Sometimes husbands need to be told how to support....

Rae6503
Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
edited November 10 in Chit-Chat
I sent mine the following text message:

I just deadlifted my bodyweight. Don't tell me how much you used to deadlift, just tell me "Good Job".
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  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    Good job
  • _JamieB_
    _JamieB_ Posts: 417 Member
    Love that!!! and his response??
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    Love that!!! and his response??

    It was:

    You are so awesome.
  • _JamieB_
    _JamieB_ Posts: 417 Member
    Nice!!
  • lizard053
    lizard053 Posts: 2,344 Member
    Now that's what needs to be done! LOL!
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    I don't mind being told what to do from time to time
  • jenniferwren
    jenniferwren Posts: 189
    :smile: :smile: I like being told what to do too, saves confusion :laugh:
  • kit_katty
    kit_katty Posts: 992 Member
    I sent mine the following text message:

    I just deadlifted my bodyweight. Don't tell me how much you used to deadlift, just tell me "Good Job".

    I think that's the same with a lot of people. Good for you to telling him what you needed and good for you for deadlifting yoru weight! Wow!

    Good on him by responding in a very supportive way!
  • grapenutSF
    grapenutSF Posts: 648 Member
    well done all around!

    i sent my husb a pic of me trying on a bikini and he responded with the wrong answer. i then whined about it.

    i think your approach is superior. kudos.
  • AngChambers06
    AngChambers06 Posts: 126 Member
    lol mine's is always thats good or good job however he never will say uhm maybe we shouldnt eat this for supper haha THAT would be helpful :)
  • G30Grrl
    G30Grrl Posts: 377 Member
    He was right; you ARE awesome!
  • jenniebean1680
    jenniebean1680 Posts: 350 Member
    I sent mine the following text message:

    I just deadlifted my bodyweight. Don't tell me how much you used to deadlift, just tell me "Good Job".

    OMG!!!!!!!!! LMAO! I need to learn to text the fiance that way.
  • jenniebean1680
    jenniebean1680 Posts: 350 Member
    well done all around!

    i sent my husb a pic of me trying on a bikini and he responded with the wrong answer. i then whined about it.

    i think your approach is superior. kudos.

    To be fair, that was whine-worthy.
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
    That is awesome!
  • ansonrinesmith
    ansonrinesmith Posts: 741 Member
    Good Job and That is Awesome.
    Yup, guys mostly have no clue what women want/need to hear.

    I always think of the scene from "White Men Can't Jump" where Rosie Perez is explaining that when she is thirsty she does not want a drink of water but to be understood how it feels to also be thirsty.
  • 12skipafew99100
    12skipafew99100 Posts: 1,669 Member
    When we first got married and I would tell my husband about how I was feeling his first responce was to fit it. It took me a while to explain to him I do not want to be silenced by a solution. I can get my own solution. I just want to talk or complain about it and be understood. He now does not try to be the fixer unless I ask for help. Its so much better now. Men to need to be taught this. Its ok, they just truely don't know. Good life lesson for both men and women.
  • LabRat529
    LabRat529 Posts: 1,323 Member
    WOW! Good job! I am in awe.
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    I do this a lot. When he starts telling me about other women that are attractive, I remind him to add "But not as hot as you, honey".
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    Good Job and That is Awesome.
    Yup, guys mostly have no clue what women want/need to hear.

    I always think of the scene from "White Men Can't Jump" where Rosie Perez is explaining that when she is thirsty she does not want a drink of water but to be understood how it feels to also be thirsty.

    And the best part of that scene is he threw the water in her face. :bigsmile:
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    Love the message, and love the accomplishment.

    I made a promise when we started dating that I would always let my husband know when I was giving him a hint. They usually took the form of HTML.

    IE... <hint> I would like to go out to Chili's tonight. </hint>
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    Love the message, and love the accomplishment.

    I made a promise when we started dating that I would always let my husband know when I was giving him a hint. They usually took the form of HTML.

    IE... <hint> I would like to go out to Chili's tonight. </hint>

    Very subtle :laugh:
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    On the other hand, sometimes I'm at risk for being like this Dilbert cartoon: http://dilbert.com/strips/comic/2001-10-30/
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    On the other hand, sometimes I'm at risk for being like this Dilbert cartoon: http://dilbert.com/strips/comic/2001-10-30/

    Being that chick is way better than expecting our spouses to read our minds.
  • addisondisease2
    addisondisease2 Posts: 348 Member
    After my wife maxed out her dead-lift one day she told me:

    "I like cardio and all, but i like dead-lifts much better"

    I fell in love all over again.
  • arnoswife
    arnoswife Posts: 228 Member
    it took my husband literally six months before he ever paid me a compliment on my weight loss!! Now if that isn't some ****ty support I get. Now I haven't heard anything again........ in addition to my weight loss with MFP, I am at a total weight loss of 90 lbs!! It shouldn't be that hard to compliment your wife when she finally looks like she did when you first met her! Actually I am thinner than I was even then, by 15 lbs!
  • MereMe
    MereMe Posts: 312 Member
    I sent mine the following text message:

    I just deadlifted my bodyweight. Don't tell me how much you used to deadlift, just tell me "Good Job".

    WORD! I love this!

    I tell my hubby how fast or how far I have jogged and being military, he rattles off crazy speeds and distances that he has gone. I do think the next conversation will go a little differently! :wink:
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
    That's pretty much how I function in relationships. I'm a big fan of "giving a script" for certain things, other things can be unscripted, but when they're repeatedly giving the wrong answer help the succeed.
  • CarolinaGirlinVA
    CarolinaGirlinVA Posts: 1,508 Member
    I tell my hubby how fast or how far I have jogged and being military, he rattles off crazy speeds and distances that he has gone. I do think the next conversation will go a little differently! :wink:

    My husband was the command fitness leader at one point with a SpecWar command and thought he was being helpful when he brought home diet books, calorie logs and then told me how I would be kicked out of the military because I was too fat. At the time I had just had our 4th child and I weighed around 140. I was 130 when we met, pre-babies.

    My fav quote he will NEVER live down: "Damn baby, you used to look good, what happened?" I delivered 4 of your children that's what!
  • eashelton53
    eashelton53 Posts: 55 Member
    Awesome job!!!! Seriously that's amazing.
  • cms6300
    cms6300 Posts: 163
    Guilty here, need to do better.
    Thanks for the reminder.
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