Binge Eating - HELP!

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  • LUVNME94
    LUVNME94 Posts: 34
    For me logging all my food, when I see the calories going up and no exercise to counter it, it drives me crazy, so that is what keeps me balanced. I know it is hard, after losing 68 pounds it has been a challenge for me because a part of you wants to eat again. You can resist the urge just remember how you felt when you were heavier, you don't want to go back to that, so that will also keep you from binge eating.
  • peapod1976
    peapod1976 Posts: 3 Member
    Often when we feel like that our natural gut flora can be out of balance, causing us to have more cravings.

    Try taking a good quality probiotic before bed on an empty stomach preferably with bottled distilled water as your tap water may contain flouride which kills good bacteria.

    You may notice a difference within a day or two.
  • I am a HUGE binge eater. I like my snacks. We have kids but you wouldn't know it to look in our pantry. We do not keep chips and the like in our house - primarily because of me. But I have kept myself in check by doing a few things:

    1. I buy snacks for me - smart snacks. WW string cheese sticks, Jello fat/sugar free snack cups, 1/2 fat ice cream (HUGE fan), etc. Find your things you can't give up and don't deny them. Find healthier versions and measure out the servings in to baggies or snack cups. This way you won't be tempted to take another scoop, or 3, from the ice cream container.

    2. Prepare. I make healthy snacks too. I eat my celery sticks (stuffed with a laughing cow wedge usually). I pre slice my veggies on Sunday for my snacks for the week. It really does help. But planning out your meals, and snacks for the week, helps. It doesn't mean that on Monday you'll have A for breakfast, B for morning snack, and C for lunch. It means that you have healthy options already picked out, prepared, and ready to go.

    3. I eat about every 2 hours. You would think it's hard to do, but actually rather simple. An alarm on a phone or watch helps. I'm not talking full meals. For me, breakfast is the hardest meal to conquer. Getting up at 6am and preparing kids' lunches and breakfasts and getting myself ready at the same time. I don't want to eat so early in the morning after getting up. So I eat my breakfast over several hours: I eat within an hour of getting up - something small, like a cereal bar and maybe a little glass of non-fat milk to wash it down. 2 hours later, a piece of protein/fruit/or carbs (egg/orange/cereal), 2 hours later again, but I do not eat what I already consumed - but no double dipping (ex: no seconds on carbs). By lunch, I will have eaten a complete and full breakfast (all food groups). Repeat with my lunch (extending over several hours). Dinner is eaten as one meal. I find by dinner I am not ravenous, or even hungry enough to eat all that is on my plate in one sitting.

    4. Have your snacks. After dinner, we have dessert, EVERY night. I LOVE ice cream, hence the reason why I pre scoop 1/2 cup snack cups ahead of time of a 'healthier' option. Jello pudding cups are great too (Cherry cheesecake - YUM!) I also have fruit sorbet tubes, frozen go-gurt, No Pudge brownies (these are a minute to mix and a minute to microwave 1 serving).

    I've bought chips, cheese curls, and more at one time or another because I wanted them. The smart thing is that I always buy the healthier ones (baked lays) and I always put them in prepackaged, premeasured baggies for grab and go. With eating every 2 hours or so, I have found my cravings for these items to be way down. I've now gotten to the point where I RARELY want junkfood snacks. Even in instances where I have been up late at night at the store, and checked out with more than what I wanted (chips at checkout), I make better choices in choosing what to eat and I don't end up eating the whole thing. I think your tummy gets used to the ACTUAL serving size and your cravings subside after you've consumed it.

    I should note that the 'prepackaged' sized that come from the manufacturers, like soda, is not usually for 1 serving. They can also be mismarked. I still can't figure out why the individual package of baked lays has more chips for 1 serving than what the big bag says 1 serving is.
  • LUVNME94
    LUVNME94 Posts: 34
    Stay strong flisafakto you don't want to go back. I actually gained weight this month because sadly I was not eating enough. When you hit these moments it helps to get advice from a nutritionist. Now I can feel and see that I am back on track. Do not get discouraged somethimes we have to go through these moments but we can overcome. I was an emotional eater so I truly know what you are going through. Just know that you are an overcomer and you will make it over this hump.
  • I should note that I have just figured this out in the last few months. It was what was sabotaging me in my weightloss. Now that I've got a system down and under control, my food log is under calories every night and I am starting to loose. My trainer tells me that eating so often helps your metabolism work at it's best also.
  • darlilama
    darlilama Posts: 794 Member
    Food for thought. :D Your diary isn't open, so I don't know how much you are actually eating or how much you are exercising. However, I do have times when my body seems to SCREAM at me to eat. And, sometimes, I think it's because I NEED to eat more. Not junk food, but good stuff. So, I'll have a healthy "cheat" day, or just not worry about going over my daily goals by 100-200 calories a day for a week. Honestly, it hasn't hurt my weight loss progress.

