Help! I've fallen off the wagon and I'm too fat to climb bac

I also fell off the wagon at about 6 weeks. I don't know if I was PMSing or just falling off the wagon or what but it lasted 2 weeks. I did still log in everyday. I would encourage you to do the same. You are the only person you have to report to and that's it but don't lie to yourself.

I think that even though I went over my calories every single day I still knew where I was at.

I'm back on track again and feeling pretty good again.

I dont know why we beat ourselves up so bad when we fall of the wagon but we do. All we can do is climb back on whether we jump back on or slowly climb back on.

Don't give up! You have lost an amazing amount of weight already.

You can do it!!! Go back and pull up your stats and look at the nice decrease you've seen and hopefully that will also give you encouragement.

My main tip is to log what you're eating. No judgement. Just write it down. You might be surprised that it's not *as* bad as it used to be. And find ways to start to whittle it back to what you deem "good"...

The title of this post is so great. Tomorrow starts a new week...What better time to OWN it!?

I think for some people, they just can't do a cheat meal. Personally for me, having a cheat day/meal gives me motivation to not over eat during the week. I make a plan that I will make a delicious dinner on Sunday and have a nice dessert without worrying about calorie counting. When I think about having an extra bit of this or that or going into the cupboard for some chocolate, I just remind myself that I am going to get a treat on Sunday. I don't need the treat right then, I can wait. If I eat the extra right then, then I don't get my delicious dinner on Sunday.

That seems to work for me, talking myself through things. Sometimes just kind of talking about the food and what it really means. Like sometimes I will really REALLY want to just binge on cookies, but then I think about how it will only really satisfy a temporary craving, it's not going to actually make me happy or make me feel better. I try and remind myself of the negatives of what a binge would do. It's a struggle, but after awhile the more positive thoughts seem to push through. Just try and talk yourself through things and don't be hard on yourself. Don't tell yourself that you are a failure or anything like that and don't feel guilty for eating things you want.

I know what you mean by saying that it feels like it's going to be an endless journey. Sometimes it just feels so daughting.
Just take things one day at a time. Maybe say "tomorrow I will substitute one snack with an apple", and just leave it at that. Or "tomorrow I will substitute a cookie for a yogurt". I think if you start small and try to give yourself small challenges you will have better luck at trying to get back on track.

If you're too fat to climb back on... then walk along side for a while!

Don't beat yourself up you're not finding it easy to lose weight - that's just the way it is.

Keep logging in, keep logging your food, keep moving (even a little bit of a walk along side the wagon!) and celebrate every little victory.

You might also find it easier to set some short term, more achievable, goals that aren't all about the scales:
- eat a healthy breakfast every day
or
- drink x amount of water
or
- walk for 20 mins a day
or
- swap one milky, sugary coffee for a long black or a glass of water with a squeeze of lemon.

These small changes add up into big results if you keep doing them... and better still, they make you feel good because it is something active and positive that you can do and it takes the focus off the number on the scales.

Before your cheat meal, plan what your breakfast will be the next day... then you're already on the way to getting back on track.

Since I started mfp, I stopped "cheat" meals... even for my birthday, Super Bowl, V-Day, etc... "cheat" meals made me fat (that and not going to the gym enough). I don't miss being bad. I love good, healthy food and I am happy to stick with it. If I allow myself cheat meals I will find reasons to have them and that is counterproductive.

I need a kick in the pants!

For 6 weeks, I ate really well. Felt great. Lost weight. Yadda yadda.

Then, I gave in to one treat meal. Though WTH? I'll get back on it at the next meal.

...3 weeks later, I'm still telling myself I'll back back with it tomorrow.

How do people manage eating a "cheat" meal, whatever you want to call it, and get right back with it? I feel like for me, it's either all or nothing. If I eat ANYTHING I shouldn't, it just ends everything else.

I KNOW that a lot of it is psychological. I have spent a lot of time in counseling trying to deal with my emotional eating, but I slip right back into bad habits. Eating something I shouldn't makes me feel bad, which makes me eat, which makes me feel bad. Cue cycle that never ends.

I still log into MFP every day, telling myself that as long as I'm logging in I haven't actually forgotten what I'm trying to do. But, that hasn't made me actually LOG what I'm eating.

I want this, I really do. I want to know what healthy feels like. But it seems like such an endless journey.

I guess I mostly just wanted to get this out. Any tips on dealing with emotional eating?

Then don't eat cheat meals. They're stupid anyways.

For me the trick is to not deprive myself of the stuff I love. I just try to eat a smaller portion or in some way alter it so that it is lower calorie. I don't have cheat meals. I may have what I call an "expensive" meal but on those days I have a lighter lunch and I do a little extra on my workout. Like tonight we are having cheeseburgers, fries and salad. I'm using 93% meat and I'm eating a low cal lunch. Last week we had pizza and I just worked out extra to be able to have it. I feel that if I deprive myself of the stuff I like I'll never be able to stick with this long term. Hope this helps.