Creepy guys at the gym

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  • olee67
    olee67 Posts: 208 Member
    I'm the kind of person that likes to experience as much as I can so I can speak with some semblance on a topic at hand. Now, to explain my view on this, I must tell a story. So, here it goes...

    I had just started seeing a girl a few years back, and, she had a gay brother. They were all going out one night to a gay bar and she invited me... Now, I'm not homophobic at all, but, I was a bit apprehensive. To comfort me, she simply said, "please... They have dollar bottles tonight." "SOLD! And, I'm not driving," I replied.

    So, I met her along with everyone else at her place. We all jumped into one car and away we went. We walked through the door, and, all at once, every single guy in the bar looked me up and down. If you'll notice, this happens to every single woman that walks into any bar of any general style. To be honest, it kinda made me feel very uncomfortable. It was a classy looking place. Clean, nice bar, etc.... So, I go to the bar and order a round... Not 10 minutes later, I'm back for seconds. The shirtless bartender sporting the sweet chest sweater comes over and says, "you want another sweetie?" I just nod and swallow hard. "Relax," he said, "we ALL know you're not gay!"

    The point of the story? I know how it feels, because of that experience, to be objectified or stared at. If it were a bunch of women, maybe it would have been different. If it were a group of women, would they have been thinking, "he's cute, he's not that cute, nice shirt, stupid hair" etc... Because with men, from experience, I don't think I can list the things that would run through their heads...

    So, I would just ignore the guy that's staring at you. Most guys can't help it. I know I can't. I see a pretty girl at the gym and a sneak a glance now and again.It's very hard not to admire a pretty woman. But, I'll never stare.
  • kimclaws
    kimclaws Posts: 101 Member
    ignore people like that, i always have my headphones on and i am in my own world at the gym, i could care less who is checking me out, or you could come up with a smart *kitten* comment to make him feel stupid. that is always amusing lol
  • redraidergirl2009
    redraidergirl2009 Posts: 2,560 Member
    do this.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8wRXa971Xw0
  • becoming_a_new_me
    becoming_a_new_me Posts: 1,860 Member
    I am so glad I am not female.
    I'd calmly walk over, grab his head and crush his face into my boobs.
    IS THIS WHAT YOU WANT!???

    What a bad girl I would be!

    I am the girl version of you then, because that is exactly what I would do!!! That or fart...it's a toss up
  • redraidergirl2009
    redraidergirl2009 Posts: 2,560 Member
    also be rude. If he ran over to help me I would have said "um, I have it, thanks" rudely. Sorry, but if someone is being uber creepy I have no issue being rude
  • TonyL68
    TonyL68 Posts: 133 Member
    Gay Bar Story

    That does give some insight.

    But...

    If you really want to know what its like to be a woman, you'd have to go to this bar 10 times a day, every day.

    Forever.

    :drinker:
  • thcri
    thcri Posts: 459 Member
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sF7K5bsj7mk
  • Cberg9
    Cberg9 Posts: 123
    Give him the stink eye then Buck at him with that chest out arms open gangsta pose...If he doesn't instantly turn around and stop watching I don't know what else to say but this works for me lol
  • ShandiH
    ShandiH Posts: 232 Member
    I am so glad I am not female.
    I'd calmly walk over, grab his head and crush his face into my boobs.
    IS THIS WHAT YOU WANT!???

    What a bad girl I would be!

    Love this perspective!
  • angelgutierrez
    angelgutierrez Posts: 64
    I have a creepy guy that goes in about twice a week. I am usually there before he is on the elliptical, he always has to get on the one next to me, if i move to the stationary bikes he moves to the one next to me, when i move to the weight machines he moves to one near by....whats creepy is he never says anything just stares.
  • J3SSP3NNY
    J3SSP3NNY Posts: 235
    I have a shirt that reads: This is my you're not getting lucky shirt.
    <3 it!
  • grinch031
    grinch031 Posts: 1,679
    If the guy was a creep thats one thing and its UNACCEPTABLE ! HOWEVER!!!!! Many women dress up in skimpy shorts or skirts and flaunt their *kitten* and boobs all over. This is ESPECIALLY true here in Miami ( South Beach) Then they have the audacity to ***** about being checked out. This is not cool and it happens all the time. I dont know you and I am not saying this is what you did, but keep in mind we're only human and if you dress provocatively then expect to be noticed by guys who like it.