    Now the trick to this (I believe) is to eat extra good stuff and not succumb to eating what's readily available… that bag of chips, that bar of chocolate. Don't get me wrong. I have treats… typically chocolate… every day, but it's always in moderation.

    But, if the only thing that "satisfies" you is junk food, then it probably is a nasty binge craving and you need to do your best to not cave it. Everyone's different. Some people can have a bad day and get right back on track, so no harm done. But, if you are one of those that giving in takes you immediately down a dark path, then best not to give in at all!

    Best of luck to you!!!
  • darlilama
    darlilama Posts: 794 Member
    I am a HUGE binge eater. I like my snacks. We have kids but you wouldn't know it to look in our pantry. We do not keep chips and the like in our house - primarily because of me. But I have kept myself in check by doing a few things:

    1. I buy snacks for me - smart snacks. WW string cheese sticks, Jello fat/sugar free snack cups, 1/2 fat ice cream (HUGE fan), etc. Find your things you can't give up and don't deny them. Find healthier versions and measure out the servings in to baggies or snack cups. This way you won't be tempted to take another scoop, or 3, from the ice cream container.

    2. Prepare. I make healthy snacks too. I eat my celery sticks (stuffed with a laughing cow wedge usually). I pre slice my veggies on Sunday for my snacks for the week. It really does help. But planning out your meals, and snacks for the week, helps. It doesn't mean that on Monday you'll have A for breakfast, B for morning snack, and C for lunch. It means that you have healthy options already picked out, prepared, and ready to go.

    3. I eat about every 2 hours. You would think it's hard to do, but actually rather simple. An alarm on a phone or watch helps. I'm not talking full meals. For me, breakfast is the hardest meal to conquer. Getting up at 6am and preparing kids' lunches and breakfasts and getting myself ready at the same time. I don't want to eat so early in the morning after getting up. So I eat my breakfast over several hours: I eat within an hour of getting up - something small, like a cereal bar and maybe a little glass of non-fat milk to wash it down. 2 hours later, a piece of protein/fruit/or carbs (egg/orange/cereal), 2 hours later again, but I do not eat what I already consumed - but no double dipping (ex: no seconds on carbs). By lunch, I will have eaten a complete and full breakfast (all food groups). Repeat with my lunch (extending over several hours). Dinner is eaten as one meal. I find by dinner I am not ravenous, or even hungry enough to eat all that is on my plate in one sitting.

    4. Have your snacks. After dinner, we have dessert, EVERY night. I LOVE ice cream, hence the reason why I pre scoop 1/2 cup snack cups ahead of time of a 'healthier' option. Jello pudding cups are great too (Cherry cheesecake - YUM!) I also have fruit sorbet tubes, frozen go-gurt, No Pudge brownies (these are a minute to mix and a minute to microwave 1 serving).

    I've bought chips, cheese curls, and more at one time or another because I wanted them. The smart thing is that I always buy the healthier ones (baked lays) and I always put them in prepackaged, premeasured baggies for grab and go. With eating every 2 hours or so, I have found my cravings for these items to be way down. I've now gotten to the point where I RARELY want junkfood snacks. Even in instances where I have been up late at night at the store, and checked out with more than what I wanted (chips at checkout), I make better choices in choosing what to eat and I don't end up eating the whole thing. I think your tummy gets used to the ACTUAL serving size and your cravings subside after you've consumed it.

    I should note that the 'prepackaged' sized that come from the manufacturers, like soda, is not usually for 1 serving. They can also be mismarked. I still can't figure out why the individual package of baked lays has more chips for 1 serving than what the big bag says 1 serving is.

