Is she crazy?

I'm the last person who likes to enable people with problems but...let her be. You're not going to win an argument with her. Unless you live with her, just nod in agreement and go about your regular thing.

Heck, even if she lives with you, you can still say yes and keep doing your thing. Let her be happy, let her think that she's helping in some way (or destroying you successfully by putting stuff in your head, w/e the case maybe)

I am willing to bet that she has heard this a long time ago and really believes it is true, she is from a different time then you she comes from a land were there wasn't Wikipedia to search out answers, so people from a different time had a LOT of wives tales or fables, how can you blame a person if they were never educated on how the body works,

also I would say disrespecting your MIL is the same as disrespecting your husband and in that case you might as well be disrespecting your self, I would also say ignorance can be fixed Stupidity is forever so hopefully you can learn understanding and empathy

Wow, you sure did take this to a whole different level. First of all, she was born in Mexico and came to the US as a toddler, she was raised here and went to school here. She was an honor student. She is educated. Also, she is only 46, that's only 23 years older than me so I don't see how that is from a time of fables and a time where the internet didn't exist. I'm also pretty sure that there is at least 1 person, who replied to this topic, that is her age or older and does't believe it's lack of education.

Also, I am not disrespecting her, my husband or myself. I was simply stating something she said that I believed to be crazy. I didn't know that disagreeing with someone meant to be disrespecting them and yourself. Last thing is, you shouldn't assume that people from another "land" or who are older then this generation are uneducated.

You are right on one thing, stupidity is forever.

I don't know what you think I meant about her being from a different land, I was meaning when she grew up they didn't have computers in homes back then, you may not think 20 some years is a lot but it is, we live a completely different time, and as far as disrespect I would never share something a loved one said to ppl who would mock her

Did you ever think that you could weigh more because you have more muscle then other people your size? Muscle is a good thing. You should probably forget about the number on the scale because it means nothing.

I'm going to agree with this. How much you weigh is generally meaningless, except in extreme cases. You may look smaller than girls who allegedly weigh less than you do because you're composed of more muscle, while they have a higher proportion of fat. Does that make sense? For example, there's one woman I know who is a little shorter than I am--she's 5"3' and I'm 5"5'--and weighs less than 120 pounds. She's not surprisingly tiny or anything, but probably a US size 6. I, on the other hand, am 125 pounds but wear a US zero. Nobody ever believes that I weigh that much until I explain that I do lots of cardio plus strength training, so I'm very lean and have a greater proportion of muscle. Seriously, the next time that some lady is bragging that she weighs soooo much less than you do, just ask if she's ever heard of body fat percentages. I'd much rather be a toned, lean 125 pounds than under 120 with a saggy butt and soft belly.

OMG. I'm literally laughing my *kitten* off! Other things she has told me..

-When her 9 year old hits my 3 year old she says it's because there is a full moon. I didn't realize he was some type of Wolf.
-To not tickle my son because if I do he won't be able to talk when he's older. Umm yeah, he already talks.
-To not wash my hands after applying muscle pain cream on my husband because if I do I will get pains on my hands and they will get ugly. Oh really? I always wash them and my hands are perfectly fine.
-That there is this juice you make with oranges complete with peel, you boil it and you drink it. You don't eat, just drink that and you will drop the pounds very quick. In that case let me grab a bottle of hot orange juice!!:laugh:


I'll try and remember more or just have her start talking.:laugh:

With nonsense like that, I would find it very hard to believe any "facts" from this person. Just try to laugh it off, because it really is absurd.

She is jealous and crazy, don't listen to her......

- "You have been opened up (cystectomy at 6months preg/c-section) too many times and air got in your stomach and that is not going to let you ever get there."

* BURPS at her face *
- "Feeling better already, look I've lost 1 size!!!" :smokin:

lol

I don't know what you think I meant about her being from a different land, I was meaning when she grew up they didn't have computers in homes back then, you may not think 20 some years is a lot but it is, we live a completely different time, and as far as disrespect I would never share something a loved one said to ppl who would mock her

As a 43 year old I am laughing at what you have just written here. Really?

Clearly, those of us 35 and older are woefully stuck in the dark ages.

What's a computer?

What's this thing they speak of, "The Interwebs"? Like lot sof spiders or something?

*wanders aimlessly in La-La Land due to lack of any basic knowledge because the Internet didn't come along until I was "old"*

You know, because we never had books or libraries or any way of learning anything before computers ...

I dont think this woman is crazy............
I think shes an idiot!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Being a man ive of course never had a c section but i have been cut open from my sternum to below my belly button (cancer surgery). The crap of air in your belly is feasible but your body would remove it in a day or two. It will however take extra time to firm your stomach up because the muscles were cut but not impossible. Believe me i used the cut muscles excuse for 10 years until i finally got off my butt and started working on it. Even after only 6 weeks of working on it i started to see definition. So you keep up the good work and tell her that most of the air is between her ears.

Did you ever think that you could weigh more because you have more muscle then other people your size? Muscle is a good thing. You should probably forget about the number on the scale because it means nothing.

I'm going to agree with this. How much you weigh is generally meaningless, except in extreme cases. You may look smaller than girls who allegedly weigh less than you do because you're composed of more muscle, while they have a higher proportion of fat. Does that make sense? For example, there's one woman I know who is a little shorter than I am--she's 5"3' and I'm 5"5'--and weighs less than 120 pounds. She's not surprisingly tiny or anything, but probably a US size 6. I, on the other hand, am 125 pounds but wear a US zero. Nobody ever believes that I weigh that much until I explain that I do lots of cardio plus strength training, so I'm very lean and have a greater proportion of muscle. Seriously, the next time that some lady is bragging that she weighs soooo much less than you do, just ask if she's ever heard of body fat percentages. I'd much rather be a toned, lean 125 pounds than under 120 with a saggy butt and soft belly.

true, also when I was 120-125lbs I fit in a US zero - lots of muscle - look at my bikini pic on my profile (I do not look massive or 'built' either)

Let's not forget the good ole "Oh something must be wrong with my thyroid" An excuse I used for years.

Don't let her dissuade you from your fitness goals!
And some people believe the stupidest things about weight loss, and it's partially their fault, there's no excuse for blindly believing things without checking facts.

And you're not disrespecting her, shes being silly and trying to convince you that you'll never reach your goals. Not a supportive person at all!

My MIL is similar, she has to be smaller/fitter/or have lost more than me.

I vote jealous

Some things the older people in my family believe (some on my husband's side, some on mine)
Stump water cures pretty much anything (dew that collects on tree stumps overnight)
A child can die from food poisoning by breastfeeding because the milk is not pasteurized (yeah, I wasn't too popular for breastfeeding my kids)
If you blow air into a young child's face, they will die because they can't push it back out
If a baby looks into a mirror, they will lose their spirit

There are plenty others, but it is kind of embarrassing. Some people truly do believe some strange things!

You need to escape the crab bucket your MIL would have you live in.
Think of this:
When a single crab is put into a lidless bucket, they surely can and will escape. However, when more than one share a bucket, none can get out. If one crab elevates herself above all, the others will grab this crab and drag'em back down to share the mutual fate of the rest of the group.

Sound familiar?

Your MIL is a toxic influence on you. Speak no further to her about this but be respectful.
Be ABOVE her; love her, yet pity her.
Just suck up her miserable comments, never argue but you won't feel the need to.
Why?
You are NOT in her bucket as of right now.

All Is Possible!