Have you noticed a change in how you are perceived?
jadedone
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I know one common thread among people (especially women) who are losing weight, have lost lots of weight or are somwhere along the way, is that people start treating you differently from when you go from heavier > slimmer.
And I am not talking about in the dating world, that is sort of different, but in general life situations.
So if you have noticed a change? What has been different? Are people friendlier? More attentive? Less attentive? Ask you for advice more? Comment on your looks more? Something else?
I'd love to know what you think.
And I am not talking about in the dating world, that is sort of different, but in general life situations.
So if you have noticed a change? What has been different? Are people friendlier? More attentive? Less attentive? Ask you for advice more? Comment on your looks more? Something else?
I'd love to know what you think.
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Well, I can't attest to the heavier to skinnier change, but the reverse, absolutely. The more weight I gained, the more people assumed I was lazy (true to some degree, but not entirely), poor, and stupid - and would absolutely treat me as such. So looking forward to losing weight, and the attitude that comes from other people right along with it!
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I've lost a little over 100 lbs all together. The change that I have noticed is in the way that I perceive myself. I really don't think that people thought less of me when I was heavier. I do think that I thought less of me and convinced myself that other people did to.
That being said . . .
I am loving that people are now telling me that I am inspiring and motivating. Of course those two things are a direct result of the weight loss. I'm happy to take that perception change!0 -
I've lost a little over 100 lbs all together. The change that I have noticed is in the way that I perceive myself. I really don't think that people thought less of me when I was heavier. I do think that I thought less of me and convinced myself that other people did to.
That being said . . .
I am loving that people are now telling me that I am inspiring and motivating. Of course those two things are a direct result of the weight loss. I'm happy to take that perception change!
This! I think I saw myself a certain way because of my weight. Since losing over 95 lbs, a co-worker says I have "blossomed".0 -
Hey guys!
The change for me is more negative than positive. Whats disheartening to me is that most of my colleages seem to think that i'm joking or only on my 'diet' for a week.
My close friends and family are really supportive but its hard to hear the constant negativity at work.
To be honest I am using that to spur me on so that i can prove them WRONG!
Not giving up at all.....NEVER!0 -
I just posted something about this the other day.
I've only lost about 20 lbs so far, but I've already noticed a big difference in how people have treated me. Suddenly my views are valid, my opinions are listened to, and my stance on things is respected. Amazing (<--- I'm being sarcastic).
It's frustrating that this happens. My personality hasn't changed, but people are visual creatures and will perceive what they perceive.0 -
Roxie861 - Keep using that to keep you going because at the end of the day, you're getting fitter and losing however much you want to lose for YOU nobody else, and you will feel the benefits of it all and get the ultimate satisfaction of knowing, in the end, that what you set out to do's been done, despite them that put you down to begin with :happy:0
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For me people are more shocked that I'm trying to do something about my life now, and not just flowing along like I had been. I've quit smoking, started exercising, began this... and this is just the beginning, BRING IT ON BABY!! :laugh:0
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I'm very fortunate that the people I work with don't base perceptions of intelligence or productivity on a person's weight. Our superintendent is a former high school gym teacher and has gained more than me since she's been out of teaching. She's highly respected and SUCH a great leader! A number of us are doing something or another to manage weight.
Since I've been on MFP and working out, people are really interested to see if "it works" I guess. I haven't found my perfect balance of calorie intake/expenditure yet, but my losses in inches are getting notice. It's all been positive so far, but in a spirit of "I'm going to keep watching her to see how she progresses..."
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I work in a plus size ladies clothes store. All staff are female plus sizes from UK 14-32. I'm a 24' one of my collegues is now a 12 dropped from a 26. She's done amazingly, but I've heard so much bitterness and jelousy from other women that I've decided not to share my sucess with them yet. These ladies are my friends, we are close, but they change when they talk about her.
I've also noticed that we all talk about losing weight and getting fit but rarely do any of us stick to it. I'm starting to think were bad for eachother. I mean if we can't encourage eachother who can? Biggest problem is the lovely clothes we sell (and staff discount) it leaves no encouragment to lose weight! I've got bigger since working there yet never had trouble buying clothes.
On the right path now tho, 26lbs down, 126 to go thanks to mfp
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Hey guys!
The change for me is more negative than positive. Whats disheartening to me is that most of my colleages seem to think that i'm joking or only on my 'diet' for a week.
My close friends and family are really supportive but its hard to hear the constant negativity at work.
To be honest I am using that to spur me on so that i can prove them WRONG!
Not giving up at all.....NEVER!
