not supportive other...

I can totally get on board with you girl. I do try to eat better and feed my family better and he goes and gets all this snacky crap, and the kids think he's the greatest *roll eyes*...Also when i started losing weight, it started in my boobs and butt, so yes I did look funny. But then he tells me "you gotta stop losing weight". Well my 'screw you mentality' took over, and I told him that I wasn't doing it for him, that it was for me. He's still not supportive of any of the healthy eating or being active, which is very dissappoining for me.
It's one thing to hear about someone trying to sabotage another person's weight loss, it's another to actually experience it.

I think part of the reason I have been successful on this journey is that I vowed right from the beginning that this is my thing and mine alone, and that I would not involve other people at all. So my husband's diet has not changed. I often (usually) make separate dinners for us.

Well for me my husband will eat the low calorie meals i make for dinner. My husband isnt on the diet thing but he supports me doing this. and if he dont like what i make he doesnt complain about it he just makes something that he will eat.

Same problem here and im seriously fed up with it now!

I am going to try and be gentle when I say he isn't force feeding you the junk food. You are choosing to eat it. My hubby loves his snacks and junk as well, it is in the house all the time but I am not eating it. The one food I did have to ask him not to bring in the house was soda since that is a weakness of mine. He agreed and switched to tea which he likes just as well and I hate.

As for going out maybe you all can agree to go out every other weekend? Or pick somewhere that has healthy food options for you? Or eat before you go then just snack on a small order of something less terrible for you?

The journey is yours and yours alone. I am going to say this with as much tact as possible, there are some other issues getting ready to boil up here. You say you are 23 and do not want to be his mother. He needs to help out in the kitchen; you are his mother and going to cook for him every night or you all are going to be eatting out a lot. Maybe pointing out the cost of eating out vs home cooked meals. The second issue I hear you worried about is his green eyed beast; either he trusts you with your choice of friends or not.

My fiance would be perfectly happy eating at McDonald's or Burger King every day (with a little Shane's Rib Shack on the weekends). Actually, that's exactly what he was doing when we got together. I cook for him most of the time, but I still make things I won't eat (ribs, spaghetti, etc) I make my food separate, like 90% of the time.
Last weekend, he wanted to go to the Chinese Buffet. I said no. We finally ended up at Golden Corral lol. I swear I ate the ABSOLUTE HEALTHIEST MEAL EVER EATEN AT THAT RESTAURANT. :happy:
I had shrimp (no butter, oil-I watched him cook it), broccoli & cauliflower, salad w/grilled chicken and fat free dressing, and a really tiny sweet potato (seriously, it was tiny).
I added up the info on MFP the best I could (obviously not totally accurate) and it was around 400 cal or less I think. and hardly any fat.
So, even while he's sitting across from me eating HORRIBLY, I had AMAZING will power & ate healthy. I was super full too.
Later I had yogurt and milk before bed.
It does make it harder, but if you really want to do it, you just have to ignore what he's eating, and find a healthy option at the place you end up going (or eat ahead).

Support from your significant other is very important. My fiance does not need to lose any weight. However when ever he makes anything he's been writing down all the ingredients so that we can total up calories, fat, sodium, fibers etc. We have an 11 year old growing boy in the home so neither of them need to lose weight or diet but both have been extremely supportive of the time I spend at the gym and watching that we eat "healthier" foods. Hopefully your significant other will realize that being healthier is going to make you happier. Good Luck!

I think part of the reason I have been successful on this journey is that I vowed right from the beginning that this is my thing and mine alone, and that I would not involve other people at all. So my husband's diet has not changed. I often (usually) make separate dinners for us.

I do this too...
I don't eat red meat and my man doesn't eat fish
so I'll cook sausage for him and salmon for me
but then we both have the same veggies...
I don't like to have carbs at dinner but I will still make rice or potatoes just for him

This. My husband doesn't care whether I lose weight or not. He does, however, enjoy his food. I fix what he likes and when I buy groceries I buy his favorite snacks. I also buy the healthy stuff for me and either eat different food or smaller portions of the same food at meal times, depending on what I'm fixing for him. It's working well so far. This is my journey, not his.

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Haha I figured that's why you meant xD that would be interesting! "I found my wife, I mean LITERALLY, she was lost wandering around on my street!"
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Wouldn't that make life easier!? WooHoo! I fou-ound you..now you're my wi-ife...wo ho hohoho

I called my husband "the saboteur" when I first started this new eating plan but now he has come around to my way of thinking for the most part. He has lost about 10 lbs. by just going along with the meals. He still eats chips etc. but it doesn't bother me because I am on my own journey. Be true to yourself and you will be fine!

I have one girl friend from high school and I was over her house the other night and he drove by to actually see if I was there. is that unusual?

Real talk: that is crazy

Like seriously that is something overprotective parents do, it shows an egregious lack of trust and desire to control. RED FLAG

it sucks we went to the bar last night, and he wants to go again tonight. I can't keep doing it, but I also hate sitting at home by myself. we just moved to a new place so we don't have cable or internet yet. but he gets mad if I hang out with other guys (which are basically all my friends). I feel like I'm doomed to eat mac and cheese and fruit roll ups for the rest of the century :grumble:

My hubby is a military man, and we are always moving. Yeah it definitely sucks lol...My hubby isn't one for going out to eat all the time he just likes his junkfood lol. I usually do get along better with men, but I have quit having them as real friends, I guess you could say I keep it more at an aquaintance level. Out of respect, I wouldn't hang out with another guy, at least in a private setting, i.e. my home or his home alone. I have a couple of gym rat buddies that i see all the time at the gym, but thats about it

I know we usually go to a bar just to hang out (I'm still in college and that's all there is) but my boyfriend is super sensitive about me going with a guy, or any amount of guys. it's really difficult too because I am one female in a class of *sixty* men. I'm not sure what he thinks my other options are we play videogames a lot, but I'm not supposed to go to anyone's house. I have one girl friend from high school and I was over her house the other night and he drove by to actually see if I was there. is that unusual?

It's not exceptional by any means but it's not what I'd consider acceptable - nor is most of the other stuff you're talking about! But it sounds to me like he's insecure for whatever reason, and I gues if you're surrounded by other males all day, then you start losing weight, getting healthy, and looking and feeling better... oh and then (from his point of view) you don't want to go to the bar with him and he's getting hassle about what he eats "she's always complaining".... Maybe it's time for a heart to heart with one another and see if you can't sort some of these things out?