Overweight Etiquette Question

You could just tell her that you are doing a wardrobe update and wondered if should would be interested in having first dibs on the clothing before you sell/donate them.

She called dibs... Do what estjames says.

Just ask her if she still wants them. She'd probably be more hurt if she found out you sold them without checking with her first than she would if you offer them.

I was worried about this with my sister-in-law. I used to be MUCH bigger than her so I gave away my biggest stuff without asking her but when I got to her size and then passed it up I started giving them to her. She made it very clear she wanted them so I didn't worry too much about it although I definitely didn't want to make her feel bad. But she also reciprocated and gave me stuff in her closet that was too small for her - go figure!!!! Since your friend mentioned it before I would say go for it. But like others said you don't have to say it's because they are too big, you can just say it's stuff you don't wear anymore. She may KNOW why but it's definitely nicer that way just in case I think she'll appreciate the stuff so much if she's admired it before that the happiness will outweigh anything else.

I don't see a problem as long as you don't premise the conversation by mentioning your weight loss. Unless she is visually impaired, I am sure she is aware of the fact why you are able to give the clothes away, plus she asked.