Self - Sabatoge

Gallen88
Gallen88 Posts: 171 Member
edited November 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
I am in desperate need of help. any articles, reads, books anything you have on this topic i am open to it. I have a huge problem with self-sabotage. i will go strong for months at a time and when i start to notice the drastic changes in my body, subconsciouslyi get , i guess scared and i sabotage myself. For example, when my breast started to shrink ( my entire goal for working out) it was unfamiliar cuz the'd drastically changed. well i started to sabotage myself. I need help.. this is hindering me

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  • Gallen88
    Gallen88 Posts: 171 Member
    help? anyone?
  • ElementalEscapee
    ElementalEscapee Posts: 552 Member
    Bump....I think I have that problem as well, and would like to hear what people have to say. c:
  • CoffeeNBooze
    CoffeeNBooze Posts: 966 Member
    I guess the first thing you'd have to ask yourself is why you're afraid of change? What don't you want to happen? Change is good, especially the one you're making. I wish I could be more help than that but I think that's the first place to start!
  • Pebble321
    Pebble321 Posts: 6,423 Member
    I found "Eating Less" by Gillian Riley agood read and with some quite concrete ideas to try to help stop overeating.
    She focusses on setting goals other than weight loss and has some other good stuff too. I bought it on Kindle and need to go back to read it again!
  • kleighsamboer
    kleighsamboer Posts: 250
    I answered a question like this earlier today. I think a lot of women have issues with this. We put on the weight for a reason. You need to figure out why you put the weight on. For me it was because I had been abused by men for a great deal of my life and it was like my protection so, when I start to lose weight an immense fear comes over me. Now that I understand I can fix my thinking and do things to make myself feel more at ease with the change. You just haven't found that out for yourself yet.
  • Bikini_Bound150
    Bikini_Bound150 Posts: 461 Member
    I agree with the others.

    You need to figure out why you gained weight, deal with that mental issue and overcome it before you can move forward.
  • Bikini_Bound150
    Bikini_Bound150 Posts: 461 Member
    Good luck to you. I hope you find what is causing you to self sabotage and you can be the woman you really want to be!
  • Survivor1997
    Survivor1997 Posts: 59 Member
    I hinder myself for a different reason. Every time I lose a substantial amount of weight, something bad seems to happen in my life.

    The first time, it was finding out I had breast cancer. (15 years ago) Turned out that losing weight may have saved my life. Had it not been for that, the lump I found myself might have gone unnoticed. I gained weight during chemo, 5 years on Tamoxifen, and kept on going.

    The middle time I lost weight, (7 years ago) I won't go into. Still have a hole in my heart from that one.

    The last time, (3 years ago) I lost 50 pounds in hopes that I could dump my diabetes, blood pressure, and depression meds. Didn't happen, no matther how many on the Biggest Loser claim. Doesn't work for everyone. The doctor put ended up being me on even stronger blood pressure. I figured, what's the point? So, I put the weight back on.

    And here I am again, because the fact remains...I feel so much better without the weight. I can walk up the stairs without losing my breath. I sleep better. I save money from not eating crappy foods. I am a much happier person. There is nothing but my own fears preventing me from being permanently successful.

    My doctor once told me that I deserved to feel the best that I could. He was right. And, so do you. Be honest with yourself. Acknowledge what is holding you back...you know what it is. Learn from it, move beyond it, , let it go.

    Think about it.
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