Ok relationship question...guys...come on in, I need advice.

ojell
ojell Posts: 748 Member
edited November 12 in Chit-Chat
Sooo what should you do when things start getting a little weird and you run out of things to talk about? (ON THE PHONE)

I feel like I've gotten boring and have nothing interesting to talk to my guy friend about anymore. He says I either don't talk or I just ask a bunch of questions...and I kinna sorta do, but it's moreso to try and engage him in a conversation. I don't know what's going on. I don't know why I can't think of anything to just simply talk to him about. We haven't been hanging out quite as often as we used to and I know I'm feeling kind of insecure about that. I need to just relax and be my silly self, but for some reason it's like my mind goes blank or I start rambling about stupid stuff. What is wrong with me?

How can I fix this? What's interesting to talk about? I don't know.

What would you do? Or what do you suggest? I love this man and he's been my best friend for years. I feel like I've got a mental block when it comes to him lately. I've never had this happen, so I don't know what to do about it. How weird is this? Ugh!

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  • zafferFL
    zafferFL Posts: 402
    nothing to talk about? move on?
  • EuroDriver12
    EuroDriver12 Posts: 805 Member
    thaaats not a problem lol i like quiet time... just enjoying the presents of a S.O.....

    if he is so great why in the world is it ur responsibility to start conversations lol its just as much as his job..
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    He's just not that into you.
  • ojell
    ojell Posts: 748 Member
    No he talks to me and we have great convos when he's starts up the convos. It's me that can't seem to start up a convo these days. I feel so boring like I have nothing interesting to talk about. He's interesting as H*ll but he's more in the mix with everything than I am. So, it makes me feel so out of it anymore. I hate that.
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    No he talks to me and we have great convos when he's starts up the convos. It's me that can't seem to start up a convo these days. I feel so boring like I have nothing interesting to talk about. He's interesting as H*ll but he's more in the mix with everything than I am. So, it makes me feel so out of it anymore. I hate that.

    Maybe you should go do something interesting, so you'll have something interesting to talk about.

    Like skydiving, or getting kidnapped.
  • ojell
    ojell Posts: 748 Member
    No he talks to me and we have great convos when he's starts up the convos. It's me that can't seem to start up a convo these days. I feel so boring like I have nothing interesting to talk about. He's interesting as H*ll but he's more in the mix with everything than I am. So, it makes me feel so out of it anymore. I hate that.

    Maybe you should go do something interesting, so you'll have something interesting to talk about.

    Like skydiving, or getting kidnapped.

    LoL
  • ojell
    ojell Posts: 748 Member
    A hobby would do me good. Have no idea what I'd do though. I lack time and funds so limits me even further in this boring place.
  • almonds1
    almonds1 Posts: 642 Member
    wait, people still actually talk on the phone? I thought text was the new talk?
  • fitby38
    fitby38 Posts: 307 Member
    nothing to talk about? move on?


    ditto this ^^ ... i hate sitting on the phone when no one is talking
  • samatalma
    samatalma Posts: 197
    I have a simple fix for this: Don't talk on the phone.

    I think the entire time that the hubs and I have been together (2 1/2 years),we have talked on the phone for a grand total of maybe an hour.
  • fitby38
    fitby38 Posts: 307 Member
    wait, people still actually talk on the phone? I thought text was the new talk?

    LMBO! ^^^ i agree ... i prefer to text ... i can say what i gotta say and be done
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,029 Member
    There is a reason why people pay for phone sex................


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  • sammi402
    sammi402 Posts: 232 Member
    wait, people still actually talk on the phone? I thought text was the new talk?

    ^^does eliminate awkward silences
  • Woooolywool
    Woooolywool Posts: 136 Member
    A hobby would do me good. Have no idea what I'd do though. I lack time and funds so limits me even further in this boring place.

    Some drawing perhaps? Painting? Jogging...? Exercise can be as much of a hobby as other creative things. Do you knit? Read books, novels? What music do you like? Do you play a musical instrument? If not, give it a go. Make cooking new healthy recipes a hobby.

    There's so, so many things out there to do that can be quite affordable and don't need too much dedication.
  • Eaglesfanintn
    Eaglesfanintn Posts: 813 Member
    Personally, I hate talking on the phone and most guys I know are the same way. I can't wait to get off the phone no matter who I'm talking to.
  • Scott613
    Scott613 Posts: 2,317 Member
    Send naughty pictures!
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    thaaats not a problem lol i like quiet time... just enjoying the presents of a S.O.....

    if he is so great why in the world is it ur responsibility to start conversations lol its just as much as his job..

    I think she means on the phone
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    Send naughty pictures!

    this
  • maletac
    maletac Posts: 767 Member
    since when were you allowed to talk... adivce go back to the kitchen and make him a sandwich
  • feistymoon
    feistymoon Posts: 152
    Why not talk honestly and openly to him about it and say everything you've just written here?
  • almonds1
    almonds1 Posts: 642 Member
    Send naughty pictures!

    this
    so MMS lol
  • BruteSquad
    BruteSquad Posts: 373 Member
    If you find you have nothing to say, you are done talking. Just say, "that's all I got. Talk to you later." That is what I do with ANYONE. No need to stretch a conversation beyond it's natural life.
  • Captain_Tightpants
    Captain_Tightpants Posts: 2,215 Member
    Ditto on the suggestion to consider moving on.

    When you find the right guy everything you talk about, no matter how inane, will spark up excited conversation. My wife and I still yabber each other's ears off after 11 years of marriage.
  • stcar
    stcar Posts: 207 Member
    If you find you have nothing to say, you are done talking. Just say, "that's all I got. Talk to you later." That is what I do with ANYONE. No need to stretch a conversation beyond it's natural life.
    I agree with this...also, spend time together face to face :)
  • Luckee_me
    Luckee_me Posts: 1,425 Member
    If you find you have nothing to say, you are done talking. Just say, "that's all I got. Talk to you later." That is what I do with ANYONE. No need to stretch a conversation beyond it's natural life.

    ^this
  • ladyfingers39
    ladyfingers39 Posts: 335
    Are you in a long distance relationship? Why so much phone time? lol

    I'm with the PP who said silence is good...I'm glad my husband get that. ;)

    If you think you are boring it's all in your power to change that...do something crazy....just don't get arrested.
  • jlr_12
    jlr_12 Posts: 170 Member
    I had the same question as someone else..is it a long distance relationship? I haven't had long phone conversations with someone I was dating since I was in high school. Mind you, I hate talking on the phone so that could be why. If you don't live apart and see eachother fairly often, why not just skip the long phone calls...then when you meet up you'll have loads to talk about because you've been saving it up!
  • ojell
    ojell Posts: 748 Member
    No not long distance, just crazy busy lives I guess. I think you guys are right. When we were hanging out more we had tons more to talk about too...obviously. LoL

    He's actually one of those guys that likes to on the phone a lot. We used to talk day and night about anything and everything. Then hang out and not talk so much in person. It was kinna weird. LoL Who knows, maybe it can be opposite now. haha I really do feel boring these days. I'm bored period. I don't really see anyone except like one person at work sometimes, don't interact with the public much at my job, then come home to kiddos and they're who I hang with most of the time. LoL I love it, but at the same time doesn't really give me much to talk about...I mean who wants to talk about my job or kids all the time. ME...but that's it. haha

    I need to get out and do something fun! My coworker lived a full little life so far...she's got stories out the butt that she can tell...I think I secretly want that, but being a single mommy kinna makes that a bit difficult. LoL Not to mention, it is soooooo boring around here. Not much to do.
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