WTH
chrissismone
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I never thought in a million years I would lose weight period. I always thought I would die young due to being overweight. I started my journey in 2011. In the year span I have been on the path of skinny I have lost 44 plus lbs. It's more than likely more than 44 because I was too scared to look at the scale in the beginning.
Now after a chain of events I don't know if I can continue. It hurts me deeply to think of all the money,emotion and time I have spent thus far. Gym memberships,sacrificing certain things,going to the gym 3-4 times a week.I don't like people really,it's draining but i need to be at a gym for equipment purposes. Home workouts just don't feel right to me at all. When I say the scale today I wanted to hit it. I have cried all evening long thing what a fool I am for trying.
So many stories here of people dropping 100 plus lbs in a year or under has made me feel even worst. So before I do something I regret even more than this journey for those who have thought of throwing in towel what made you stop ? I appreciate any quality thoughts tonight.
Now after a chain of events I don't know if I can continue. It hurts me deeply to think of all the money,emotion and time I have spent thus far. Gym memberships,sacrificing certain things,going to the gym 3-4 times a week.I don't like people really,it's draining but i need to be at a gym for equipment purposes. Home workouts just don't feel right to me at all. When I say the scale today I wanted to hit it. I have cried all evening long thing what a fool I am for trying.
So many stories here of people dropping 100 plus lbs in a year or under has made me feel even worst. So before I do something I regret even more than this journey for those who have thought of throwing in towel what made you stop ? I appreciate any quality thoughts tonight.
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I've lost 46lbs in the last year...It wasn't easy, but I feel so much better than I did a year ago. I too spent money on the gym, a personal trainer, and I am there at least 4 days a week.
You know what makes it worth it?
When my kids tell me that I make a crappy pillow.
You can continue, or just take a break. Don't compare your journey to anyone else, you are you, they are not. Everyone is different. Be proud of your accomplishments! You rock!0 -
I've been stuck at 22 to 23 pounds for a long time, so maybe my advice isn't the best. Take a break for a week or 2 and come back to it. You can do it!0
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Why can't you continue working out and counting calories? The thing that keeps me going is the knowledge that the only way I'm going to get healthy is to keep on going, no matter how slow it seems to be going some times.0
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#1 tip..don't give up and don't try to lose it fast. Theres no secret to weight loss....you just need to burn more than you take in. Find a diet and exercise plan that is right for you..you may benefit from a personal trainer..bottom line..stay in the game!0
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What do you mean by "doing something you regret"?0
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It was better than where i was before. And i knew i was more important to myself to make this change for me. It is a struggle for me every day to stay with it, but after every day that I do succeed, i feel a little better about myself and that little victory is worth it.
stay away from the scale...this isnt a diet...its a way of life. take each little day, with each little change and own it.
take all the little victories....didnt have fast food for a week...A VICTORY...worked out twice this week...VICTORY...
there is no time line when this has to be done. Take your time a do it. my first year i lost 25lbs and I have been stuck in the exact same place for a year...but i keep going because it feels good to workout....it feels good to be happy and free.
you will change. i promise you.0 -
I'm just genuinely confused as to why you're upset about losing weight and getting healthy? I would consider that money and time well spent.0
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44lbs in a year is a wonderful accomplishment. You have struggled and worked so hard, and sometimes you feel like just giving up and throwing in the towel. I am sure we have all been there. I know I have, not with weight loss because I am just starting my journey but in life. We all have major obstacles that we must work through to become the people we are destined and know we can be.
I believe that you started this journey for a reason. The reason is still there and you are so very worth every painstaking moment that you have put into yourself. The easiest route is to throw in the towel, but I am pretty sure that wont make you happy. Take the night to cry it out, and tomorrow is a new day. We cant change the past but we can make a new future, and if you need more support please feel free to add me. I know how hard life can be at times and we all need a day where we dont worry about our journey, but tomorrow we pick up and start again because we are worth it.
You are worth it, so keep at it!!0 -
What's your alternative?? Give up and return to your old lifestyle, gain back the weight you worked sooooo hard for and then continue to gain until you die like you stated.
Not being able to do it at home is an excuse. You need to create a no excuse mentality. There is a reason you've put all this effort into becoming healthier. You need to think about why you feel the way you do.0 -
I used to feel the same way about the gym. I have kids and so much to do, it wasn't working. I started doing at home workouts about a year ago and haven't looked back. I am in the best shape of my life at 36. I have only had to purchase a few kettlebells and a medicine ball. The workouts I do at home at ten times more effective and yield better results than the 10 years I spent at the gym doing the same exercises over and over. My favorite motivator is Zuzana Light. Her videos are free on youtube. http://www.youtube.com/user/ZuzkaLight. It's free and the workouts are never longer than 20 minutes and I promise it will kick your butt. Give it a try before you give up entirely.0
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Not being able to do it at home is an excuse. You need to create a no excuse mentality.
get a machine for home0 -
Look at where you started. Did you ever think you would be able to lose 44 pounds? But you did. Do you know how incredible that is? That's 176 sticks of butter. Try holding 176 sticks of butter in your arms. Do you have any children? If not, use one of mine for comparison. My middle child is 5 and weighs 41 pounds. You used to be walking around with a five-year-old strapped to your body and he's no longer there. You've done an amazing thing! Sure, there might be people out there whose journey seems to have moved faster than your own. Sure, there are depressing parts to this that you could focus on. But just for a minute, click on Reports and look at your progress over the last year. Look how the line is slowly moving down. Focus on what you already HAVE done, and relax. You're stronger than you think you are. You were already strong enough to be motivated for an entire year. And you are too strong to let a bad weigh-in defeat you. Don't let the scale win. Think back to the 176 sticks of butter. Now try it for just two more weeks. Can you do two more weeks? And then after two more weeks of genuine trying, take another look at the scale, or maybe just in the mirror. It'll be worth it. We're on your side! Don't give up!0
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If you're depressed, talk to your doctor. It's medical.
If something happened at the gym that makes you uncomfortable attending there, is there a trusted friend who could intervene and try to get you out of the contract so you can join somewhere else?0 -
You gotta remember it's not all about the number on the scale. It's about being a better you, being healthy, and feeling better.
I threw in the towel this past semester because I was stressed and exhausted and it was easier to not work at it. And I've been back on track since January and I'm still not back to where I was. I think about all that I had to do to get down to where I was before I threw in the towel and I regret having done it. And I continually think to myself, do I want to go through these cycles year after year and never be happy with myself or keep going now so that one day I'll be happier and feel better.
Also, this might be really really cheesy, but I was watching an old episode of Biggest Loser and Jillian said to "Look to the future with hope instead of to the past with regret." If you throw in the towel now, there's not a hope to look forward to or you will inevitably look back and regret having quit. I know I do.
So anyway, that's my sappy cheesy comment for you
Hope it helped in some way! 0 -
DO NOT GIVE UP!!! You are worth every effort you have made to become a healthier you. Everyone has set back, everyone stumbles. The only way to fail is not to try - the only person you would be failing is yourself if you do give up. Take the a deep breath and refocus - YOU GOT THIS!!!0
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I used to feel the same way about the gym. I have kids and so much to do, it wasn't working. I started doing at home workouts about a year ago and haven't looked back. I am in the best shape of my life at 36. I have only had to purchase a few kettlebells and a medicine ball. The workouts I do at home at ten times more effective and yield better results than the 10 years I spent at the gym doing the same exercises over and over. My favorite motivator is Zuzana Light. Her videos are free on youtube. http://www.youtube.com/user/ZuzkaLight. It's free and the workouts are never longer than 20 minutes and I promise it will kick your butt. Give it a try before you give up entirely.
I just checked out that link you sent and I think I just found my new workout, to start with. Thanks a lot!!!
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The last ten years I have thrown in the towel way too much, I have caved I have said it is too hard, I have compared myself to all my skinny friends and said why. Last year I started my journey with what I thought to be 50 lbs to loose stepped on the scale to cry to see that it was closer to 70. My husband told me I couldn't do it, I would fall back into old habits. My friends told me I was fine I was just as I was. Well here I am 54 lbs later. Pissed at the scale because it seems to like where we are sitting and although I bust my *kitten* I see very slow weight loss. The difference is this time I believe in me. I am also proud of the healthy habits I have set up. This is what I want and it makes me feel good.
You need to believe in you, reevaluate the reason you want to loose weight. If it isn't for you, your health, your self esteem maybe you aren't ready. You have to want change. To me the time you have already put into it it would seem a waste to give up on yourself.
We are all capable of great things when we put our minds to it. Don't give up.0 -
The process is different for everyone. Try not to compare yourself to others because it might take you a year to lose what they lost in a couple months and that's perfectly fine. Just know that if you keep going, you're going to reach your goal. If you're diligent, the weight has no choice but to come off. If you need a break, just go on maintenance, but don't give up. You'll be happy you persevered when you're fit and healthy.
