Please comment if you've felt like this too..

I've felt like that too. I tend to cover up a lot in summer or no go out .

I feel that for sure. I am a graduate student constantly surrounded by undergrads, and the style at this university seems to be short running shorts or leggings with anything, regardless of whether the girls are actually going to the gym. It is daunting sometimes to see that everyday. What I remind myself of is that a lot of those girls aren't actually healthy. They may be small, but they aren't strong or fit, and those who are work for it. Some small women, especially young women eat crap, just not a lot of it, so they are skinny looking but their insides are a mess. The first time I did a kickboxing class, after I'd been working out regularly at home for a while, I was so much more fit than some of the thin women in their short shorts, and I take pride in that. I also used to see these thin, fit girls at the gym and think "if I looked like that, I wouldn't bother working out." At some point I realized that for the most part they look like that because they work out. Now they serve as a good motivator.
You may not feel like you can rock a bikini now, but that won't change if you compare yourself to others. Wear whatever makes you feel strong and beautiful.

I live in Florida and haven't worn shorts in ages. That's what has been depressing for me.

I would not go to a play date with my daughter because a swimming pool was involved. I do not swim in public.

That's why I am here to change all of this and be one of the "girls" on the beach (if we'll make it to the beach, that is!), though I won't be wearing a bikini in public. I am still looking for a nice tankini with shorts

Girls in bikinis??

Where!?!?

:laugh:

I find myself looking around at other females a lot only because I like seeing that not all women are made the same way, some have big bootys and small waists, some have big waists and small bootys. Very curvy and not so much, I like daydreaming about how ill look once I finish my journey. I too use them as motivation. I look at them and think wow I wanna look like that when my weight loss journey is over. But don't beat yourself over it. Well get there soon..

all my life.........................

Yeah...I have felt that way for the past 3 years. I seem to have a lot more winter clothes....but that's just because I tend to cover up the majority of my body to hide my problem areas.
Hopefully that won't be an issue this summer! :-) There's plenty of time to lose another 20 pounds! :-)

Yeah, I used to get bummed out by stuff like that. But now, I just stop and take note of my progress. At this point, I don't quite have those type of bodies, but I can feel definition where there wasn't before. Then, I imagine the body I'm going to have when I'm finished... bad feelings magically disappear and I'm happy and excited and more motivated than ever before.

Stay positive... it'll get better!

I have felt discouraged but I don't let it get me down. I live on Lake Michigan and I'm an outdoors kinda girl! I love the sun and sand and maybe I'll be one of those skinny witches I've been jealous of for so long soon lol! Can't wait for shorts and flip flops!

It's what's inside a person that counts.... that's the way its always been.... I wear shorts.... I'm not skinny... I have cellulite... I DARE anyone to say a word... I am a good person, I have a beautiful heart, and I am working on maintaining a healthy lifestyle, and if they don't like it, then screw off!

I've had two wonderful loving men in my life.. my departed husband, and now my current adorable boyfriend... I've never had problems finding quality relationships based on love, personality and the sexy beast that lives inside a overweight body..

its all about how you feel about you... get that in check..

wear those shorts.. be happy.. life is short... make good decisions, and keep trying to recognize the qualities not the imperfections...

anyone who thinks they are perfect or best cause they wear a particular size, is only trying to compensate for their own feelings of worthlessness....

In a way, yes, although I do prefer the doom and gloom of winter anyway. I find the most annoying thing is the more extra weight you carry the hotter you get, especially when walking so the less you want to wear. I feel really quite self-conscious anyway but summer is a nightmare, for the last three years I have worn black opaques tights to work throughout the year, I refuse to buy any jeans until I can fit in my old pairs.

If it gets to the point where it's too hot I do start to care less and just try to stay cool.

I totally understand how you feel! Here in Florida we are already getting some warm weather... and it lasts FOREVER lol.
I remember going to a water park one time and it really hit me. I was in line for a two-person slide but there was an odd number of ppl in my group. I laughed and said "guess I'm the odd ball out on this one" when a kid behind me said "wow, that's one big ball." A stupid comment by a child. Yes, it got to me - shouldn't have but it did.
It has taken a lot for me to get to the point where I won't let it bother me. Not anymore. I'm working on feeling comfortable in my own skin and confident - regardless of other people's opinions. Be proud of YOURSELF

I feel that for sure. I am a graduate student constantly surrounded by undergrads, and the style at this university seems to be short running shorts or leggings with anything, regardless of whether the girls are actually going to the gym. It is daunting sometimes to see that everyday. What I remind myself of is that a lot of those girls aren't actually healthy. They may be small, but they aren't strong or fit, and those who are work for it. Some small women, especially young women eat crap, just not a lot of it, so they are skinny looking but their insides are a mess. The first time I did a kickboxing class, after I'd been working out regularly at home for a while, I was so much more fit than some of the thin women in their short shorts, and I take pride in that. I also used to see these thin, fit girls at the gym and think "if I looked like that, I wouldn't bother working out." At some point I realized that for the most part they look like that because they work out. Now they serve as a good motivator.
You may not feel like you can rock a bikini now, but that won't change if you compare yourself to others. Wear whatever makes you feel strong and beautiful.

I'm currently an undergrad student at a huge university in Florida of all places so I see tiny tan girls in tiny shorts that I wish I could be comfortable in all the time! Now I try to just think that a lot of them work to get where they are and the reason I'm not like that is because of my own choices. It makes me feel better than when I let myself get jealous and assume that every single one of them looks like that without any effort. Now I try to see it as motivation. It's helped some. I'm really hoping to be farther along in my progress come summer though!