and reach your goal in 24 weeks.
  • Lozze
    Lozze Posts: 1,917 Member
    Purely from a numbers game, you are underweight. Only slightly (the site I plugged it into said 62kg was the idea weight) I don't think you need to lose any more kilos based on that.

    I think what you want and your PT seems to be encourging is to change your body shape. So weights, weights, weights and more weights :)

    You look amazing.
  • robinogue
    robinogue Posts: 1,117 Member
    based on your current picture you look great, I went to your other pictures and the one with the bikini you look rather thin.. Overall I wouldn't loose anymore weight, maybe continue to tight and tone everything...
  • stuffinmuffin
    stuffinmuffin Posts: 985 Member
    Agree with other people here when I say you look great!!! You're always going to see room for improvement as everyone else on here (and myself) does, no-one is going to see perfection (or maybe a couple, but that's an even more concerning statistic! ; ). Anyway I would certainly start on the road to maintenance. I lost a further few pounds when I started maintenance so best to always start it before you reach your goal (easier said than done!).

    Throughout my weight loss I found that everyone had an opinion on it. Some thought I was too thin, others thought I looked great. To try and get my head round the (quite forceful) opinions of others I picked my nearest dearest's opinions and ignored everyone elses. So when my boyfriend or my Mum told me that I was looking too thin that would be the line for me. Fortunately they're happy with my maintenance shape and I've been pretty consistent re weight over the last couple of months and settled into my routine.

    You'll get there but you need to take a back-step and see how you actually feel about your current shape. Maybe ditch the scales for a month, I find mentally that does the world of good. I've just joined a gym so wont be on the scales for a month as I'm not losing and trying to tone so the scales aren't going to do me any favours. If my jeans suddenly burst at the seams however...that's a different matter! x
  • lacewitch
    lacewitch Posts: 766 Member
    Your co-workers will be used to the old you so you will be skinny in comparison.
    as long as you are happy with what you see inn the mirror and you are healthy and eating well
    who cares. we all think you look great - no skinniness just healthy and toned!
    haters always gonna hate!
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