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first of all... if you plan on keeping off any of the weight you lose... you need to realize this is a lifestyle change, not a diet.
second of all...... my motto when i complain about how tought this is... is... "if it was easy to lose weight, everyone could do it".
whenever i am hungry, feel like eating & need to talk myself out of it, i think that if i'm hungry & i don't eat... then my body will start eating the fat... and then i know i am feeling my body eat the fat away!!!
and sometimes i do get burned out & exhausted... but i just keep pressing on. Just exercising should make you feel better about yourself. Even though i've plateaued and haven't made any huge gains, i feel way better about the fact i am doing something about it vs sitting on the couch depressed that i'm fat & lazy.
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Dear friend DO NOT give up!! I know it is hard and scarey process but you can do it!!! I am always here for you and you can inbox me anytime *hugs*0
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whenever i am hungry, feel like eating & need to talk myself out of it, i think that if i'm hungry & i don't eat... then my body will start eating the fat... and then i know i am feeling my body eat the fat away!!!
You should eat when you're hungry.0 -
To answer someone who said what did I mean by doing something I would regret I mean quitting. My weight loss isn't just weight. It's linked to a bit more that I can't share online. I thank each and every one of you for your kind words. I take tonight to cry and get back on the saddle tomorrow. I may need to beef up my workouts,look for some things to do at home on days that I'm drained from work. SN-I'm a true introvert and for me interacting with people drains me. So that's why the gym at times is hard. I will keep all this in mind thank you all for the good swift kick in the positive direction.0
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I just took a look at your progress photo in your profile and OMG - you have nothing to be feeling bad about!!! You have done great!!!
Don't get hung up on the scale. Try taking measurements,because I can see you have shrunk heaps and don't get down on yourself. It can be frustrating if you have eaten well and exercised but the scale doesn't drop - but the scale is not the be all and all.
When I have a really bad week, eat some nasty food and don't exercise like I should I remind myself that a) this is STILL better than what I used to do and b) tomorrow is another day.
Stay strong and remember it's a lifetime journey not a quick a jaunt.0 -
I don't like interacting with many people at the gym either. I just put my stuff down, headphones in, and get going. I leave my headphones is when I stretch and take water breaks. People tend to stop talking to you when they realize you can't hear them.
Don't give up. You will succeed, you just have to believe that and stick with it long enough to make a change. Make sure you're eating and sleeping enough. It might benefit you to find some workouts you can do at home and only go to the gym a couple of times a week.0 -
I'm trying to understand where your frustration is coming in? Because the scale hasn't moved in awhile?
Fact is, you ARE healthier than you were a year ago. Isn't that worth it?0 -
Having a bad day or days doesn't mean giving up. I lost about 45 pounds in 2011 and now I'm facing up to the reality that to stay at this weight I have to be concious of good habits for the long term. I've learnt that it doesn't matter if I have a few bad days, or even a few bad weeks, the important thing is that I keep a bit of awareness about what I'm doing and make sure that it doesn't happen every day. I've got rid of my "fat" clothes and I have one particular pair of pants that are a really good reminder whether I'm on track or not - if they feel a bit looser or a bit tighter I take that as an indication that I'm on track or backsliding a bit.
Hang in there, take a break from calorie counting if you need to, but dont give up!0 -
In the words of Henry Ford ~ If you think you can, or you think you can't, you're probably right!
Best wishes on your pathway to a healthier you.0 -
i could be wrong but it sounds like you are feeling like you are losing a part of yourself when you lose weight. our bodies and how we construct our identify or "self" are constantly changing. in this loss there is gain, but we have to figure out what that new gain is. you are doing a wonderful job by committing to a healthier lifestyle regardless of the number you weigh, and YOU LOOK GREAT! you got this! 0
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I joined at the beginning of January and I have only lost 8 pounds. I am doing it at my own pace. If I feel like having something that isn't necessarily good for me, I have it. Depriving yourself only makes it harder. But you should practice being able to say no SOMETIMES. Is it depression? Anxiety? Can you not afford the gym? I work out at home AND at the gym. I prefer at home because I don't like people looking at me. You really have no excuse not to log your calories, though. This website is free.0
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Some days when I've been under target I can feel really down, and I think it is a blood sugar thing. So first thing, are you eating enough?
Many nutritionists etc argue the fastest you should try to lose weight is a pound a week, so 44lbs in a year is fabulous! Yes, some people here report losing more, and when someone is well above their healthy weight that may be ok, but people losing 100lbs in a year are the exception, and you shouldn't beat yourself up with their stories... You've done great, and you can keep going.
But we all need holidays sometime. What about putting your goal back to weight maintanance for a week, so you get 500 extra calories to work with, while still knowing you're not gaining any weight. That might give you a bit more energy to continue the journey when the week is up?0
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