Where to go from here? :(

Visualize your goal. I know this sounds lame but it worked for me. I put a 100 days to work out on a piece of paper and every time i go, i cross a day off. Being able to see it makes me feel better. I have done 26 workouts this year and lost 15 lbs.

If you try to change everything at once, then get frustrated and fall back into your old patterns, you have made zero progress. If you make a tiny change and maintain it, you reap the benefits for all the years you might otherwise have been trying and failing over and over again. So don't be overambitious. Every change for the good is worth making if you can sustain it, no matter how tiny.

I would start by just logging what you do when you are eating your regular food and doing your regular activity. Don't try to change anything. Just logging is enough of a change to learn. Get a smart phone so there's never an excuse to delay or forget to log. Get a food scale for home and work, and cup measures teaspoons, so all measurements are as precise as a science experiment.

After about a month, analyze the results like an anthropologist studying a new culture. Step back from deciding if your habits or good or bad; they just are what they are. How many calories are you really eating when you eat whatever you want? How much exercise do you get when you do only what you feel like doing? What foods are you eating? Which foods are you eating because you really love them? Which ones are you eating because someone else cooked them? What are you eating in portions of someone else's choosing? What are you eating because you are in a hurry? What are you eating to reward yourself? What about when you feel you deserve something to make you feel better? What do you cook for yourself? Where do you shop, and when? What time do you have available for shopping, cooking, eating, and cleaning up? Who else eats with you and what are their needs/demands? How much change is really under your control? Is food just food, or is it something else at times? How much of a meal do you really taste, and how much is just continuing to eat? How long do you sit at the table having conversation at meals, and what is available to eat while you sit there?

Now you can make rational decisions about what you can change, and what you're willing to change. If you love your sugary breakfast cereal and will feel deprived if you switch to something else, don't switch. But now that you know how much you eat every morning, measure a tablespoon less. If you drink a 20 oz soda every afternoon, try drinking a 12 oz one. If you usually eat 1 1/2 cups of rice a dinner, try eating 1 1/4 cups. Just make one little change, and try to make it so small you can't notice without measuring. Then when you're comfortable, try something else.

The idea is that small increments won't feel like a change from your normal habits, so there will be no need to fall back into them. You don't need to lose weight fast, as long as you maintain whatever gains you achieve. Most people never do that.

If you try to change everything at once, then get frustrated and fall back into your old patterns, you have made zero progress. If you make a tiny change and maintain it, you reap the benefits for all the years you might otherwise have been trying and failing over and over again. So don't be overambitious. Every change for the good is worth making if you can sustain it, no matter how tiny.

I would start by just logging what you do when you are eating your regular food and doing your regular activity. Don't try to change anything. Just logging is enough of a change to learn. Get a smart phone so there's never an excuse to delay or forget to log. Get a food scale for home and work, and cup measures teaspoons, so all measurements are as precise as a science experiment.

After about a month, analyze the results like an anthropologist studying a new culture. Step back from deciding if your habits or good or bad; they just are what they are. How many calories are you really eating when you eat whatever you want? How much exercise do you get when you do only what you feel like doing? What foods are you eating? Which foods are you eating because you really love them? Which ones are you eating because someone else cooked them? What are you eating in portions of someone else's choosing? What are you eating because you are in a hurry? What are you eating to reward yourself? What about when you feel you deserve something to make you feel better? What do you cook for yourself? Where do you shop, and when? What time do you have available for shopping, cooking, eating, and cleaning up? Who else eats with you and what are their needs/demands? How much change is really under your control? Is food just food, or is it something else at times? How much of a meal do you really taste, and how much is just continuing to eat? How long do you sit at the table having conversation at meals, and what is available to eat while you sit there?

Now you can make rational decisions about what you can change, and what you're willing to change. If you love your sugary breakfast cereal and will feel deprived if you switch to something else, don't switch. But now that you know how much you eat every morning, measure a tablespoon less. If you drink a 20 oz soda every afternoon, try drinking a 12 oz one. If you usually eat 1 1/2 cups of rice a dinner, try eating 1 1/4 cups. Just make one little change, and try to make it so small you can't notice without measuring. Then when you're comfortable, try something else.

The idea is that small increments won't feel like a change from your normal habits, so there will be no need to fall back into them. You don't need to lose weight fast, as long as you maintain whatever gains you achieve. Most people never do that.

This. Just, all of this. Don't get discouraged. Make small changes and don't try to do too much.

I struggled with weight and not having the motivation to do anything about it for years. There just has to be that tipping point that makes you stick with it. You can do this. Don't stop, keep going. It's going to happens slowly but it will happen. You could give up now and be unhappy in a few weeks or you could keep going and be thrilled at your progress in a few weeks.

Don't give up!

I was super happy with my weight and then I got a little down and put on 10-15 lbs. So I decided to give up. Now, in 6 months I have packed 50 lbs onto that once cute body. I really regret giving up. Friend me and we can inspire each other.

Visualize your goal. I know this sounds lame but it worked for me. I put a 100 days to work out on a piece of paper and every time i go, i cross a day off. Being able to see it makes me feel better. I have done 26 workouts this year and lost 15 lbs.

Probably the best response to this post. Sometimes we need something compelling to drive us, but we need support to stick through it. Most importantly you need a plan as mentioned from this user. And you have to stick to the plan, even on the days when you don't want to or just don't feel like it. I wish you the best of luck and I'll friend you on here and provide as much as support virtually as possible.

Don't let a day/week/month of failure derail what you have started.

All you have to do is to plan and set goals which you can reached.
Go to the next level once you have reached the first goal.

Planning, Discipline and self-control go hand in hand to be successful in loosing weight.

Go Girl I believe you can do it.

Visualize your goal. I know this sounds lame but it worked for me. I put a 100 days to work out on a piece of paper and every time i go, i cross a day off. Being able to see it makes me feel better. I have done 26 workouts this year and lost 15 lbs.

That is a fantastic idea! I think I may just have to steal that one......:happy:

Visualize your goal. I know this sounds lame but it worked for me. I put a 100 days to work out on a piece of paper and every time i go, i cross a day off. Being able to see it makes me feel better. I have done 26 workouts this year and lost 15 lbs.

That is a fantastic idea! I think I may just have to steal that one......:happy:

no need to steal, its yours for free! :bigsmile: