Putting Workouts First Over Invitations

Carolyn_79
Carolyn_79 Posts: 935 Member
edited November 2024 in Motivation and Support
For a very long time I've felt badly about myself because of my weight. I even avoided certain social situations because of how I felt. Since I've started this journey I've dropped 13 pounds now and feel more positive about myself. I am making healthier decisions which will improve my life. I made a commitment to myself that I would place my workouts first above everything else. I got myself into a good routine of working 8-4, walking the dogs, and then doing my workout. It now feels like a habit which is great.

I made it a point of telling my closest friends about my journey because their support means a great deal to me. All but one have been incredibly supportive. The one who isn't being supportive is not saying anything negative she just doesn't seem interested at all which is fine. She's always been thin so perhaps it's just not something she can relate to. The problem for me though is that she is constantly inviting me to restaurants or outings in the evening which conflicts with my work-out. I'm constantly turning her down as a result and I sense she's getting upset. I have made it a point of suggesting we do something on the weekends in the hopes that it will help reassure her that I'm not avoiding her in anyway.

Has anyone ever been in a similar situation and how did you handle it? I value my friendships but for once I'm valuing my health as well and I'm not willing to skip my work-outs.

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  • louismetal
    louismetal Posts: 19
    Well done on your weight loss so far and congratulations in making your health a priority! I was in a place a while ago where I passed up invitations because I felt I couldn't and wouldn't disrupt my routine which at the time I felt great about but it became distructive to my social life and after a while I found the invites dwindling and started to find myself in an increasingly lonely place. Its all about balance. Could you fit in a workout while out with the dogs? Could you meet your friends after a workout, even if it means doing a shorter more intense one or even just move a weekday workout to the weekend? I know its scary messing with your routine, it can feel like if you break it, it'll be a downward spiral but its ok to be flexible and enjoy yourself.

    Hope this helps.
    L.
  • Carolyn_79
    Carolyn_79 Posts: 935 Member
    Thank you for your response and I do see your point in that I need to be flexible. I guess for me the problem is more that the invites are always to restaurants. I don't want to skip a workout and then go to a restaurant. It feels like a double whammy. I'll talk to her and explain where I'm at and suggest doing things after my workout that preferably don't involve eating out. I'm fine with eating out but prefer to keep it to once a week. In the past 7 days I've gotten 4 invitations to a restaurant.
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