spouse is a saboteur

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  • Ruchell
    Ruchell Posts: 236 Member
    I have the same problem but with my fiance. We both want to get back to our "Cuba Bodies"; we went to Cuba in 2009 and for 6 months leading up to it we worked HARD, and we both get ripped (ok i wasnt ripped but super fit) but she was Beautiful, I mean that *kitten*!!!! Anyways, we are now in school full-time and she works part time as a nurse (sometimes overnight, sometimes day shifts). I buy all the food and critic when she chooses weak or not goal oriented foods. I try my best to make her track her foods like I do. she has an iPhone and the myfitnesspal app. She just comes off as lazy. I don't blame her for trying some days. she does bodyrock.tv when Zuzana was the host and when the 30 day challenge came out. She was doing sooo well to. But then theres school & work and she just cant seem to get ahead. When she head home to see family (we live on our own), she eats and eats, add on sleep deprived and 12 hour night shifts. "shakes head"

    Summer is coming and I want her to feel good about herself when the "dont wear much clothing" teens come out. I'll have a sit down with her. I have a feeling I won't be getting laid for awhile. "Shake head" LOL


    One solution you could try is convince his doctor to tell him if he doesn't change his ways, he will be dead soon.

    Wow...I hope you realize that you said 'she WAS beautiful'...

    If my husband thought it was his duty to critique my eating and exercise habits (not to mention calling me lazy or trying to 'make' me track my food) I wouldn't mind in the least if he chose to take off with one of the scantily-clad teens and got the f*** out of my face! Not the kind of guy I'd want to spend the rest of my life having to prove myself too.
  • tinchick
    tinchick Posts: 59 Member
    One word: Boundaries.

    I had to do that with my mom. She was bringing home fast food for the two of us and I couldn't resist eating it. So I sat her down one day and told her that she is free to eat whatever she wants, but that I don't want her to bring home anything for me. If it's not there, then I can't eat it.

    It's been working well thus far. It's not always perfect, but it's much better.
  • fiberartist219
    fiberartist219 Posts: 1,865 Member
    It helps if you can find something else to bond over. Tell him what you want, not just what you don't want.

    Tell him instead of food, he can go for a walk with you, or give you a massage... or go shopping together, or cook healthy food together, or play frisbee, or bring you some other type of present...

    Dudes get their feelings hurt when you reject their "offerings", but it goes over much better if you tell them what you really want, even if it changes like the wind.
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