Staying on the wagon during loss/grief/bereavement

I don't have any good ideas, but just wanted to say how very sorry I am to hear that. My father is on his third bought in 5 years, and this is one of my fears as well - that the chemo won't work anymore. I'm also interested in some of the replies - I stopped working out and was de-motivated in the past due to grief.

Hang in there, and keep pushing on.

I'm so sorry about your dad. I lost my grandpa right before Thanksgiving, and until his funeral right after Christmas was a very hard month for me. I didn't eat well or work out, at all (plus the holidays didn't help). I could feel that I would never get back at it how I used to, but then one day I just remembered how proud my grandpa would be for me losing weight and reaching my goals, and that made me realize that I needed to get back on it, and not only make myself proud, but also him, in a way. It will be hard, but maybe something like this will happen to you. Just think what your dad would say when you reach your goal. And if you really can't face the gym/counting calories, take a little break, you'll eventually get back into the swing of things.

Hey, I'm so sorry to hear this. What a tough thing to hear. :-/


The reason I clicked on this thread is because I'm currently trying to find my way through grieving the loss of my parents marriage, and in many ways the loss of my father as connecting with him becomes impossible due to mental illness. All last year I seemed to cope by not paying attention to what I was eating at all, almost looking the other way. I felt like I had so much to deal with (many other things happened that year) that I couldn't handle dealing with my own diet too.


What I found is that when I do deal with my own health, it's not a chore that takes energy away from the rest of my responsibilities, but rather gave me the sense of strength and purpose that enabled me to do better in other areas. When I eat well, not only does the nutrition make me feel better, but also just knowing in my own head that I made good choices makes me feel like I'm capable of handling the rest of the day. When I workout, I feel like I'm a powerful woman and I can handle the other parts of life that are hard. When I start thinking that life, or a diet, or working out, is "too hard", I just tell myself over and over, "That's okay. I can do hard things. I can do hard things."


I don't know if that helps at all but I just wanted to share what I found in my grief journey recently. :-/ Don't let yourself think that you're too tired to eat well and exercise; rather, when things are hardest, that's when you're too tired NOT to eat well and NOT to exercise. Making healthy choices will help you feel a little bit better, and unhealthy choices will make you feel worse. Do yourself a favour and fuel your body and give yourself the chance to work off the negative emotions. You will never regret a day when you choose healthy choices.


Let us know how you do...

My advice is to pray and stay positive for your dad. God is the only one who knows how long your dad has. I have been there so I know how you feel. Just stay as active as you can...i know it's hard. My best advice is prayer. God Bless.

I lost my son at 6 months in December, after 5 months in the hospital. My only advice is that though you know it's coming, it doesn't make it any easier or any better. You will grieve now, and you will grieve completely and differently again later. I'm trying to get back on track after 10 months of being out of the healthy loop. I know exercise and watching what I eat is not the most important thing right now, but I'm working on my motivation again and I know it's a slow process.

Its best to do maintance cut exercise down and let yourself grieve without the stress of weightloss............

((hugs)) xx

Give yourself time to grief and understand you won't be in the same place physcially but don't turn to food. Keep a journal of food and feelings to focus on your feelings instead of covering them up with food. Find a good support group too. I've been through a divorce and that really made me depressed and I felt like I was dying and that was something I wanted...I can't imagine losing my dad. Talk with your dad about your feelings. I'm sure he's proud of you losing weight and his encouragment and "ok" to move on without him can really help.

I hope you find the peace you need through this time.

I'm so so sorry to hear this. When I went through my divorce I gained almost 40 pounds. I would run to the nearest drive through every time a heavy emotion hit. The best advice I can give you is to have healthy no fuss meals ready at home and to throw some healthy snacks in your ba when you go out. For me, emotional eating is goin to happen but if I can make healthier choices the. There is no damage done. I know it's not ideal but even if you can hear up frozen meals at home you are potentially saving 500 calories a meal. Good luck. Feel free to friend me for support