Dissapointing--How long did it take before

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  • kelley4123
    kelley4123 Posts: 100 Member
    I think if someone sees you on a daily basis they are less likely to notice.
  • TiredOfBeingFAT130
    TiredOfBeingFAT130 Posts: 46
    I have lost 21lbs at 5'1" and no one has noticed yet. A friend of mine is around my height and was at my starting weight (she has now lost over 100lbs), but she told me that 30lbs lost was her magic number!
  • minnesota_deere
    minnesota_deere Posts: 232 Member
    Someone noticed you were losing wieght?? I've lost both wieght & size & saw 2 aunts & uncles, 4 cousins, & some other people yesterday that I haven't seen since I've lost wieght, & not a one of them noticed, & if they did, didn't say anything. I've seen it on the scales & in the mirror, & a lot times, you're the most critical of yourself. I know I'm not doing it for them, but it would be nice if SOMEBODY else nothiced. Not even anyone I work with has said anything. What a bummer!!! In 2 1/2 months only one person has said anything. Well today is another day, I'm still on goal, & will continue to work on it untill I'm where I want to be regardless of anyone else. I feel better, healtier, have more energy, know I'm burning more calories b/c I'm building more mucsle all the time, everthing is better as you all know, but it would be nice if the people I'm closest to would notice too. Just would provide more motivation for me. Someday it will will happen I know............
    my aunt and uncle both lost a ton of weight and i made a comment that they both look terrific, they both jumped all over me saying things like "what a prick, we were ugly and fat before?" so of course i said yes you were. which made it even more of a battle.
  • tameko2
    tameko2 Posts: 31,634 Member
    Don't feel bad, No one has noticed the weight I have lost since before starting MFP or even after. But once you reach your goal, if they didn't notice before they definitely will by then. Also weight is a sensitive issue for many people so many choose to ignore rather than comment. Good Luck to youand keep on going!

    This is exactly what I think. I mean unless you want MY dad who siad "how much weight have you lost now? Well you need to lose about 20 more". so I mean, if you WANT the kind of relatives who comment on your weight you can certainly have mine.
  • Aerohead21
    Aerohead21 Posts: 333 Member
    I also think it depends on where you are losing the weight. I lost 19 lbs and my face slimmed quite a bit. People noticed it more because people look at faces. Also, I agree with WHO saying something is important. The comments I got were from coworkers, not family, even though they know I am trying to lose weight.
  • cwgrl4u
    cwgrl4u Posts: 12 Member
    The decision to make great things happen within yourself! I made the choice to wake up at 4:00am, push play daily on my DVD player and change my diet. 90 days later, I was 23lbs lighter and 10 sizes smaller. The length of time to see results, is up to you and your attitude to make things happen. I did not have anyone supporting me of giving me motivation to do it, I just tired of being tired and out of shape!!!! Now I have a group of people that I coach and give support and motivation too. It is very important that you have that in your corner!!!!
  • Just2Jean
    Just2Jean Posts: 12 Member
    I read something just 3-4 days ago...It says it takes a person 1 week to notice a change, family and friends 4 weeks and everyone else 12 weeks to notice a difference (something like that) SO don't let it discourage you...THEY will notice..it will just take them longer :-) YOU notice and THAT is what is imptortant.
    I am guilty too. I told a girl at work last week... "You've lost weight...you look great!" she responded with "yep, 35 lbs so far" I was asking myself "how come I haven't noticed until now?" THAT has happened with several co-workers. I notice the change...but WAY after I should have. :-)
  • Just2Jean
    Just2Jean Posts: 12 Member
    Awesome!
  • mmyers67
    mmyers67 Posts: 1
    I lost 50 lbs and no one said anything to me. It was about a year later that someone told me my face looked thinner. I was crushed. That is NOT where I was hoping people would notice my weight loss. What I found out was that people were commenting about my weight with others around me because they did not want to imply to me that I was fat to start with. They did not want to hurt my feelings. LOL Keep up the good work. Remember, it is all about how you feel and now what others think.
  • crysmcd1
    crysmcd1 Posts: 54
    the same thing has happened here, i've only lost 15lbs but i can see huge differences in myself! others, not so much, but thats okay! i know i am getting healthier and will be rocking my swimsuit this summer. :) just keep pushing ahead and losing pounds and inches. eventually they will notice and say something. :)
  • BarbWhite09
    BarbWhite09 Posts: 1,128 Member
    If someone is around you a lot they may not notice your weight loss. Also, weight is a touchy subject to bring up sometimes...So that may be another reason they didn't mention it.
  • Mompanda4
    Mompanda4 Posts: 869 Member
    Congratulations! I understand what you are going through. In the last 9 months, only a few have commented on my over 60 lb wt loss. I went to a conference a few weeks ago and have not seen these folks since I started my weight loss. They were very complimentary...how young I look, how good my skin was, how good I looked. I shared my new lifestyle change and am supporting 6 people on their journey to a healthier new lifestyle...other than my son, no family members commented on my weight loss...bummers! But like you said, I'm doing it for me.

    Keep going, you are doing GREAT! :wink:
  • Jweb8969
    Jweb8969 Posts: 136 Member
    i just read something that said it will take you 4 weeks to notice a difference - friends and family 8 weeks to notice a difference - and everyone else 12 weeks to notice a difference ~ :/ ~ seems discouraging, but i'm gonna keep going and see if this is true!

    hang in there!! :flowerforyou:


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  • Riley4ever
    Riley4ever Posts: 225 Member
    A lot of people said things like " you look really well " and then I'd reply " yeah I've lost over 3 stone in weight " and then they'd say "yes, I really thought you'd lost weight!". My dad visited and didn't say a word to me until I nearly screamed at him "Can't you tell I've lost weight?!"

    The other thing you have to remember is that a lot of people are wrapped up in themselves and their own lives and aren't that observant! Try not to take it to heart, a lot of the time they have noticed but just don't acknowledge it for whatever reason. As long as you can see your progress, that is the main thing - I'm sure the compliments will follow and why not tell your family what you're doing and your success to date and tell them you'd really appreciate it if they would support you.

    Good luck :)
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