    Exactly. Rarely do I see an attractive girl who isn't dressed to impress at the gym. If they don't want to be looked at, then don't show off the body.
  • jlburke2
    jlburke2 Posts: 28 Member
    I am so glad I am not female.
    I'd calmly walk over, grab his head and crush his face into my boobs.
    IS THIS WHAT YOU WANT!???

    What a bad girl I would be!

    If girls did this, it wouldn't get guys to stop looking. It might even increase the amount of and obviousness of staring that goes on.
  • Apazman
    Apazman Posts: 494 Member
    Keep in mind that life is perspective, perhaps he thought you were cute, or perhaps he thought you were new and needed help. Would have been any different if it was a guy you thought was hot/cute? I have been accused of the same thing by umm an older woman, when I was actually just spacing out looking at the mirror focusing on counting reps.

    I just mean, sometimes, things aren't always what they seem. Not to say he wasn't creepy, I have seen some messed up stuff at my gym when I went. One time this indian dude, paid for a personal traininer and would only want the sexy young woman trainers and he would aske them to demonstrate every time... just messed up.

    This is why I have a home gym .. sooo much less crap and more control over content.
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,412 Member
    He probably just got excited over a cute girl. It sounds like normal man behavior to me. If you wanted him to stop you should have spoken up. Otherwise, ignore and be secretly flattered.

    I agree with this.
  • kayleen_longworth
    kayleen_longworth Posts: 147 Member
    I have a creepy guy that goes in about twice a week. I am usually there before he is on the elliptical, he always has to get on the one next to me, if i move to the stationary bikes he moves to the one next to me, when i move to the weight machines he moves to one near by....whats creepy is he never says anything just stares.

    If he literally follows you around the gym and there are plenty of other open machines farther away from you, I would report him to management. I would be concerned whenever you left the gym if he was waiting in the bushes somewhere. Certainly wouldn't go during dark hours. Better safe than sorry.
  • GigiBee824
    GigiBee824 Posts: 32 Member
    If he's following you around everywhere you go and making you uncomfortable, tell the gym staff. They are there to manage the facility, and all the gyms I've ever belonged to have rules of behavior that the members are expected to follow. An appreciate oogling every now and then doesn't hurt anyone, but there is a line.
  • hirensthenameliftinsthegame
    hirensthenameliftinsthegame Posts: 233
    Lol i had a bunch of cougars(no offense to older women on here) staring at my *kitten* when i was doing squats...kinda weird and uncomfortable yea, but it sucks even more when a dude does that---throws me off guard. Sometimes ill ask them if they wanna try to squat heavy with someone staring them down in the mirror, never see them again lol.

    Other times i just let it go, its not worth my quality time at the gym to go and argue or even ponder on the fact that someone has an external influence over my internal self. It just can't happen unless you want it to, so I let that be my motivation to go even heavier!

    :D don't know how my post helps, but in the grand scheme of it all, it must help someone out there!
  • thankyou4thevenom
    thankyou4thevenom Posts: 1,581 Member
    If the guy was a creep thats one thing and its UNACCEPTABLE ! HOWEVER!!!!! Many women dress up in skimpy shorts or skirts and flaunt their *kitten* and boobs all over. This is ESPECIALLY true here in Miami ( South Beach) Then they have the audacity to ***** about being checked out. This is not cool and it happens all the time. I dont know you and I am not saying this is what you did, but keep in mind we're only human and if you dress provocatively then expect to be noticed by guys who like it.

