I blew it

confuzzledwife
confuzzledwife Posts: 142 Member
edited November 12 in Motivation and Support
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hi everyone.. I'm not sure what is wrong with me! About 4 days ago, I weighed in at 180.8. That meant since January 10th 2012 I had a 17 lb loss.. not only was I finally starting to see results but I took measurements and lost inches and just felt SO good about myself!

Then the next day I got on the scale (same time every morning), and my weight was at 182.2, ok.. so this has happened before, and by the next day it goes back to where it was so I didn't obsess over it.. the next day was 182.4 and today 182.8! OMG... I got SO frustrated with myself, that I ate anything and everything today! I wasn't hungry, I think I ate out of frustration or boredom.. I'm really not sure why... It started with a bag of Reeces Pieces, then it was a bowl of soup.. that wouldn't have been so bad if I didn't also eat 6 slices of bread with it! Then I added in saltine crackers.. and I don't even know how many-- 4, 6, 8? I don't know.. then tonight I ate an entire pint of Ben and Jerry's. I feel like such a pig.. I feel like I'm right back at my starting weight of 197... I know I'm not, but that's how I feel right now, all bloated, my stomach is HUGE, my pants feel tighter.. and I'm so down on myself.

I know if someone else wrote this I would just tell them to start new tomorrow, but it's harder when it's ME... I can't give up, I just can't.. PLEASE SEND ME SOME ENCOURAGEMENT !! THANKS :)
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  • Please don't be so hard on yourself. There are a number of reasons why your weight can go up. It could be you had too much sodium, could be your thyroid, could be depression or could just be some bad food choices. Have you ever had your thyroid tested? I know one thing that will absolutely drive you crazy, and that is weighing yourself every day. Our weight fluctuates daily and anyone expecting to see a loss every single day is kidding themselves (just my opinion). I hope you feel better and stay on MFP. I look forward to your posts.
  • ltlhmom
    ltlhmom Posts: 1,202 Member
    Maybe you need to stop weighing yourself every day because your not helping yourself. There are a lot of reasons why the number could be going up. You need to remember that it is just one why to measure your results. And if you continue making the healthy changes you av been making your are just going to keep seeing positive results. She chin up walk a away from the food as that isn't helping you. Maybe try going for a walk, doing some other exercise, chewing gum or drinking your water. You got this!
  • LinzCurlyQ
    LinzCurlyQ Posts: 94 Member
    I did the same thing over Christmas and one day turned into two and I ended up gaining 10lbs in 2 months. Hungry much? You've lost 17lbs, so you know what to do to lose. Get up tomorrow and keep doing it. The more you dwell on what you've done bad, the worse you will feel. It is way easier to put on than take off, as I am experiencing right now. You can do it :bigsmile:
  • jat23
    jat23 Posts: 11 Member
    That level of frustration happens to everyone, including me. I used to weigh myself daily also but stopped because I had the same experience as you, which was extremely frustrating. Now, I just weigh in once a week which is much less stressful. Don't worry too much about the over-indulgence, you can't change that, you can only change what you do going forward. Just remind yourself of how well you've done since January which shows you CAN do it!! Just stick with it and you'll see results. Like you said, start new tomorrow :-)
  • confuzzledwife
    confuzzledwife Posts: 142 Member
    hi and thank you.. I don't plan on giving up, I'm just annoyed with myself.. I, of all people, should know better than to weigh myself everyday.. I've been through this before!! About 7 years ago I lost a bunch of weight and kept it off for a significant amount of time, but then I became depressed over a medical issue, or I should say, numerous medical issues with my son and just turned to eating as comfort. It took me some time to get back into a healthy way of thinking and I know I shouldn't weigh myself more than once a week- and yet, it's like an obsession with me to do it every morning!

    Anyhow, yes I had my thyroid checked out and all my blood work came back great! eh.. I just need to start over in the morning! Thank you again!
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,420 Member
    Keep doing the right things, ups and downs are normal. You can fluctuate by as much as five pounds in a day. Don't weigh every day.
  • vestarocks
    vestarocks Posts: 420 Member
    Stop. Hands up. Step away from the scale! No sudden moves.

