Goal reached, why aren't I happy..

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http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/31489881/ns/health-womens_health/

It's just going to take some time. Great job, by the way!! You should be very proud!

I liked reading this...I think many people have this problem.

In my experience with Instructing Group Exercise and personal Training...I have found that Yoga, Pilates, and more intense Strength Training are perhaps your answers. Yoga can assist with your confidence and acceptance of your "New you". Pilates will help tighten your body, and give your posture a boost. Then, Strength Training will also tighten your body. Muscle burns fat, so attempting to build MORE MUSCLE, will help to "eat away" those last couple unwanted "fat storage" cells.

I hope this helps. I know many people that one of those 3, or any combination of those 3 strategies has helped with that extra confidence and appearance boost.

Good Luck! and IT MUST BE SAID.... Congratulations with your goal being accomplished!

-Sam-

You look amazing, and I'm jealous. I've never been thin, so I don't know how I will adjust my mentality...but I do know that most everyone struggles with it, and still feels like the fat girl even when they're not. I think now's the time for a lot of positive self-talk. When people compliment you, take that to heart- I know no one ever tells me I look great when I actually don't, so you can probably rest assured that the compliments are genuine. Instead of saying, "I'll never fit in that", try saying, "damn, I'm going to look so hot in that!".

I feel the same way! I have just about reached my goal but I am still not happy when I am standing in front of the mirror. I thought that if I got to this point I would be proud to wear a bikini and I would look great but I certainly don't feel that way! Everyone tells me I look so thin and I truly believe I look good in clothes, but naked is a whole other story! The thing I keep telling myself is that even though I don't have a flat gorgeous belly, I am so much healthier than I used to be! I really don't have any advice for you but I thought it may help to know that other women feel the same way you do! Congrats on the weight loss! You have obviously worked incredibly hard and you deserve to pat yourself on the back!


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likes2bsweet.......I found that when I hit my goal, I was still chomping at the bit to look better. Some ppl on here, and a friend near me told me to wait a month or 2 to make a decision on further weight loss.

I was very glad I did. I had not enjoyed a minute of my new body. I was too busy looking in the mirror for all the things that were wrong. Then I found a note I wrote that said " If I lose 20 pounds I will celebrate!!"

I had lost 30 pounds, was/is in the best shape of the past 15 years and didnt even enjoy it.

I am still losing, slowly, but MAN I love the new me. It took about 4 months for my mind to catch up with my body. But today I wore a halter sun dress to work with sandels and felt sexy and pretty!

Give your mind a chance to catch up with your body. :flowerforyou:

Oh and congratulations on your weight loss!! You look AWESOME~!

you look great, you should be proud of yourself, i know you are! It's too bad that society has created such a high standard of perfection for us women. If you look good in clothes, you look good naked! No woman is perfect. And anyone who has given birth has stretch marks and parts of her body that are not what they used to be., even the women we see on the covers of magazines. Good luck to you, I hope you find your happy weight

It sounds to me like your insides (emotions, ways of thinking) haven't caught up with the outside you yet. You've obviously worked very hard to change your appearance---the hard part is, and this can come as a shock to some, changing the outside is not enough. You have to work to change your insides too.Too many people say something along the lines of, "I'll feel better about myself once I lose some weight." The truth is, if you're not feeling good about yourself now, losing weight is not going to help with those feelings. Losing weight can help with a myriad of health problems, but it can't chase our inner demons away.

I hear you saying that you still "feel" fat--- so you've lost the inside baggage, but it sounds like you need to lose the inside baggage too. This is a difficult process that many, many people who are dealing with weight loss have to go through in some form (including myself). Hang in there---find someone you trust to talk to, do some daily affirmations, and know that you're a good person that deserves to be happy. Sooner or later, you'll be thin inside and out.


I couldn't have said it better myself.

Hugs!!!

Check out this article:

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/31489881/ns/health-womens_health/

It's just going to take some time. Great job, by the way!! You should be very proud!

That's a great article. Although I do see the change in me, I also still see myself as majorly overweight (and I AM in the overweight category although, as Banks pointed out, at the lower end of it). My friends say I look great but I just see the leftover rolls that need to change (not even really come off- just gravitate elsewhere where they are not so noticeable! LOL!).

My goal weight is about 10 pounds away. That's the top of my weight range. If I were to be where I was years and years ago, then I have about 20 pounds to lose. But I'm not shooting for that, right now. Terribly frustrating...

Hey girl,
Just wanted to send a quick shout out to ya.
I hear you and I have been struggling with that same mentality for a while.
The entire world can tell you you're beautiful / don't need to loose 10 more lbs - but it won't mean a thing till you see that.

Changing an appearance is more than a physical goal reached, it's more than a nutritional lifestyle changed, it's a mental rewire as well. You have to change the way you think ... or else you will never enjoy the fruits of your labour, your accomplishments that you desire to reap ... because you need to love yourself first - and that I know is a hard one. We all are so conditional ... oh I'll be happy when I loose 10 lbs, ok I'll be happy when I loose 30 lbs, oh no I won't be happy until I loose 100lbs...
but the trick is we're basing our perceptions of what will make us love ourselves from an image we are interpreting outside of ourselves (mostly in the media).
Try to appreciate the features of ourself, that is no one else. The more you become grateful for your eyes, your hair, your legs etc. ... not jolie's lips, alba's *kitten*, kidman's hair ..... the more you will learn to love yourself - and then you will be happy upon reaching your goals.

Be proud to be you.

Congrats on the acievement by the way.

Nikki

Some days I'll look at photos or into the mirror and wonder how I will possibly look the way I think I want to look by the time I reach my goal weight. Other days I do a double-take and wonder if I really need to lose those last few pounds.

I think you should start shifting to maintenance and focus more on strength training at the gym. That should keep your trainer from thinking that you're about to retire him. And it will give your brain some time to start differentiating the old you from the new you.

So true... Sorry if this doesn't come out correctly with the quote the way it is supposed to (have only been posting about a week). I have been to goal before. You really do have to get your mind to think you are there. You could not have said it better! I have often thought that I have body dismorphic disorder (slight touch of it, not to the extreme). It's a hard thing to talk your brain out of thinking so critically of yourself. I think she looks wonderful and I wish I could snap my fingers and be there! One day... I will- we all will! :flowerforyou:

Poor thing! You just need time to adjust to the new you. Way to go on making it to your goal!:flowerforyou: