How long til you start to feel pretty again?

Pretty is a state of mind, not a physical state.

I think you have some very deep emotional issues that need to be addressed. Getting healthy, getting into shape will help build confidence, but it may not be enough. I would highly consider going to therapy. I find therapy to be exceptionally helpful to a lot of people.

Pretty? Sweetheart you are gorgeous!

Another thing... nothing you did is really BAD choices or mistakes

You had a baby. How does that make you any worse than anyone else who had sex and didn't have a baby? It doesn't.

You fell in love and married someone, and it ultimately didn't work out. How does that make you any worse than anyone else who's relationship didn't work, or even one that did work? It doesn't.

Will there be some men who won't want to date you because you're divorced and have a child? Yes. And those are men who wouldn't be a good match for you. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, or even with them. They're just not right for you.

Heck, I saw a pair of shoes I liked yesterday. The size 8.5 were too tight. The size 9 were too big. It's not the fault of my foot or the fault of the shoe. That particular shoe wasn't a good fit for my foot. (Which, by the way, I think should be the real take-away message of Cinderella... not a prince that saves the girl, but the girl finding the guy... and shoe... that's the perfect fit.)

. But I never second guess that I'm beautiful.

I look in the mirror and just want to cry. i feel destroyed. I feel like winning is my option to a new life. I never knew how much of myself i lost after I had my son at 17 and married at 18. I feel like i just did everything wrong and now as a result I am punished and deserve these feelings.

I was told noone would ever love me because I have a child. Then I was married and that temporarily numbed it and now I'm being told noone will love someone who has a child AND divorced and is barely 21. I just am ready to feel beautiful again. not just skinny but like that other then my son i have purpose. I KNOW i have purpose but i feel like noone should support someone who has made so many ill descions. How will i know in the future what is the right choice if i've made so many terrible ones already?

Wow......I understand what you're feeling...and it breaks my heart...

I myself got pregnant, though I was much older than yourself. After nursing, etc...I had gained 60 pounds. I never got down to my pre-pregnancy weight.... but, I do want to mention a few things that worked for me....

1. You are beautiful....on the outside definitely, but on the inside as well, though your confidence is obviously shaken.
2. Get healthy; you have a little one......who's life would be completely different if you're not in the picture.
3. Fake it until you make it.......you may not feel it yet; but hold your head up, knowing you are changing for the better. You'll notice running after your child won't be such a difficulty, and you'll be able to smile to yourself....
4. I was told no one would want a single mother with a child...that my son was my 'baggage'. Needless to say I ignored that opinion...my son will NEVER be baggage......and truth be told, I have to beat 'them' off with a stick.

You didn't make terrible choices; you made choices. How you handle the results of those choices is up to you.....and if you need a 'friend', feel free to add me.....:flowerforyou:

Ok so who's picture is that? She is beautifull. So who ever is telling you these things is an obvious liar so don't listen to him, probably a used car salesman, or a politician. If it's not him then whoever it is, is trying to break you down. What is thier motive for saying such hurtfull things? If your a Christian see what God says about his people, and how much he loves us. It always helps me when I feel the way you described.