    I was wearing a fitted t-shirt (that's just a little too big) and sweat pants. Not exactly revealing. Plus I was a mess, no makeup, hair all over the place from the snow. Not at my most attractive. :laugh:
  • thankyou4thevenom
    thankyou4thevenom Posts: 1,581 Member
    "Can I help you?"
    "I can handle this, thanks."

    Oooooor you could fart really loudly next to him if he tries to help you again. THAT would be the cat's pajamas!

    Hahahaha, so trying the farting thing.
  • CalJur
    CalJur Posts: 627 Member
    Two approaches. Get in his face and ask him if he liked what he saw. It will embarrass him in front of others for sure and let him know you are not the one. Alternatively, if not your style, try pointing him out to the gym staff and ask that they speak to him w/o disclosing your identity.
  • becoming_a_new_me
    becoming_a_new_me Posts: 1,860 Member
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    guilty cougar!
    Lol i had a bunch of cougars(no offense to older women on here) staring at my *kitten* when i was doing squats...kinda weird and uncomfortable yea, but it sucks even more when a dude does that---throws me off guard. Sometimes ill ask them if they wanna try to squat heavy with someone staring them down in the mirror, never see them again lol.

    Other times i just let it go, its not worth my quality time at the gym to go and argue or even ponder on the fact that someone has an external influence over my internal self. It just can't happen unless you want it to, so I let that be my motivation to go even heavier!

    :D don't know how my post helps, but in the grand scheme of it all, it must help someone out there!
  • LoriBarefoot
    LoriBarefoot Posts: 218 Member
    I think we're missing the most important question here....Was he hot??
  • engineman312
    engineman312 Posts: 3,450 Member
    i was totally getting checked out by two women doing dead lifts today at the gym. i wasn't grunting or dropping weights to call attention to myself. i was just working out.

    effing creepers.
  • IronmanPanda
    IronmanPanda Posts: 2,083 Member
    I think we're missing the most important question here....Was he hot??

    I'm guessing no otherwise the OP probably wouldn't be bothered by it.

    The general rule is if the guy is not attractive = creeper.
    If the guy is attractive = flattering.
  • EmpressOfJudgment
    EmpressOfJudgment Posts: 1,162 Member
    Exactly.
  • grinch031
    grinch031 Posts: 1,679
    I think we're missing the most important question here....Was he hot??

    I'm guessing no otherwise the OP probably wouldn't be bothered by it.

    The general rule is if the guy is not attractive = creeper.
    If the guy is attractive = flattering.

    The unfortunate truth.
  • thankyou4thevenom
    thankyou4thevenom Posts: 1,581 Member
    I think we're missing the most important question here....Was he hot??

    No but I find the hot guys at the gym looking at me uncomfortable. If he'd been hot and acting like that it would have been really freaking awkward and I'd still have made this post.
  • jpuderbaugh
    jpuderbaugh Posts: 318 Member
    I used to be a member of the y, the old men were the creepiest. One in particular would walk past the racquetball court me and my husband (then fiance) were playing in, and stare in the door window each time. I quit going because of him, I did not trust him. I feel better doing it myself at home anyway. no creepy guys watching me when all the shades and curtains are closed!
  • raven56706
    raven56706 Posts: 918 Member
    i have to say this... while it isnt right to be stalked at the gym or feel uncomfortable... no girl asks for this or anything....

    but i have to say, some girls that go to the gym are wearing "hey look at me" outfits... maybe the intention isnt hey look at me but sometimes it just comes out like that...

    i mean imagine JLO going to the gym wearing yoga pants... or just a random girl that looked like jlo going to the gym wearing yoga pants... 9 times out of 10, someone will look... the girl cant help it because thats how she is shaped but since that is so out there, a guy may look..

    take it as a compliment and just ignore... but there are girls that sometimes dress alittle skimpy for the gym

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