    Great ideas! I frequently "pre-package" my snacks - even the celery and cheese ones - to keep me from going overboard and it makes logging easier, too.
  • I used to binge eat a lot. I would eat without even knowing it and when I'm done with the snack I'd feel so incredibly sick. I'm not bulimic because I don't bring it up, nor am I anorexic. But my biggest problem is that when I look in the mirror I hate what I see. For a very long time I was like the. I changed this though and I've been doing good so far. There are 3 things I do:

    (1) when I feel hungry I drink water. Not only does this increase my liquid intake and keep me hydrated but it fills me up. Sometimes our cravings can be mistaken for dehydration. So I drink like two cups and wait a half hour, usually the hunger subsides.

    (2) I chew gum. Harmless activity that tricks the mind into thinking that food is coming into the stomach. This way I know I'm not obstructing my diet, but still getting a kick out of a snack that I don't have to digest.

    (3) I do something to distract myself. Paint my nails, go for a run, read a book, article or something else. That's the beauty of it, we often forget we need to eat once we do something else.

    With these 3 simple techniques I've trained myself to ignore the evil that they call food. I've learned that my binging stems from my emotions. When I'm feeling emotional I eat. Maybe you should pay close attention to when your binges happen. This way you can prepare and try and safe-guard yourself. I now have a diary!! When I'm feeling emotional I write or call up a friend and ask to talk. Once I've gotten rid of the emotion I forget to eat. So I don't binge. It's not easy at first, but maybe you should give it a try. I look in the mirror now and love what I see :D
  • O I forgot to add, that if you have a craving see to it. You need just enough to make it go away. If you put it off all the time when you finally give in you will over indulge. So its okay to have a cheat day every once in a while. I also eat a lot more asian cuisine. It's healthy, filling and super delicious. I love stir fries because they quick and easy to make. And sushi is a kind of reward for me, yum.

    xx
  • christina0089
    christina0089 Posts: 709 Member
    This has been a horrible weekend for me and I mean horrible. My loves birthday celebrations seemed to stretch from thursday thru saturday. It was the first birthday of his that I got to spend with him as he only moved here in june. So we over did it,

    I am talking myself back and looking at that ticker and reading 19lbs lost and thnking how hard it was to get there and do I really want to have to start all over?!

    The answer is NO. I don't want to have to start over so I am starting NOW I am making my shopping list and I am going to the store, restocking my supplies then going to home depot to get some things I need for some chores around here and I am getting busy. I know that if I sit here and dwell or just do nothing the cycle will continue so I won't let it. By doing something taking deliberate steps to stop where I am now and get back on track I am taking control. Which is what I need to do as I am the only person responsible for my decisions and my actions.

    I say be responsible for yours as well. Get motivated by taking deliberate steps to stop the binging in its tracks and get yourself back on track.

    I know I can do it and I know you can too! You want the happy healthy life you were meant for so get it, reach out and grab it and don't let go!

    Good luck! :flowerforyou:
  • JoanneLynn
    JoanneLynn Posts: 156 Member
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  • barefoot76
    barefoot76 Posts: 314 Member
    *hugs* I am a recovering binge eater, so I know how you feel. Here are my tricks:

    In the SHORT term: I write down what I want to eat in a little notebook and tell myself I can have it later. There is something about writing it down and promising myself that I can have it eventually that helps. Part of me binges because there is a voice in my head that says, "What if I can never have this again? Someone else might eat it! It might go bad! I should eat it now!" If I write it down, I feel better, and then I often forget about it later.

    For the LONG term, I keep a journal where I write down how I am feeling when I want to binge. Over time, I have identified my triggers and realized that my binges are very emotionally driven. Stress makes me fake-hungry. I'm not actually hungry, but I don't feel good and I am pretty sure that food will make me feel better. I journal to try to understand why I don't feel good and try to then solve the actual problem rather than stuffing my feelings temporarily with food.

    I also have identified foods that are "dangerous" for me, you know, the ones where I can't have just one. Most simple carbs are like that for me. It takes a lot of self control, but I do everything I can to avoid bread and pasta because I have very little self control after taking that first bite!

    Progress, not perfection. Over time, I am slowly getting better at controlling my bad habits. I mess up, but I just keep telling myself that I am making progress and that is really what counts.

    I hope this helps!
  • 1derfuldia
    1derfuldia Posts: 24 Member
    There are certain foods that trigger me and I can't stop eating anything after I take a bite. Mine is cheese and anything carby. I feel your pain. Hang in there :)

    Cheese is a huge problem for me. What do you do to control it?
  • funkycamper
    funkycamper Posts: 998 Member
    Wow, lots of good advice in this discussion.

