Some people are so rude!

Good for you for standing up for yourself and saying something. This type of behaviour is not ok, it is actually harassment.

Good for you that you stood up for yourself! You are exactly right about the correlation between being heavy or genetically predisposed to a certain body shape.

I CONGRATULATE YOU FOR YOUR COURAGE! Should this ever happen to me, I hope that I can not only exmplify your professionalism but also your ability to tackle an issue face to face.

Good luck in your fitness journey!

When I gained my composure, I went up to him and said "You know, I'm not easily offended, but that was so rude and unnecessary." When he apologized I told him "There are just some things just don't say to a girl, and that's the worst. It's not okay."

I'm so not easily offended, I can dish it as well as I can take it...but I'd never dish it about something i know is mean and hurtful. I don't know how people think it's okay to make fat jokes. Would they ever walk up to a person in a wheelchair and laugh that they can't walk? It's the same thing.

What a jerk.

First of all kuddos for handling the situation so well...I have to tell you, as an HR person for years... this co-worker crossed the line and you would have every right to file a complaint...
on the other hand, I think what you did was Awesome, I would hope I would have your courage.

I think it is wonderful that you were able to go back and confront him. I don't think I would have been so brave! The great thing about this is that this gives you 1 notch in your belt, so to speak! You can do anything and you are going to march yourself to success! We will try to march right on behind you, cheering you on!!:flowerforyou:

In my experience when men make comments like that they are really unhappy about their own size. Many men want the Swartenager(sp?) type mucles and when they do not have that they take some thing or another to pick on about someone else. Some truely do not know that their actions could actually cause suicidal thought in some people. Of corse there are those bullys who not only do not care they acually revel in causing pain to others. Thankfully those are in the minority. Most just never thought how much they are hurting others by remarks. My brother was one of those. We had a terrible relationship growing up where he constantly teased me for my size. One particular memory was of me getting on the scale not knowing he was hiding behind the door."No get off, too fat!" came from off to the side. I was 6 I think. Anyway after growing up and still bing distant even living in the same town it took him going to prison to get us communicating. Our Mom had died a few years before. And the other family pretty much quit contacting him. But I am deaf so I cannot talk to people. But I can write and after he went in I started writing to him. I mostly am a boring writer but he is a captive adience and even boring stuff gives them something to look forward to. ANyway, after a couple of years writing back and forth he had noticed that a lot of my memorys were of being hurt by some comment or action he did to me as kids. He actually apologised after he realized that these things he said as jokes when we were young had far reaching effects that were very damaging to me. It wasn't that he set out to hurt me so badly that it haunts me even 30 years later. He thought it was just joking around. Maybe if I had the guts to stand up back then and let him know that those remarks made me wish I was dead. Even contimplate how to do it. Maybe he would have layed off of them. He just had not realized that it was possible to break someones spirit with words. We now have the best relationship we have ever had. He is one of my biggest supporters on my weight loss journey. He told me at my last visit he can see a major diffrence in the way I carry myself now. So sometimes it takes speaking up when we encounter remarks that are hurtful. I applaude the bravery of the first poster.

I'm sorry that happened to you...but good for you for standing up for yourself!!!
Fat jokes are one of the few forms of ridicule that are still somewhat acceptable and I think that is rediculous. I've struggled with weight for several years and even though I've never blatently (sp?) been made fun of, kids would make little comments when I was younger that were apparently supposed to be funny. When someone is dealing with all of the issues of being overweight, the last thing they need is someone making fun of them.
So proud that you stood up to that guy!!! :happy:


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My 4 yr old tells me what a big butt I have and I even feel bad when I hear that! So to have an adult on the same level as a 4 yr old is pretty bad.:mad:

I'm glad you put him in his place though!

My 3 year old just started noticing the differences in us too. She said Mommy you got a big bum! And the other day she asked me why I had such a big belly. At first I was upset about it and told her it was not "nice" to say that. But I sat her down and took her hand in mine and showed her that my hand was bigger than hers, then I did the same with feet, legs, arms... that way she could understand big/small, and that some people are different than others. She understood and said she was sorry.
I think it's totally innocent and s/he's just noticing the differences now.