Stay At Home Moms Need......

Oh, sorry I thought this was going to be a "fill in the blank" and my answer was going to be "chocolate".

This is really true. I've been a stay at home parent for 5 years, and we definitely do sacrifice a lot for this lifestyle. Our own sanity being one of those things. I was/am fortunate enough to be a part of a huge group of women all going through the same struggles and triumphs, which really took the edge off of the super difficult years. As cliche as they sound, playgroups or moms groups can be life savers.

I love that I'm a SAHM, but I do miss work and conversation with adults. When I do get "adult" conversation sometimes the only thing I can add is that Olivia switched places with a princess that had freckles...

Totally true.

My poor husband lol. He comes home from work at the end of the day and I just don't shut up! I have no one to talk to during the day, other than 'goo goo ga ga' to my 4 month old. I found myself speaking 'parentese' to an AT&T rep a few weeks ago :O

I have friends who think all I do is sit at home all day long and make faces at my baby girl or play online. The only time my computer is turned on is after 10pm after baby and hubby are finally in bed. Chores take twice as long because I have a baby in one arm and the other arm is trying to keep her happy with a toy or binky or something. I couldn't imagine having more than just the one :O

It's not all fun and games, although I wouldn't trade it for anything else in the world. I am so fortunate to get to spend so much time with my newborn and see all of her 'firsts.'

But yes - a conversation with some intelligence behind it would be nice once in a while

This is so true and I think my biggest challenge as a SAHM. The weirdest thing is when I meet people- say at my husbands work party. People start talking to me, they seem really interested in getting to know me until they ask what I do. Then I become a non person.

I used to find that when I first quit working. Later I found that was only what I thought, not what was actually true. I spent years pursuing advanced degrees and a high-paying career and I had learned to define myself through my job title. It took some getting used to my new role and, honestly, some growing up on my part, to reestablish my confidence as a person.

I do not have to impress people by listing degrees, or job titles, or the number of kids I have (because you know there are annoying people who think that the more children they have the better mom they must be).

I can just be me, and I'm entertaining and fun to be around, regardless of my current role in society.

Being a SAHM is different now that my kids are getting older. I have 3 in school and 1 in preschool 3 days so I have a good degree of freedom. Also, I am less of a helicopter-mom than I was when I only had 1. I know what I'm doing and it works for me. Each kid brings different challenges and their behavior is unique. Not all 11-year-olds do the same things. Nor will we, as SAHMS be having the same experiences at the same time.

I'm just hoping I make it through without them killing me (I know they're trying).

Anyway, here's something a friend of mine who is in AA, sober for 23 years says: "No one is thinking about anyone but themselves. Do not imagine for a moment that they are wasting their time thinking negative things about you. They are too busy thinking negative things about themselves." Very true, and very freeing.

blessings.

Totally agree with AJburroughs!
I have a 10mo old who cries all the time & a 3 1/2 year old who talks all the time. Nighttime is the best time when everyone is sleep. lol

Very true. We went to my In-laws house today, and my hubby told me to "be quiet, you're irritating my parents." We moved to his home town and I feel isolated right now. He comes from a long line of non-talkers.

I feel sometimes I have to take a step back from myself when around people. I worked 7 years in customer service and used to be capable of 'selling ice to an Eskimo' but now I find it hard to say just the right thing, or how to hold myself back when I'm talking too much. I never thought I'd become antisocial.

all the luck to you being in a new town and "non talkers as family'. i'm a 3/4 stay home mom i work 1 weekday and 1 weekend day other than that i'm always at home/with my children (almost 4 girl and 20 mo. boy). there are times when i so isolated from other adults all of my family and friends have day jobs that can not be bothered,so it's just me until my husband gets home. We'll have family dinners and chat for a bit until he has to get done with what he has to do. Can i just say one of my best friends was getting me set up on gargage sale/ childrens clothing sites on FB. this one very emotional day a few weeks ago i was accepted to a SAHM group of Carol Stream around my area, that i thought would be nice but when the leader of the group wanted everyone to introduce themselves i did. apparently this group had selected a certain group of towns on each side of me to join but they turned thier noses up to my area for some reason (to the point of you would have to drive thru my town to get to either one). the group leader that accepted me had also sent me an IM within 2 min. and kicked me off of the group. i can not tell you how hurtful that was. yes i'm a bit bitter about this if i start thinking of it, but i wanted to ask that lady/mom what would she do/feel about someone doing that to her when she is feeling so seperated from other adult talking, friends, suggestions, HELP or who knows. sorry i rambled on but this subject it kinda hit home althought i may not be a complete SAHM but my 1 day a week that really adds up to 3hrs i think is pretty darn close.. agian sorry about carrying on but, thanks for listening

AMEN!! :drinker: