How to help my mom?!!!??!!!

If she isn't motivated herself, then your only option is to be a good example and leave the door of opportunity open. Be a good example through your own diet and activity habits.

My mom and I cook healthy foods together, and if I'm going for a walk I always invite her. She doesn't always take me up on it, but when she does we have a great time chatting and bonding. I can't force her to do anything, but I am always bringing it up. Your mom will decide to start her journey when she is ready.

Can just walking really help her to lose weight? I know prob. slowly but anything is good. and How should we do that? like how many times a day or for how long? We do have a walkway path in our town.

Yes, walking can begin to help her! It's a great way for her to start getting more activity daily. Good luck!

Walking is a great way to boost weight loss. It clears the head, helps depression and bonds the people walking together also. As much as I love Zumba for results, going for walks with my family does me and them the world of good. Get on as many walks as possibe, let her know she can talk about anything and most importantly just listen... It means the world to anyone. X

just walking at a slow pace for half and hour is a good start and work up to walking longer. Eventually she might (after she feels more confidant that she can) want to start C25k, its a good training program. 3 times a week at a slow pace (you can even extend it to make the program longer). I'm having the same issues with my mother, but she doesn't even try in my eyes (hidden pounds of candy, starches out the ears, fried everything)

As the adult-child of an obese parent, I suggest therapy (mental). I'm not purposely trying to offend you or your mom. 9 times out of 10 people who are obese have had something happen to them either an ongoing thing often since childhood, or some kind of serious trauma in life. As a child, mom was horribly verbally abused and rejected by my grandmother. This caused her to do things as a teenager that were very serious. She became an alcoholic in that time, and at some point in my childhood she returned to using food to comfort her instead of booze. She was only able to lose weight when she was also taking care of herself emotionally.

So, I'm just saying that there's likely something else at work inside of your mom besides a lack of motivation.

I def would start by a daily walk with her start out small and work your way up to longer distances. Maybe make a few meals a week for her? Show her that she can eat healthy and it still taste good. Maybe get her to make an mfp acct. to log her daily food intake or a journal at home to write what she eats down in. A lot of people do not realize that they eat what they do until they see it wrote down. Some times that is enough of a wake up call to get into better shape. Lots of encouragement helps too. Good luck with her, its never an easy journey if cancer is involved my mother in law to be has had cancer on and off for 3 years now and it wears on their body majorly.

Don't underestimate the powerful amount of good produced from a short gentle walk.
She is carrying alot of weight on a smaller frame and so to start with even around the block is a great start.

If she is battling a serious disease like cancer she may not have the energy to do much. Programs like the biggest loser and the diet industry encourage us to think if we are very overweight then drastic measures need to be taken. Thats not the case. A small deficit will start weight loss, replacing unhealthy foods with more nutrient dense foods (like fresh raw veg and dark leafy greens) will help with her energy levels and other health problems.

It doesn't have to be a huge exertion. Like changing course on a ship, just a few degrees difference and you have recharted your course.

Just love your mum and be gentle and patient, the final choice towards a healthier life will have to come from her.

Hi there!
What a loving daughter you are to care so much and seek advice. Honestly, some folks would just say "She's an adult, it's her problem".. so bless you!
I am about the same height and weight as your mom.. and was heading to her condition very quickly. What worked for me? Being desperate enough to consider bypass surgery.. I went to the info. session and the fear of having to do that was enough to kick me in the butt! However, it was two things said at that session that really helped me start off easy and on the right foot. Perhaps you could just mention and show her these two things by example, and if she picks up on them.. it might start the journey for her.
#1 Eat REALLY REALLY SLOWLY. I'm talking make bites the size of a baby spoon.. chew them thoroughly and then swallow. It will take well over half an hour to eat a meal. Honestly, she will feel full after about 25-30 minutes. It makes an amazing difference. If you do it a few times she will see really how little one needs to eat to fill up.
#2 DO NOT DRINK ANYTHING WITH MEALS Wait at least 1/2 hour after a meal to have a drink. To often, we eat a big meal and 'push it through' or 'wash it down' our system , leaving.. you guessed it an empty stomach immediately after eating. This one trick has been a HUGE help to me. Those drinks - whether coffee, water, milk, pop were whisking away my meals . I think a big part of the fast-food problems our countries face is simply the huge drinks provided with 'combo meals' I was hungry 1/2 an hour after I ate a big meal and so, I had a snack, and a drink.. and, you guessed it... an hour later, another snack. The parade went on and on and on and on. Now, I'm always satisfied after a good meal, and only VERY RARELY hungry. You don't have to be hungry to lose weight.. it's a myth.
Best wishes!

Walking will absolutely help her. Actually, it's prolly the best thing she can do right now. I was 287 last fall and started out walking 30 minutes a day every other day. I am now 241. She cant expect it to be easy. No effort equals no results. At first it will be hard but she has to want it bad enough to push herself but little by little it will become easier. Now I am riding my bike and counting every calorie.

Walk down to her house and ask her if she would like to take a walk with you. That would give you a chance to talk together. sometimes having someone to talk to as you walk ,you go farther because you have someone to talk too. The fresh air feels great.

Hi, maybe your mum thinks it is all too overwhelming for her, and because she gets out of breath or it is painful, she'd rather not do it at all.

Start small and build up at HER pace. Start with her sitting down on the chair (sitting forward), clapping her hands above her head, then bringing them down to her side to rest on the chair cushion. Repeat this five times.

Then get her to raise one knee up and put it down (like she is slow marching but sitting down)...do this 5 times.

See if she can do just one set of each 3 times a day and praise her for doing it. Build it up slowly to 7 in a set, then 10 in a set...etc...

Other sitting down exercises could be putting one leg out in front and pointing the toes then flexing.....change legs after a set of 5.

When her muscles start to get stronger she could put one arm straight in the air, then bring it down straight all the way to her side and in front...... she could sit forward in a chair, stand up then sit down ...5 reps.

If she is sitting, it will help her from getting too out of breath and being embarrassed. Then she can build up to standing and doing something she enjoys. She may prefer walking, swimming, gardening etc, rather than a workout.

Keep it slow and take tiny steps, when you do too much too soon, she probably see's herself as a failure coz she cant keep up with you, and that is counter productive and feeds her depression.

I wish your mum well, if you need anymore advice please let me know. I used to teach exercise classes (befor I put on the weight!)and have a CYQ in Health related exercise x