PRIVATE MESSAGE FROM A 'FRIEND' ON HERE

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  • shedoos
    shedoos Posts: 446 Member

    IMO, publicly re-posting her message seems to support her argument that you need to quit looking for sympathy and put on your big girl panties.

    +1

    I think that was a well written message with only the best of intentions. It's called "tough love" for a reason...
  • sandown12
    sandown12 Posts: 648 Member
    I'm confused, that sounds like a great message from someone who genuinely cares. *scratches head*

    What do you want, all rainbows and unicorns, someone to jump around waving pom poms every time you complete your diary or burn 110 calories? Obviously you said something that prompted this. Perhaps you had a bad day, were feeling discouraged, wanted to give up. This person sounds like they are encouraging you to fight for YOU.

    Personally you can keep the cheerleaders. I want some hard@ss b!tches telling me that I'm WORTH IT.

    \i dont expect praise from anyone I am 42 have done this before all alone ,I have a handful of mfp who I can relate to.
    All I simply said was

    I feel ;( today wish I could be at Goal........I havent said anything else
    Quiet a few others on my friend have said the same,Im sorry but should we not say we feel :( ever?
  • shaypearl
    shaypearl Posts: 307 Member
    I’m sorry your feelings are hurt but whoever this friend is I NEED HER IN MY LIFE. To me she was just being honest. This weight loss stuff is not a game; you have to work hard at. We all deal with life struggles and sometimes we need friends so say ‘Look, I care about you, get your butt up and get to moving. It’s time to be a better you, the you you signed up to be and I will not sit here and let you fail’.

    To me she’s just trying to push you, and I’m lucky enough to have friend in my life that does that same dang thing. So OP, get up, you can do it. Life is going to keep moving with or without you. Let’s make everyday count and kick these struggles and weight loss issues in the butt.
  • juli3b2011
    juli3b2011 Posts: 77 Member
    Now you said a mouthful. Well said!!!! <In response to _SusieQ's response>
  • BondBomb
    BondBomb Posts: 1,781 Member
    Everyone has a different opinion on what support is... and clearly a slap in the butt and tough love isn't for you. There's no problem with that, just delete the person that you choose not to hear from anymore.

    IMO, publicly re-posting her message seems to support her argument that you need to quit looking for sympathy and put on your big girl panties.
    Exactly. Maybe tough love doesnt work for you. There is nothing wrong with that. But it is clear her post came from her trying to be your 'friend'. But what kind of 'friend' reposts the attempted supportive words of someone and criticizes them? Why not just tell her it hurt you? Or defriend her like she suggested.
    Based on your reposting her personal message to you I am guessing that friendship is over anyway.
  • catcrazy
    catcrazy Posts: 1,740 Member
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