That's right , Girl...let your haters be your motivators!0 -
Yes, people are much nicer to me now than when I was at my top weight. In fact I moved to a new town a couple of years ago, so I had to start seeing a new Dr. The first visit was to get back on my thyroid medication and ask advise on losing weight. When I told him that I was on the thyroid meds before but had quit taking it his response was "you know that if you just want this medicine to lose weight, there can be really bad side effects". He listed off a bunch of stuff. Anyway, it took me about 15 minutes to get him to run the tests to find out the correct dosage and get me back on it. Then another time, I went in with hip pain, he just said "well when you carry extra weight around the hip area, it can cause pain". I felt like he really did not want to help me because I was overweight and he saw that as lazy and that I don't deserve to feel better and get help to be healthier. He is actually a pretty good Dr, but I feel like he judged me poorly because I was so overweight. Now that I have lost weight, he treats me better and with more respect.
Another thing that really got to me was when I was at an amusement park (at my top weight of 248 pounds) and I got sat next to some young thin teenagers on a ride. One of them said to the other "oh great, we get to sit next to the person that is going to break the ride" I was so humiliated and mad. I learned to ignore those things.0 -
I have not had this experience myself but a friend of mine had gastric bypass surgery and lost well over 150 lbs. Before her surgery she was very active socially. She was very flirtatious, outgoing, volunteered for commitees, party planning and various other activities. After her weight loss she had not changed her behaviors but people that she considered her friends were talking about her behind her back. It was like now they see her as a threat because she is now in a size 3 and when she was a 26 they had the confidence that their men would not want to be with her. She now has a new group of friends that do not judge her and know that she would never cheat on her husband. I'm glad that I can still call her a friend.0
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This is very very true.....after I lost 40lbs, I was getting hit on, people talked to me differently and respected my input on things. After I gained back 55lbs, all the sudden my advise was "obscured" and irrelevant to certain conversations like my weight affected the validity. Now, I'm down 22lbs again and I've noticed peoples attitudes changing again. It's sad seeing how much people are biased against overweight people and how bad it is. While I loved the feeling with all that weight I lost, I actually wasn't motivated for a long time to lose it again because I felt that I was not perceived seriously regardless of my weight. So sad...0
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I have not had this experience myself but a friend of mine had gastric bypass surgery and lost well over 150 lbs. Before her surgery she was very active socially. She was very flirtatious, outgoing, volunteered for commitees, party planning and various other activities. After her weight loss she had not changed her behaviors but people that she considered her friends were talking about her behind her back. It was like now they see her as a threat because she is now in a size 3 and when she was a 26 they had the confidence that their men would not want to be with her. She now has a new group of friends that do not judge her and know that she would never cheat on her husband. I'm glad that I can still call her a friend.
This is quite sad, also. I've seen this happen to some older friends I had years ago. They always wanted to have the "fat girl" around to make them look better.0 -
I work in a plus size ladies clothes store. All staff are female plus sizes from UK 14-32. I'm a 24' one of my collegues is now a 12 dropped from a 26. She's done amazingly, but I've heard so much bitterness and jelousy from other women that I've decided not to share my sucess with them yet. These ladies are my friends, we are close, but they change when they talk about her.
I've also noticed that we all talk about losing weight and getting fit but rarely do any of us stick to it. I'm starting to think were bad for eachother. I mean if we can't encourage eachother who can? Biggest problem is the lovely clothes we sell (and staff discount) it leaves no encouragment to lose weight! I've got bigger since working there yet never had trouble buying clothes.
On the right path now tho, 26lbs down, 126 to go thanks to mfp
In the past couple years, I have noticed a lot more diversity in the workers at my local plus size stores. A few years ago everyone who worked there was plus. Not I see non-plus sized women and men making up the staff. It is interesting. 0 -
This is very very true.....after I lost 40lbs, I was getting hit on, people talked to me differently and respected my input on things. After I gained back 55lbs, all the sudden my advise was "obscured" and irrelevant to certain conversations like my weight affected the validity. Now, I'm down 22lbs again and I've noticed peoples attitudes changing again. It's sad seeing how much people are biased against overweight people and how bad it is. While I loved the feeling with all that weight I lost, I actually wasn't motivated for a long time to lose it again because I felt that I was not perceived seriously regardless of my weight. So sad...
This is really disheartening.I have not had this experience myself but a friend of mine had gastric bypass surgery and lost well over 150 lbs. Before her surgery she was very active socially. She was very flirtatious, outgoing, volunteered for commitees, party planning and various other activities. After her weight loss she had not changed her behaviors but people that she considered her friends were talking about her behind her back. It was like now they see her as a threat because she is now in a size 3 and when she was a 26 they had the confidence that their men would not want to be with her. She now has a new group of friends that do not judge her and know that she would never cheat on her husband. I'm glad that I can still call her a friend.
Horrible! Not true friends at all.0 -
Oh yeah....down 3 stone and suddenly people who were quite stand offish before are now really friendly and chatty!! I'm really abrupt with them, cause I've lost some weight and and getting fitter it makes me a nicer person , suddenly more acceptable?? Phhh...don't need friends like that thanks!! The people who loved me when I was (even more of a) fatty are the people that will love me forever and are my true friends...
To all the other vapid and shallow butt holes, they can kiss my fuzzy white *kitten*!!0
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