    Seriously, breathe and forgive yourself. This is a lifestyle not a quick fix. You probably got scared and freaked out. It's okay. It happened. Do better next time.
  • Meg177
    Meg177 Posts: 215 Member
    Maybe you needed the calories. It happens. I was in a plateau a while back, ate an entire pint of Haagen Dazs and lost weight the next morning. You did eat a lot of salt though so I wouldn't weigh for a few days and drink lots of water. If you're going to freek out over 2lbs, never mind point anything of a pound, you shouldn't weigh more than once a week. Why stress yourself? It's about being healthy.
  • SuperVegan8
    SuperVegan8 Posts: 78 Member
    First of all, congratulations on how far you've already come. Fluctuations are normal especially when you have eaten items with hight sodium contents. Make sure you weigh yourself at the same time each day (after the bathroom first thing in the morning is best as its not effected by what you have/havent eaten that day).

    Dont let it get you down, use it as encouragement to continue to be active and to focus on what you've acheived so far. Try to swap items that you can see are slowing your progress and go for healthier options (eg home made versions or smaller portions). \

    Just remember that the results dont appear overnight so try to limit yourself to weighing in twice weekly. Stay focused on the reasons you want to lose the weight and dont allow yourself to be negitive :) Chin up
  • Yeah deffentily don't weigh yourself everyday. Weekly or every two weeks. Or don't do it at all but measure.
  • MandaJean83
    MandaJean83 Posts: 675 Member
    Oh my gosh, this happens to SO many people. Myself included. Maybe weighing yourself everyday isn't healthy for you! Just get back on the wagon, get yourself healthy eating and exercising again, and wait a week to weigh in. Drink plenty of water to flush out the crap you ate today, and I bet you'll be happier with the number you see a week from now :)
  • heyghoge
    heyghoge Posts: 153 Member
    i did the same thing last weekend - "i blew it already, why bother trying" - so i totally know how you feel, and how it's easier to be encouraging to others than yourself! but please don't give up, and don't beat yourself up too much. you lost 17, that's so awesome. sit down and make a list of all the changes that you've seen in yourself/your body/fitness level since you lost. do you want to lose any of that? i bet not! so just keep your head up and keep on fighting. you got this!

    p.s. i agree with others here, weighing daily can be a useful tool, but if you're tying too much of your emotional state into it, you might want to cut back to once a week?
  • rextcat
    rextcat Posts: 1,408 Member
    everyone has those days, just dont let it turn into months!
  • worthdw8
    worthdw8 Posts: 5
    I definately can relate. I get frustrated by the scales 'ups and downs" so I do like you and forgive it on those bad days and then keep eating well. But I have also done the same thing when I actually "hate" my scale and eaten things that I know I shouldn't. Don't give up! Tommorrow you can make better choices.
  • tabulator32
    tabulator32 Posts: 701 Member
    Please...do NOT weight yourself every day.

    I want to point out that you reached your point of frustration by watching your weight vary by ONLY A HALF POUND! That is eight ounces. That is the weight of a 16-ounce glass of water. NO BIG DEAL!

    Fluctuations of that size happen all the time just taking into consideration normal body functions.

    Make sure you are drinking plenty of water each day. That will help with many things including flushing out toxins, keeping the digestive track moving and helping your cells produce energy that keeps you going and motivated.

    Feel like you're getting a hunger pang throughout the day? Have a glass of water.

