Getting compliments from Gay vs Straight Men

MissVCI
MissVCI Posts: 277 Member
edited November 11 in Chit-Chat
Whenever I get a compliment from a gay man, I love it, I take it for what it is, say thank you and feel great about myself.

But whenever I get a compliment from a straight man, I am skeptical, I assume he's saying just to get some action, and it makes me feel awkward and I blush.

Any ladies have the same problem???

Is there something wrong with me????

Straight men are your compliments just as genuine as a gay man's.
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  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    Why wouldn't our complements mean the same thing? If the dude wants to sleep with you, he must find you attractive.
  • warmachinejt
    warmachinejt Posts: 2,162 Member
    i usually get compliments from straight guys....or at least i hope lol
    and girls don't usually approach me and i don't approach them so nono :\
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    Actually compliments from a gay guy make me feel good like if a friend was telling me because they're going to be honest with me (honest meaning, they'd tell me if I did NOT look good in an outfit, shoes, etc).

    Compliments from a straight guy make me blush. :blushing:

    Pervy "compliments" just piss me off.
  • swordsmith
    swordsmith Posts: 599 Member
    In an odd way...

    I have a gay friend and the other day he says to me "I have to tell you- I would so hit on you now because you look damn good"

    I took it in the positive way it was intended.

    On the other hand- SInce dropping 70+ pounds and lifting like a mad man I have been flat out propositioned by a fair amount of ladies- which is nice but I dont think the wife would give the OK on that! :wink:

    But yeah- I have given compliments to other women who have lost weight and look great with no ulterior motive then positive reenforcement.
  • Miss♥Ivi
    Miss♥Ivi Posts: 461
    I love compliments from gay guys!! They're brutally honest so if I get a compliment from them, then I know I'm doing something right! :laugh:

    When straight men give me compliments, I smile, say thank you and be on my way. I don't really think about it much.

    The pervy compliments will most likely get a really sarcastic, rude, snappy remark in return lol
  • MissVCI
    MissVCI Posts: 277 Member
    Actually compliments from a gay guy make me feel good like if a friend was telling me because they're going to be honest with me (honest meaning, they'd tell me if I did NOT look good in an outfit, shoes, etc).


    I love compliments from gay guys!! They're brutally honest so if I get a compliment from them, then I know I'm doing something right! :laugh:

    When straight men give me compliments, I smile, say thank you and be on my way. I don't really think about it much.

    The pervy compliments will most likely get a really sarcastic, rude, snappy remark in return lol



    That's what it is I know the gay man is being honest, gay men are more honest than girlfriends at times.
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    I don't have that problem..

    A compliment is a compliment
  • marquesajen
    marquesajen Posts: 641
    They're compliments, just that. Are they people you know? Strangers? I'd just treat them the same, if it isn't obviously a come on then it is what you make of it.
  • mariapuhl
    mariapuhl Posts: 529 Member
    I feel like, for all the nice straight guys out, this needs to be said:

    I LOVE compliments from straight guys. Hardcore. Love the compliments. They're awesome.

    What we don't like is pervy compliments. Those are usually just from jerks though.

    So, guys, don't stop giving us compliments, just make them genuine and simple, like "Wow, you look amazing/beautiful/gorgeous". Not, "hot dang, you have a nice rack".
  • PeaceLoveVeggies
    PeaceLoveVeggies Posts: 673 Member
    Actually compliments from a gay guy make me feel good like if a friend was telling me because they're going to be honest with me (honest meaning, they'd tell me if I did NOT look good in an outfit, shoes, etc).

    This <3 I have a gay friend that I ADORE, and who is always straightforward and will tell me when I look hideous. LOL.
  • TheGoblinRoad
    TheGoblinRoad Posts: 835 Member
    I think you're very attractive and I'm not looking for anything! My wife's a hottie, too. :)
  • Sullivanwilson
    Sullivanwilson Posts: 30 Member
    I think I'd just be grateful to GET compliments. I am a compliment-free-zone apparently!
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    For me it's just the opposite, y'know? A straight guy compliments me, I take it for what it is and say thank you, but a gay man? Oh I know that boy wants in my drawers!
  • rsdgirl
    rsdgirl Posts: 241 Member
    personally, i take any compliments i can get . . . . . . thats all there is to it. i dont care who they come from :)
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    Actually compliments from a gay guy make me feel good like if a friend was telling me because they're going to be honest with me (honest meaning, they'd tell me if I did NOT look good in an outfit, shoes, etc).