    Ya know, we're all different. I used to binge and then feel bad about it. Although I don't think it was ever tied to emotions. More just if it was in the house, it kept calling my name. For awhile, I just didn't have anything in the house but that wasn't really fair to my family. And I would still binge when I was out somewhere, like a party or other social event, so it really didn't fix the problem anyway, just lessened how often I did it.

    I started realizing that I had certain food labeled as bad foods and, if I ate them, I was bad, too, so I didn't deserve to be thin anyway so I might as well eat them. One day I was having lunch with a friend who has always been very slender, my husband thinks she's too thin...ya know, the type that was rid of her pregnancy weight in just a couple of months and such. Well, for years when we went out I would be jealous because she would order a meal and dessert, eat the dessert first, and then just eat a bit of her meal, box up the rest and take it home to eat for lunch the next day. I've seen her do that numerous times with jealousy as I picked at a salad or some other lower calorie choice. Then I had an Ah-Ha! moment.

    Thin people splurge. Yes, every single one I know splurges. They eat "bad" food but they stay thin. The more I thought about it, the more it made sense to me.

    Now I splurge when I want to, during my entire weight loss. And I never feel the least bit guilty about it anymore. There are no bad foods and I'm not bad if I eat them. I'm simply human. I'll simply log it in and eat what I need to keep within my calorie target for the day around the splurge item. I also zig-zag my calories throughout the week, with my real goal being my weekly calorie target, not my daily, so I do have days where I don't eat enough and I can "bank" those to "spend" later. If I know I have a dinner out to a nice restaurant or other social event with good food coming up, I'll consciously bank a few calories to spend at it so I don't go over my weekly goal. So I might have a day or two over my daily calorie target but not over my weekly due to the lower calorie days. It works quite well and I never feel deprived anymore.

    And now I can have junk food in my house and not be tempted. If I decide I want something, I measure out a portion, eat it, and I'm done. No more binges. I know I can have it if I want it and I often decide, more often than not, that it's not what I want or should be eating right now. It's nice to have home-made cookies and other baked items in my freezer as well as ice cream and such for when guests pop in, crackers and chips in the cupboards, etc. I am ready for guests because I don't feel a need to eat them up anymore. It's a lovely feeling.

    I have to admit, there are a few items (mainly overly sweet cereals like Cocoa Puffs, Cap'n Crunch, Lucky Charms that I can't have in the house because those are my trigger foods.

    Another tip: there is a lot of research showing the flexible dieters are more successful in the long run, both at achieving their goal and maintaining it. So this is something to think about and see if you can switch your thinking to be more flexible.

    Last tip: A lot of experts in the field of weight loss believe that people should occasionally take a full break from dieting. It's not only good to do psychologically but also physically as it raises leptin levels, increases your metabolism, and other hormonal changes that, when you start dieting again, help you be more successful. Most of the recommendations are taking at least one full week off every 2-3 months, or even two weeks off.

    I've done this like over the holidays, while on vacation, and it's wonderful, I rarely gain more than 1-2# and it usually comes back off during the first week of returning to my reduced calorie plan.

    Best wishes. I hope you can find something that works for you.
  • deadmittens
    deadmittens Posts: 536 Member
    Your diary isn't open, so I don't know how much you are actually eating or how much you are exercising.

    I had it open for a while, but I felt guilty when everyone saw me logging Samoas and other candy lol. My friends on here are looking for motivation, not cheats so I didn't want to mislead them into thinking I eat candy & have lost this weight. I lost the weight when I cut out the crap - but had started putting it back in!
  • AZKristi
    AZKristi Posts: 1,801 Member
    Sometimes we fall. Don't stop logging. Add everything that you eat. You will get your motivation back after seeing all the red after a while. Don't get discouraged.

    After about 8 months of doing great with MFP, I had a really hard 6 weeks where I really struggled with food. I kept logging and eventually got back on track.
  • KrazyAsianNic
    KrazyAsianNic Posts: 1,227 Member
    I know where you are coming from. Almost a year ago I was able to take the first step and admit that I'm an emotional binger. I found other things to do when I felt emotional and wanted to eat, but wasn't hungry. Counseling has helped me get through this too. Now and then I fall again, but I record what I ate, and then try not to hate myself for making my body feel crappy and bloated and gross. Another thing I learned to do is to not restrict myself from any foods. Instead of wanting sweets and forcing myself not to, I try to get the serving size of it. For example, I keep around the snack size M&M and the Hershey Drops for when I go through my Chocolate needs. Usually after half a serving of drops or one snack size M&M, i'm satified and ready to move on. Good like figuring out what works for you!
  • onequirkygirl
    onequirkygirl Posts: 303 Member
    Ok first of all, I think you are so beautiful.