    Hang in there! You've come this far. Keep the momentum.
  • You didn't blow it... You have a set back. Something I learned was not to weigh myself everyday. I weigh and measure myself the after I have completed 24 work outs. That way, I am not stressing myself. I know I have lost weight because my clothes show it, but if I weigh myself, it might not say that. You may be loosing the inches, which I think means the fat... so be proud... don't do anything foolish and get down on yourself. This program keeps telling me I am under my calories for the day, but I don't always see the weight loss. I just do what I think I should be doing and hopefully I will be able to get into the clothes in my closet again. I got all this weight because I was sick.. Best of luck and I will try and keep in touch with you.. :flowerforyou:
  • Believesinmagic
    Believesinmagic Posts: 2 Member
    Tomorrow is a new Day for you to start over and make better choices. I weight myself everyday and notice changes like this too, but you cant let the number on the scale influence your choices on what to eat if your craving something have a taste, but not a whole bag. Be smart and leave trigger foods at the grocery store, so its much more difficult to access them in your moment of weakness. Also hard workouts and salt consumption may play a part in weight fluctuations. Best wishes for a better and brighter tomorrow...
  • You didn't blow anything :)
    For every two steps forward you might have to take one step back every once in a while.
    Acknowledge it and let it go. And try not to say 'Never Again!' because it may happen again and you'll feel that much worse.
    Tomorrow is a brand new day !
  • 1bigtabbycat
    1bigtabbycat Posts: 23 Member
    I have gone through a bout of scale obsession myself. That is a no-no. Do not weigh yourself everyday. Your body fluctuates daily, depending on water intake, sodium intake, food choices ... that time of the month. There is a two week window that I don't step on the scale because of that. So you had a bad day. Forget about it. Take tomorrow as a new day and make better choices. You have the power to step back and say "know what, I am not going to eat this today". Be conscience and say "maybe I will eat half today and the other half tomorrow". That has helped me out of some binging episodes. I learned in weight watchers ... tomorrow is another day. You have another chance to make it right. Just take one day at a time. It really helps mentally when having a bad day. Good luck and congrats on your success! :wink:
  • DataBased
    DataBased Posts: 513 Member
    Please don't be hard on yourself - everybody has "weak days" - the trick is not to let them turn into weak weeks or weak months.

    I learned in an unpleasant way not to weigh myself every day, too. I weigh myself once a week, max, and measure myelf then, also. It's working for me, so hopefully you can pick yourself back up and get back on track. You know what to do, and you know how to do it. Everybody here is cheering you on.

    Tomorrow is a brand new day! :flowerforyou:
  • Mibs131
    Mibs131 Posts: 12 Member
    You're right; we're harder on ourselves than we are on others. May I suggest that you not weigh yourself every day? I don't even have a scale at home because it's too tempting. Our weight can fluctuate a lot just due to salt levels and water fluctuations in our bodies. Once a week should really be enough to give you a guideline. Also, if you're working out you will be adding muscle AS you lose fat... so you lose one pound of fat; TWO pounds of muscle can fill that same space... so try to rely on your clothes to tell you if you are maintaining, losing or gaining (just don't wash jeans in hot water, lol).

    Weight is like I.Q.... it's a guideline. (^_^)
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    Stop. Hands up. Step away from the scale!
    And the "anger food"
    Seriously, breathe and forgive yourself. This is a lifestyle not a quick fix. You probably got scared and freaked out. It's okay. It happened. Do better next time.

    It happened, it's over. Pat yourself on the back for recognizing this before this one event turns into months of undoing all your hard work. You can do it! You can pick back up and keep going.

    Great job on the weight loss so far!
  • kcoftx
    kcoftx Posts: 765 Member
    Heck I've been up a whole pound for a week and it's okay. It does eventually drop again as long as you are hanging in there. Weight seriously does fluctuation a good 3-5lbs on a regular basis. I've been weighing most of my life because my father was a daily weigher and it is a habit. I'm so in tune with what my body's normal fluctuations are that it doesn't throw me off to see that. If you are freaking out over that little of a fluctuation, it does not fit your personality to be a daily weigher. That's okay. In fact, the more you work with who you are on this journey, the better your success will be.

    I wish I could give you a snapshot of my MFP progress report from my app. There is CLEARLY a downward spiral but I have so many M's on it that it is actually comical to me. The biggest and most defined M came from my TOM. (M describes what the graph line looks like--in case that isn't clear, weight goes up and down and back up and down). What I look for are my valleys. Are my lowest points decreasing over time? If yes, then I'm good. I don't look at my spikes except to laugh at them. The only time I might do that is if my last lowest downward valley was some time ago and then I might start looking at more strategies to get it going again.