    Compliments from a straight guy make me blush. :blushing:

    Pervy "compliments" just piss me off.


    this! although the pervy comments from females are my favorite!
  • sillygoose1977
    sillygoose1977 Posts: 2,151 Member
    I take compliments equally from anyone. Most people don't go out of their way to something nice to other people so when they do I accept it, smile and say thank you. Any nice words from people make me happy so I don't ever question it.
  • MissVCI
    MissVCI Posts: 277 Member
    I think you're very attractive and I'm not looking for anything! My wife's a hottie, too. :)

    thank you Goblin. :blushing:
  • CountryBoy65
    CountryBoy65 Posts: 908 Member
    Whenever I get a compliment from a gay man, I love it, I take it for what it is, say thank you and feel great about myself.

    But whenever I get a compliment from a straight man, I am skeptical, I assume he's saying just to get some action, and it makes me feel awkward and I blush.

    Any ladies have the same problem???

    Is there something wrong with me????

    Straight men are your compliments just as genuine as a gay man's.

    And...you can always tell the difference.....how?
  • Italianyc84
    Italianyc84 Posts: 192 Member
    gay men tell the truth more. Gay men will tell you if you look like CRAP. So if one of my many gay male friends tells me my outfit is fierce, I know I'm lookin' good that day!! Yes, moreso than straight men; the gays have better attention to detail.
  • Scott613
    Scott613 Posts: 2,317 Member
    A lesbian once said she liked my flannel shirt. I took it as a compliment.

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  • classicalcrespin
    classicalcrespin Posts: 25
    the way i see it, a compliment is a compliment. there are always going to be creeps who say them with ulterior motives. but unless i get a really strong vibe that that is what's happening, i just smile and say thanks.
  • Bpothik13
    Bpothik13 Posts: 135 Member
    Yeah, a gay man will be honest and forthright with compliments with women, (I always remark: "I don't wanna sleep with you, I just wanna take you shopping!" LOL) but would run the risk of an a**-kicking from a straight guy who perhaps not as comfortable with his masculinity. And for the record, if a gay guy pays a compliment to a straight guy, he should be flattered, not threatened.
  • Helloitsdan
    Helloitsdan Posts: 5,564 Member
    I have a lot of friends, gay and straight!
    Doesn't bug me!
  • MissVCI
    MissVCI Posts: 277 Member
    A lesbian once said she liked my flannel shirt. I took it as a compliment.

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    lmao :laugh: :laugh:
  • katkins3
    katkins3 Posts: 1,359 Member
    I would be overjoyed by a compliment by pretty much anyone. I'm 61 and I'd be kinda sure a compliment didn't mean the person wanted to "sleep" with me.
    I've lost 54 pounds, but I must be invisible, because I never get a comment, much less a compliment.
    If you get compliments, I confess, I envy you.:sad:
  • YassSpartan
    YassSpartan Posts: 1,195 Member
    I guess it all depends on the way the compliment is said. If I told you "wow, you look so effing hot" yeah, that would pretty much would be too much. But if I was to tell you "wow, you look amazing" it wouldn't be as bad :)
  • CountryBoy65
    CountryBoy65 Posts: 908 Member
    Well, I don't know you to compliment you...but based on your avatar pic, I can see that you have a nice pu$$y - cat......!!!
  • Spinelli2288
    Spinelli2288 Posts: 188 Member
    I don't do well with compliments, I don't know why, but I just don't do well. I like compliments from gay men and gay women. My best butch told me the other day that I look good enough to eat, I laughed with her and gave her a big hug as she grabbed my butt. She tells me the truth and I love her for it, even if she really does want to get in my pants now. :laugh: One of the gay guys my boyfriend is in a study group with told him that if he were to try and become straight he would try and steal me away. I took that as a huge compliment and I actually enjoyed it. Now..... when the local cashier (who is fudging hot by the way) told me "You were beautiful before you went on your diet, I wanted your number then, and I still want it now." I didn't believe a word of it. My boyfriend told me that I should have taken that as a huge compliment because he did, but I didn't like it. I over think compliments from straight men, maybe because I grew up with a whole bunch of guys and have a pretty keen insight when it comes to men.
  • Matt_Wild
    Matt_Wild Posts: 2,673 Member
    The funny thing is, women are just as bad and if anything they feel they can put their hands on you when out on a Friday night :ohwell: . But carry on, us men can be awful - makes me embarrassed to hear some men speak... :sick:
  • HeidiMightyRawr
    HeidiMightyRawr Posts: 3,343 Member
    I take all compliments for what they are. A compliment.

    Unless the straight guy was being really creepy and pervy about it, I wouldn't have a problem at all. Only difference is, from a gay guy I may take it more in the same way as I would from a female friend. Whereas a straight guy I'd probably like it a bit more :D
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