Why arent all close friends and family happy I'm dieting?

Is she overweight? Maybe she is a little jealous because you have been able to stick with it. Congrats on losing! That's a great loss for such a short amount of time. Don't worry about your mother's attitude. She will come around. Or maybe she doesn't believe you will stick with it. Show her by reaching your goal, and I am sure she will be proud!

I can relate to what you're feeling. I think that it has to do with maybe a little bit of jealousy (for lack of *better* word) - we ALL want to be better than we are right now, and maybe when they see someone having success, it reminds them that they aren't doing as well, or trying as hard, or something like that.

In other words, it highlights their own self-image/self-esteem issues. ????

I have a group of friends right now, who are all on different paths to the same goal (losing weight, getting fit, etc.) They are all trying really hard, and so... are very supportive of each others successes. The ones who are not trying so hard - not so much. Maybe that's it?

She might even be worried that you might gain it back and doesn't want to make a big deal about it. I will bet when you keep losing and more importantly keep it off for a long time then she will come around.

If not, at least you will be healthier!

keep up the good work!! dont worry about ur friends and fam when your dieting. you are the one dieting, so you are the only 1 experiencing it. be proud of yourself and dont get discouraged if ur fam doesnt seem to care.

Remember that ultimately the reason you are on this fitness journey is to have a better life for you! Remember that it's your heart that no longer has that 20+ of extra fat it has to pump blood through! Remember that those are your knees that no longer have to carry that extra weight. Just keep your head high and don't feel too bummed... because it really is about you.

Congrats on the 22lb loss already! You're doing awesome!!! I'm just starting myself, and finding the same reaction from some. One of the girls at work keeps offering cookies and all kinds of crap and tells me to "live a little." I attribute it all to jealousy, just like everyone else said. We have to remember that we're doing this for OURSELVES!!! If you're trying to lose weight to impress anyone or gain your Mom's approval, it wont work out. Stick with it! I'm proud of you, and I look up to you since I've only lost two lbs so far!

First of all, congratulations! I hope you're proud of your accomplishment. Secondly, I'm sorry you aren't getting the acknowledgment you probably should. Could it be that your mother has always been there to help you with things? Maybe she feels that your weight loss equals independence for you, and that you won't need her anymore. Could you possibly include her in your efforts to lose weight? Maybe it's that closeness she's craving. Good luck to you, and keep up the good work!

I wonder worry, my Dad is the same. He used to go on about me losing weight, now I've made a few different choices with my food an eating and he is now constantly offering me food and biscuits. I wouldn't worry, I think parents can just be a it funny sometimes, even when they want the best for you, maybe she is worried that it won't stick, I'm sure she's secretly proud.

P.S. good job on losing 21lbs!

I started on MFP 30 days ago and have lost 10 of 40 lbs. so far. Every time I "start a diet" my wife says she supports me but then says "I never know what your doing with your food" when I start ignoring the bad foods in the house. Sometimes I want to just eat all the bad foods in one day to get them out of the house and say "There. Now let's go shopping!"

She has reason to be skeptical as I am a long time yo-yo dieter. But I just hit 60 and something clicked. I realized why did I go through all those years reaching retirement and then throw it all away by being in poor health? So know I want to live as long as possible and enjoy the time I have.

Friends and family (and starngers) say all kinds of things for all kinds of reasons. I agree with those who say stay true to yourself, don't overtalk what you are doing (a big mistake I make) and your mum will be proud of you, even if she doesn't openly express it.

And now I am going to send you a friend request because I think we can help each other reach our goals!

my family, or i should say the women i have to call my mother, has never supported anything ive done to date,
got a tattoo, im dirty looking
got my motorcycle licence, im stupid and going to kill myself
i got a tongue ring, im a slut
i took up pole dance fitness, im a stripper
dating a beautiful man who is in a wheelchair, im wasting my life
these are the things MY MOTHER has said to me. we no longer speak!!
now if i let all that she has said to be get to me, i would not be who i am nor do the things i love to do today.
Screw what other people think, do what you love and if they don't support you, just look in the mirror and remember, you have to be your biggest fan cause its your life, your body, and you have to live with you and be happy with yourself!!

It can be very threatening when someone changes an important part of a relationship.

^^ This.

I know that I have been sabotaged along the way (my whole life) by people who love me, who are comforted by the way things are. When you change physically, they expect that you're changing in other ways too. (which, sometimes is a valid concern, but it shouldn't stop YOU from reaching your goals).

Other than jealousy...

Lots of people don't stick at weight loss attempts, and quit and/or gain it back. maybe they don't beleive in you.

Also unrealistic shows like the Biggest Loser mean that losing 21lb isn't seen as the awesome acheivement that it is, and rather just ' oh, so you've lost half as much in 7 weeks that other people do in 1 week. that's not so special...'

Who did you lose weight for?

There in itself lies the prob. You should feel acomplished enough that it doesnt matter.

If your expecting praise, you wont get it. This has to be about you, a change for you, and when your really in it... everyone else will see, feel, be motivated by it.

That's when the recognition comes. People don't see you leave the house everyday and come home sweaty for months on end. They don't experience the dedication you commit. That's not their view. Their view is when the change from within happens. And then you'll notice everyone wants to be near it.

Keep your head up, forget the praise. That cannot be the motivation.