    Again, if you only see your weight on a very short period of time and use that to gauge where you are from day to day, this method is not good for you. It's a trend over time, definitely not something you can use as a daily feedback mechanism. Sometimes I know why it spiked but sometimes I really don't. That's your body! It likes to keep you guessing!

    As far as blowing it? You only blow it if you decided to completely give up. The fact that you are making this post suggests that this is not what you did. So you blew your calories for the day. Just get back up and keep going. Now if you do this regularly, then you might see some stall in progress but sometimes even then it takes some people awhile to get into the swing of really being able to attend to this lifestyle change.

    What's good is analyzing why you did it and come up with a strategy to prevent it. It sounds like for you, looking at your scale daily was a definite trigger. Luckily there is a fairly easy solution for that.
  • confuzzledwife
    confuzzledwife Posts: 142 Member
    Stop. Hands up. Step away from the scale! No sudden moves.

    Seriously, breathe and forgive yourself. This is a lifestyle not a quick fix. You probably got scared and freaked out. It's okay. It happened. Do better next time.

    haha .. thank you for the laugh! I have committed to starting over today.. I KNOW I can do this!!!!!
  • confuzzledwife
    confuzzledwife Posts: 142 Member
    See.. this is why I absolutely LOVE this site!!!! Thank you ALL so much for your encouragement and advice... I truly appreciate it! Today I am going to make better choices, I will NOT weigh myself again until next week (promise!).
    I had a stressful couple of days here with things beyond my control and I think that added stress and then seeing the stupid small gain on the scale was a deadly combination for the state of mind I was in. However, today is a new day, I'm going to drink lots of water today, get some exercise in and move on! :smile:
  • christibam
    christibam Posts: 478 Member
    I'm actually having the same problem as you with yesterday.I had gone 6 weeks without going over my calorie limit and I just obliterated that yesterday. It's spring break and my friend suggested day drinking because, well, "we could."

    So.... roughly 600 calories of alcohol before 2p.m. and then we got hungry. He kept making jokes about how I suck for only having healthy food here now and wanted to go out to eat. I said no based on the fact that I wasn't going to drive anywhere after shots and also that I just couldn't do that since I knew I was going to be over my limit anyway. He made either large amounts of my less healthy choices for food and I started out with a spinach and greek yogurt smoothie lol. That just turned into me randomly having healthy alternatives but too often. I can't even imagine how bad it would have been if I still kept junk food in my house or if we had gone somewhere or ordered in. Oh and of course I didn't work out. I probably would have dropped a dumbbell on my face... I was pretty shwasted. :\

    I told myself that I just need to get back to it today no matter what. It's been like two weeks since I've solidly rocked out some cardio and 2 days since I've done strength training. Sooooo I'm just going to force myself to bust out some tae bo and weights.

    If you want, you can message me and we can both keep each other on track today?
  • confuzzledwife
    confuzzledwife Posts: 142 Member
    I am doing better today, and I hope you are too, christibam! We can get through this together!
  • Ug...I know how you feel! Its a horrible feeling and it makes you want to give it all up. You just fell off the wagon....get back up and carry on. You can do this. (oh...and stay away from that scale...measure your success in a different way. Like "today I met my calorie goal".)
  • dreamingchild
    dreamingchild Posts: 208 Member
    I haven't read all the responses but I do this as well....for me I think I sabotage myself...could this be you to?

    Logically it doesn't make sense...I want to lose weight, I do it, I get to a milestone, and then I sabotage myself. It has more to do with my mental health than me physically. I am trying to overcome this.

    Just a thought.
  • confuzzledwife
    confuzzledwife Posts: 142 Member
    I haven't read all the responses but I do this as well....for me I think I sabotage myself...could this be you to?

    Logically it doesn't make sense...I want to lose weight, I do it, I get to a milestone, and then I sabotage myself. It has more to do with my mental health than me physically. I am trying to overcome this.

    Just a thought.

    This actually makes sense to me! I was able to get right back on track the next day, I'm taking it one day at a time.. I could already feel my pants feeling tight the next day, not a good thing at all! I don't want to feel that way ever again!
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