How long til you start to feel pretty again?

I have been where you are but my confidence issues have lingered around since I was very young. I struggle every day with it but I have to say, with age your priorities change. When I was your age I was concerned with my appearance and what other people thought mattered. Now that I am 30, appearance is important but I don't care so much what other people think. I will admit though, I struggled quite a bit following my divorce so I wouldn't be surprised if some of your feelings are associated with your divorce. As you separate yourself from that and start living your own life, things should start falling back into place. If they don't, you may want to consider talking to someone. You have your whole life ahead of you take the time to find another focus

I've shed an entire person worth of weight and I still don't feel pretty. I hope you get there, though.

Those things are wrong and whoever said them to you is wrong. The mistakes you made gave you a very precious gift. A wonderful man will see that and love you regardless of your mistakes. Look ahead, not back. You'll make more use out of moving forward than back

And even though it sucks, how you feel now is a normal reaction to your situation. Mistakes, even big life altering mistakes, can come at any age. Focus on the good you can do from here on out!

Just like the ladies said above. U r pretty. It's inside. U r going through a tough time so go buy an awesome outfit and make a date with the girls my friends have a way of making me laugh! And feel like me again.

My best friend and I joke that we wish we could rewind and tell our 21 yr old self how awesome we r today. my point is ur situation isnt ideal right now but u need to be the best u can be. Hang in there honey!


YOU ARE GORGEOUS!!!!!!!!

I think u should say that cuz u really are

No person on this earth can make you feel beautiful besides yourself. You need to make that decision. At 230 pounds i decided i was beautiful, important and worthy. Now at 165, i feel it even more. I am here because i love myself, and i know i am worth the effort i put in. It's all up to you, it's in your head.

There is a line from the book/movie "The Help" that I tell myself every day: I am Kind, I am Smart, I am Important. While none of those things directly mention being pretty, I have found that by thinking nice things about myself, I am better able to believe what nice things other say about me.

i have learned the hard way that no number on the scale will make you beautiful, if you are not beautiful on the inside! You need to change your life around to make you happy. The begging of this year i decided to start a lifestyle change, i removed ever single negative person in my life, i may now only have my parents, husband, son, one friend, and my twin sister, but getting those negative people out of my life, has really gave me my life back. I now live a healthier lifestyle, when i dont have people saying negative things to bring me down. I also started exersising alot to relieve stress and it works great, i can honestly say thes past three months have been the best of my life! It may sound silly but i saw a quote and its wat started me on my journey, "For beautiful eyes, look for the good in othes; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone." I will amit i would gossip and compare myself to others when i hung out with those negative people, now i refuse to do that and thats what has made me so happy!

You are beautiful.

Pretty is a state of mind, not a physical state.

I think you have some very deep emotional issues that need to be addressed. Getting healthy, getting into shape will help build confidence, but it may not be enough. I would highly consider going to therapy. I find therapy to be exceptionally helpful to a lot of people.

Pretty? Sweetheart you are gorgeous!

Another thing... nothing you did is really BAD choices or mistakes

You had a baby. How does that make you any worse than anyone else who had sex and didn't have a baby? It doesn't.

You fell in love and married someone, and it ultimately didn't work out. How does that make you any worse than anyone else who's relationship didn't work, or even one that did work? It doesn't.

Will there be some men who won't want to date you because you're divorced and have a child? Yes. And those are men who wouldn't be a good match for you. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, or even with them. They're just not right for you.

Heck, I saw a pair of shoes I liked yesterday. The size 8.5 were too tight. The size 9 were too big. It's not the fault of my foot or the fault of the shoe. That particular shoe wasn't a good fit for my foot. (Which, by the way, I think should be the real take-away message of Cinderella... not a prince that saves the girl, but the girl finding the guy... and shoe... that's the perfect fit.)

. But I never second guess that I'm beautiful.

I look in the mirror and just want to cry. i feel destroyed. I feel like winning is my option to a new life. I never knew how much of myself i lost after I had my son at 17 and married at 18. I feel like i just did everything wrong and now as a result I am punished and deserve these feelings.

I was told noone would ever love me because I have a child. Then I was married and that temporarily numbed it and now I'm being told noone will love someone who has a child AND divorced and is barely 21. I just am ready to feel beautiful again. not just skinny but like that other then my son i have purpose. I KNOW i have purpose but i feel like noone should support someone who has made so many ill descions. How will i know in the future what is the right choice if i've made so many terrible ones already?

Wow......I understand what you're feeling...and it breaks my heart...

I myself got pregnant, though I was much older than yourself. After nursing, etc...I had gained 60 pounds. I never got down to my pre-pregnancy weight.... but, I do want to mention a few things that worked for me....

1. You are beautiful....on the outside definitely, but on the inside as well, though your confidence is obviously shaken.
2. Get healthy; you have a little one......who's life would be completely different if you're not in the picture.
3. Fake it until you make it.......you may not feel it yet; but hold your head up, knowing you are changing for the better. You'll notice running after your child won't be such a difficulty, and you'll be able to smile to yourself....
4. I was told no one would want a single mother with a child...that my son was my 'baggage'. Needless to say I ignored that opinion...my son will NEVER be baggage......and truth be told, I have to beat 'them' off with a stick.

You didn't make terrible choices; you made choices. How you handle the results of those choices is up to you.....and if you need a 'friend', feel free to add me.....:flowerforyou:

Ok so who's picture is that? She is beautifull. So who ever is telling you these things is an obvious liar so don't listen to him, probably a used car salesman, or a politician. If it's not him then whoever it is, is trying to break you down. What is thier motive for saying such hurtfull things? If your a Christian see what God says about his people, and how much he loves us. It always helps me when I feel the way you described.