    Just keep yourself motivated. It sounds so simple.....that's what helps me. I know what you mean..this just gets old....it's like a relationship.....you got to keep the spark alive. Whatever that means for you....new exercise program? Anything to get you excited about losing weight. Looking at old pictures helps me...remembering how far I've come.

    I tried. :}
  • KrazyAsianNic
    KrazyAsianNic Posts: 1,227 Member
    Wow, lots of good advice in this discussion.

    Ya know, we're all different. I used to binge and then feel bad about it. Although I don't think it was ever tied to emotions. More just if it was in the house, it kept calling my name. For awhile, I just didn't have anything in the house but that wasn't really fair to my family. And I would still binge when I was out somewhere, like a party or other social event, so it really didn't fix the problem anyway, just lessened how often I did it.

    I started realizing that I had certain food labeled as bad foods and, if I ate them, I was bad, too, so I didn't deserve to be thin anyway so I might as well eat them. One day I was having lunch with a friend who has always been very slender, my husband thinks she's too thin...ya know, the type that was rid of her pregnancy weight in just a couple of months and such. Well, for years when we went out I would be jealous because she would order a meal and dessert, eat the dessert first, and then just eat a bit of her meal, box up the rest and take it home to eat for lunch the next day. I've seen her do that numerous times with jealousy as I picked at a salad or some other lower calorie choice. Then I had an Ah-Ha! moment.

    Thin people splurge. Yes, every single one I know splurges. They eat "bad" food but they stay thin. The more I thought about it, the more it made sense to me.

    Now I splurge when I want to, during my entire weight loss. And I never feel the least bit guilty about it anymore. There are no bad foods and I'm not bad if I eat them. I'm simply human. I'll simply log it in and eat what I need to keep within my calorie target for the day around the splurge item. I also zig-zag my calories throughout the week, with my real goal being my weekly calorie target, not my daily, so I do have days where I don't eat enough and I can "bank" those to "spend" later. If I know I have a dinner out to a nice restaurant or other social event with good food coming up, I'll consciously bank a few calories to spend at it so I don't go over my weekly goal. So I might have a day or two over my daily calorie target but not over my weekly due to the lower calorie days. It works quite well and I never feel deprived anymore.

    And now I can have junk food in my house and not be tempted. If I decide I want something, I measure out a portion, eat it, and I'm done. No more binges. I know I can have it if I want it and I often decide, more often than not, that it's not what I want or should be eating right now. It's nice to have home-made cookies and other baked items in my freezer as well as ice cream and such for when guests pop in, crackers and chips in the cupboards, etc. I am ready for guests because I don't feel a need to eat them up anymore. It's a lovely feeling.

    I have to admit, there are a few items (mainly overly sweet cereals like Cocoa Puffs, Cap'n Crunch, Lucky Charms that I can't have in the house because those are my trigger foods.

    Another tip: there is a lot of research showing the flexible dieters are more successful in the long run, both at achieving their goal and maintaining it. So this is something to think about and see if you can switch your thinking to be more flexible.

    Last tip: A lot of experts in the field of weight loss believe that people should occasionally take a full break from dieting. It's not only good to do psychologically but also physically as it raises leptin levels, increases your metabolism, and other hormonal changes that, when you start dieting again, help you be more successful. Most of the recommendations are taking at least one full week off every 2-3 months, or even two weeks off.

    I've done this like over the holidays, while on vacation, and it's wonderful, I rarely gain more than 1-2# and it usually comes back off during the first week of returning to my reduced calorie plan.

    Best wishes. I hope you can find something that works for you.

