Seriously need some Valentine's Day help!!!

chefanie85
chefanie85 Posts: 67
edited November 9 in Chit-Chat
So here's the deal...I didn't think my boyfriend and I were doing anything for Valentine's day. I don't particularly enjoy this little holiday. I think it's incredibly silly. But it has been brought to my attention that he already has a gift for me.

I've never been in a relationship on Valentine's Day before so I am at a complete loss here. I have absolutely no idea what to get him.

Any advice?

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  • inge88
    inge88 Posts: 184 Member
    Difficult one! I told my boyfriend that I think Valentine's Day is ridiculous and that he'd better not get me anything. But it will just make it awkward if you tell him that now... Uhmm if you can't think of something as a present why not spoil him with a massage or a nice dinner or something else he'd enjoy?
  • chefanie85
    chefanie85 Posts: 67
    That's the trouble!! He knows this is my least favorite holiday. lol
  • chefanie85
    chefanie85 Posts: 67
    The only reason I know he got me something was because I was telling him not to get me a box of chocolates, because that would just be mean since I'm trying to lose weight. He just kinda laughed and then I told him that he didn't have to get me anything because I really don't like Valentine's Day...to which he replied, "too late."
  • Redapplecandie
    Redapplecandie Posts: 171 Member
    Do a quick Google search for fun activities in your area. Ice skating, tubing, (or if you're in a warmer climate.... um... something warm??)

    My fiancee and I typically just exchange cards. My extra thing is finding Valentine's cards 'from the cat' and getting three different ones from our three cats.
    One year I took him to Medieveal Times in Toronto and we spent a weekend there. That was the biggest thing I ever did.
  • inge88
    inge88 Posts: 184 Member
    The only reason I know he got me something was because I was telling him not to get me a box of chocolates, because that would just be mean since I'm trying to lose weight. He just kinda laughed and then I told him that he didn't have to get me anything because I really don't like Valentine's Day...to which he replied, "too late."

    Hmm or he might just be teasing you?

    I also think that it is okay for you not to do anything. You did tell him that you don't like the day. Plus isn't it usually only the guy doing something romantic (or is this very old fashioned?)
  • Symphony6
    Symphony6 Posts: 116 Member
    I am making my hubby cheesecake filled, chocolate dipped strawberries. Yes, I know they're not diet food..LOL, but the point isn't to eat a bunch...the point is to enjoy eating the few we have ;)

    Special times are always much better than presents. Plan something romantic or intimate; make him dinner or a special treat. It is always appreciated.
  • lucyford22
    lucyford22 Posts: 198 Member
    I just make my boyfriend a fancy dinner. Last year it was blue cheese crusted filet mignon, twice baked potatoes, some balsamic and mushroom croustinis, chocolate lava cake and some nice red wine.
  • bizco
    bizco Posts: 1,949 Member
    Maybe just get him a card and write an IOU in it. Or make a homemade coupon on the computer or out of construction paper and glitter. Something like "this card entitles you to a 20 minute massage" or "a home-cooked, romantic dinner" or "a date of your choice" or "2 hours use of the remote control" or "get out of the doghouse free card" or "breakfast in bed" or "a movie of your choice" or simply "grant me this wish __________________" and let him fill in the blank.

    Something like that shows you're sweet, thoughful and creative. I think it's the thought that counts and not the amount of money you spend.
  • shanlynt
    shanlynt Posts: 718 Member
    How about a massage, dinner out, cologne?
  • baddbob
    baddbob Posts: 133 Member
    Here is the challenge I see that many of us face. We seem to celebrate things surrounded by food. I think that is why many of us have challenges with our weight. As long as we use food as a reward or celebration, we will be destined to a continual struggle. I would suggest taking him to a movie. I saw someone recommend a massage. Perhaps a couples massage. Start to break away from the food things like baking cakes, boxes of candy, chocolate covered anything. Start thinking creative non-food things. How about working at a homeless shelter for the day and sharing your love with others??? Might not be considered "romantic" by some, but it might be a good indicator of what kind of heart your boyfriend might have. Just some thoughts.
  • chefanie85
    chefanie85 Posts: 67
    Yeah, ice skating didn't work out so well when he took me. He's a former hockey player and I had only ever been on the ice once before. I got frustrated because I thought I was doing poorly and I overreacted. I would like to avoid that lol

    He doesn't joke about gifts. This man has some serious follow through when it comes to gift giving.

    I'll definitely give him a card. Can't really have a romantic dinner at k place because there are so many people here...his place wouldn't work cause he just got a puppy. Puppies are like babies, they don't generally allow from many intimate moments. Lol
  • maygans
    maygans Posts: 196 Member
    It could be a special type of ring....
  • kstep88
    kstep88 Posts: 403 Member
    Yeah, ice skating didn't work out so well when he took me. He's a former hockey player and I had only ever been on the ice once before. I got frustrated because I thought I was doing poorly and I overreacted. I would like to avoid that lol

    He doesn't joke about gifts. This man has some serious follow through when it comes to gift giving.

    I'll definitely give him a card. Can't really have a romantic dinner at k place because there are so many people here...his place wouldn't work cause he just got a puppy. Puppies are like babies, they don't generally allow from many intimate moments. Lol



    Maybe try again and prove you can do it? You'd burn cals and be showing him that you can be awesome too lol

    or buy him a card and treat him to a nice dinner....or a picnik...google it! :)
  • wackedoutpet13
    wackedoutpet13 Posts: 72 Member
    How about your/his favorite photo of the two of you in a frame?
  • MandyLouMWC
    MandyLouMWC Posts: 1
    Since she's a chef, not sure she'll be able to avoid cooking something special ... in our family, we expect that from Chefanie!! lol

    Stephy, I liked the idea about the movie and of course a framed picture always has a nice touch. But whatever you decide, I'm sure he'll love it just because it comes from the heart!!
  • ffuunnnnyy__ggiirrll
    ffuunnnnyy__ggiirrll Posts: 431
    Maybe just get him a card and write an IOU in it. Or make a homemade coupon on the computer or out of construction paper and glitter. Something like "this card entitles you to a 20 minute massage" or "a home-cooked, romantic dinner" or "a date of your choice" or "2 hours use of the remote control" or "get out of the doghouse free card" or "breakfast in bed" or "a movie of your choice" or simply "grant me this wish __________________" and let him fill in the blank.

    Something like that shows you're sweet, thoughful and creative. I think it's the thought that counts and not the amount of money you spend.

    I like this idea!
  • chefanie85
    chefanie85 Posts: 67
    Since she's a chef, not sure she'll be able to avoid cooking something special ... in our family, we expect that from Chefanie!! lol

    Stephy, I liked the idea about the movie and of course a framed picture always has a nice touch. But whatever you decide, I'm sure he'll love it just because it comes from the heart!!

    Haha Thanks Aunt Mandy, I might make him a special dinner. He goes gaga over my steaks. Last time I wanted to surprise him I made homemade lemon bars, they're his favorite. :) Maybe I can find another treat he likes and make that. I'm gonna go get him a card tomorrow after I'm done at the dentist.

    I'm actually kinda excited because he called to tell me there should be a surprise at my house when I get home today. And we're going to see The Vow and going bowling with Mom & Dad.
  • chefanie85
    chefanie85 Posts: 67
    Maybe just get him a card and write an IOU in it. Or make a homemade coupon on the computer or out of construction paper and glitter. Something like "this card entitles you to a 20 minute massage" or "a home-cooked, romantic dinner" or "a date of your choice" or "2 hours use of the remote control" or "get out of the doghouse free card" or "breakfast in bed" or "a movie of your choice" or simply "grant me this wish __________________" and let him fill in the blank.

    Something like that shows you're sweet, thoughful and creative. I think it's the thought that counts and not the amount of money you spend.

    I like this idea!

    I like this idea too. :)

    Thanks for all the ideas.
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