    This was nice to read. You do have a lot of good to share. I'm a college student living in dorms and the best move I made was getting my own pots and pans and a mini fridge and doing my own shopping. because my parents only give me limited money for food, I go for healthier things because I feel I don't want to waste my "food money" on not so good stuff that may not fill me up when I need it. Things have been great since this has been put into place. I do have some sweet stuff just incase i need a small taste to satisfy myself, but you made me think about how having the better stuff around can only help. When I get hungry, i look inthe fridge. if there's nothing but hhealthy in there, then I can only be healthy... When I binge, it's usually the fridge anyways, not cabinets or drawers.
  • G30Grrl
    G30Grrl Posts: 377 Member
    *hugs* I am a recovering binge eater, so I know how you feel. Here are my tricks:

    In the SHORT term: I write down what I want to eat in a little notebook and tell myself I can have it later. There is something about writing it down and promising myself that I can have it eventually that helps. Part of me binges because there is a voice in my head that says, "What if I can never have this again? Someone else might eat it! It might go bad! I should eat it now!" If I write it down, I feel better, and then I often forget about it later.

    For the LONG term, I keep a journal where I write down how I am feeling when I want to binge. Over time, I have identified my triggers and realized that my binges are very emotionally driven. Stress makes me fake-hungry. I'm not actually hungry, but I don't feel good and I am pretty sure that food will make me feel better. I journal to try to understand why I don't feel good and try to then solve the actual problem rather than stuffing my feelings temporarily with food.

    I also have identified foods that are "dangerous" for me, you know, the ones where I can't have just one. Most simple carbs are like that for me. It takes a lot of self control, but I do everything I can to avoid bread and pasta because I have very little self control after taking that first bite!

    Progress, not perfection. Over time, I am slowly getting better at controlling my bad habits. I mess up, but I just keep telling myself that I am making progress and that is really what counts.

    I hope this helps!

    I don't know if it helped the OP, but it sure helped me! I am a recovering binger (not just food) as well. I am also generally emotionally out of balance when I am driven to eat "everything." I never thought of writing down what I want to eat and promising myself I can have it eventually, but it sounds like a great idea! The voice in my head says exactly the same things yours does, and I know it is nonsense, but that doesn't always help in the moment. I will try writing down what I am craving, as well as what I'm feeling during the craving and see if that helps. Thanks for sharing a great idea.

    Today my binge was confined to two helpings of BBQ chips and two hands full of dried fruits, which is much better than the pint of ice cream, bag of chips, bag of white cheddar popcorn, and half dozen or so cookies it used to take to stop the cravings. Like you said, Progress, not Perfection!
  • deadmittens
    deadmittens Posts: 536 Member
    *hugs* I am a recovering binge eater, so I know how you feel. Here are my tricks:

    In the SHORT term: I write down what I want to eat in a little notebook and tell myself I can have it later. There is something about writing it down and promising myself that I can have it eventually that helps. Part of me binges because there is a voice in my head that says, "What if I can never have this again? Someone else might eat it! It might go bad! I should eat it now!" If I write it down, I feel better, and then I often forget about it later.

    For the LONG term, I keep a journal where I write down how I am feeling when I want to binge. Over time, I have identified my triggers and realized that my binges are very emotionally driven. Stress makes me fake-hungry. I'm not actually hungry, but I don't feel good and I am pretty sure that food will make me feel better. I journal to try to understand why I don't feel good and try to then solve the actual problem rather than stuffing my feelings temporarily with food.

    I also have identified foods that are "dangerous" for me, you know, the ones where I can't have just one. Most simple carbs are like that for me. It takes a lot of self control, but I do everything I can to avoid bread and pasta because I have very little self control after taking that first bite!

    Progress, not perfection. Over time, I am slowly getting better at controlling my bad habits. I mess up, but I just keep telling myself that I am making progress and that is really what counts.

    I hope this helps!

    I don't know if it helped the OP, but it sure helped me! I am a recovering binger (not just food) as well. I am also generally emotionally out of balance when I am driven to eat "everything." I never thought of writing down what I want to eat and promising myself I can have it eventually, but it sounds like a great idea! The voice in my head says exactly the same things yours does, and I know it is nonsense, but that doesn't always help in the moment. I will try writing down what I am craving, as well as what I'm feeling during the craving and see if that helps. Thanks for sharing a great idea.

    Today my binge was confined to two helpings of BBQ chips and two hands full of dried fruits, which is much better than the pint of ice cream, bag of chips, bag of white cheddar popcorn, and half dozen or so cookies it used to take to stop the cravings. Like you said, Progress, not Perfection!

    Writing it down does sound like a good idea. Usually I can get through the after-dinner-urge by thinking about what I'll have for breakfast. Thanks for the tip and support!!
  • KarenLue
    KarenLue Posts: 94 Member
    Nothing really new to add to the previous posts excecpt congrats on your progress so far. Repeating what others have said I don't really deny myself anything as far as food goes. If I want burgers, pizza Olive garden or whatnot I try to plan it in, log it first and see how much exercise I have to do to stay under my limit. That way I get to eat what I want. I do have to watch chocolates though. It is so easy to just gorge on them, one after another. Take a look at my diary if you want. The only other thing I have to be very stringent on is cakes and cupcakes. I am going drop a few more pounds before I tackle that beast.

    That's what I need to do. Lately rather than trying to get back on track and exercise so I've earned my "bad food" I just get in the mindset of "Well I've already ruined my diet today, might as well keep going."

    Chocolates are HARD to stop at just one!
    I once heard a lady on TV talk about that mind set. She said to think of your calories like money. If you realized you just way over spent your money you wouldn't say "Oh well, might as well go blow the rest of what I've got!" You would stop! I thought that was so smart! I do the same thing! Fall into that "All or nothing" attitude.
  • KarenLue
    KarenLue Posts: 94 Member
    *hugs* I am a recovering binge eater, so I know how you feel. Here are my tricks:

    In the SHORT term: I write down what I want to eat in a little notebook and tell myself I can have it later. There is something about writing it down and promising myself that I can have it eventually that helps. Part of me binges because there is a voice in my head that says, "What if I can never have this again? Someone else might eat it! It might go bad! I should eat it now!" If I write it down, I feel better, and then I often forget about it later.

    For the LONG term, I keep a journal where I write down how I am feeling when I want to binge. Over time, I have identified my triggers and realized that my binges are very emotionally driven. Stress makes me fake-hungry. I'm not actually hungry, but I don't feel good and I am pretty sure that food will make me feel better. I journal to try to understand why I don't feel good and try to then solve the actual problem rather than stuffing my feelings temporarily with food.

    I also have identified foods that are "dangerous" for me, you know, the ones where I can't have just one. Most simple carbs are like that for me. It takes a lot of self control, but I do everything I can to avoid bread and pasta because I have very little self control after taking that first bite!

    Progress, not perfection. Over time, I am slowly getting better at controlling my bad habits. I mess up, but I just keep telling myself that I am making progress and that is really what counts.

    I hope this helps!
    When I read that first paragraph I couldn't believe how much it sounded like me when I was trying to quit smoking! I guess that's how the compulsive mind that craves instant gratification works no matter what your poison is! By the way, that way of talking to myself works for me too! lol
  • Erinslove
    Erinslove Posts: 139
    It is SO HARD and SO FRUSTRATING! But yes, I too experience this. Sometimes nightly and it feels like torture. The best advice I can give you is to always log everything you eat no matter what. Every calorie counts so if you can keep your binge to 2000 that is better than 4000. If you can keep your binge to 4000 that is better than 6000. Etc.

    Another thing that might help is viewing your calories by the week and not the day. That helps me. Let's say you ate 3000 calories one day but stuck to your goal (I will arbitrarily pick a # for example) of 1400 every other day. That equals about 1628 per day. That is probably still weight loss mode just a slower one. (I haven't checked your particular stats.) Or at least it would be maintenence. Therefore, you are either still on track to lose or at least to not gain (which is an accomplishment.) This line of thought keeps me from thinking that one meal or one bad day ruins everything.

    Nothing works all the time. Sometimes we screw up. Try to forgive yourself and get back to healthy habits. Time will pass no matter if we are eating too much or not. You will be happier if you are reaching your goals or at least not gaining more. Best of luck to you!
  • deadmittens
    deadmittens Posts: 536 Member
    Thanks everyone! This thread really has helped me avoid binging this week :) Sure it's been 2 days, but that's 2 days of under 1400 calories!!

    Oh, and writing down what I am going to eat (my afternoon snack and dinner) is a GREAT idea. It makes the meal seem like such a treat without needing to eat massive amounts!
  • runningonmargaritas
    runningonmargaritas Posts: 69 Member
    I just downloaded the book Eating Mindfully .... I'm only half way through but it has already given me a different outlook as well as insight on why I binge.
  • deadmittens
    deadmittens Posts: 536 Member
    I just downloaded the book Eating Mindfully .... I'm only half way through but it has already given me a different outlook as well as insight on why I binge.


    It is very helpful knowing why! It makes it easier to control...
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