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_snw_
_snw_ Posts: 1,298 Member
edited November 2024 in Chit-Chat
No. Don't. Really.


I just saw one of these threads last night in intro or somewhere - and they always seem to mystify me.

I'm picky with the ones I FR. They are usually peole i've seen around for awhile, enjoying their posts, etc and only then do I FR along with a little explanation of why i wanted the FR to begin with.

For accepting FRs, I'm of course less picky, because I may not "know" these people, but given a little message saying they's seen me before, yada yada, I will always give it a chance. And then within the next week, ~then~ the pickiness comes out and that's when I clean my list up.

What about you? How much do you think your friends list? (and yeah, i'm sure i'll get the "we should all love and care for one another puppydogs and rainbow, blah blah blah, but i'm on a computer all day everyday (i'm a software developer) so i tend to spend a bunch of time here and my feeds are full of pretty good online friends, so yes, ~i~ personally care about the substance.)

am in the majority or the minority on this topic?
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  • jhardenbergh
    jhardenbergh Posts: 1,035 Member
    I am a *kitten* when it comes to friend requests, I rarely ask to add anyone, but people usually add me, I like to think it's because I'm hot, but I know its cause they like to stare at my manboob cleavage.
  • SimplyShanRunning
    SimplyShanRunning Posts: 885 Member
    Agreed.... I give them a week. No interaction ..... I CUT YOU! :wink: I like my friends to be somewhat like me. I also don't want to constantly worry about offending someone..... I do that enough on the boards apparently

    Ps.... Wanna make a bet to see who friends you because of this ??:laugh:
  • _snw_
    _snw_ Posts: 1,298 Member
    Ps.... Wanna make a bet to see who friends you because of this ??:laugh:


    i'm betting no one. i'm too shy. and mean. and ugly. and beautiful. but really - none.
  • KaleidoscopeEyes1056
    KaleidoscopeEyes1056 Posts: 2,996 Member
    Ps.... Wanna make a bet to see who friends you because of this ??:laugh:


    i'm betting no one. i'm too shy. and mean. and ugly. and beautiful. but really - none.

    I'm also mean and beautiful. We should be friends. :drinker:
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    I'm quite selective with whom I FR and whom I accept. But I'm a total b*tch. I'm surprised all my friends haven't jumped ship already...
  • SimplyShanRunning
    SimplyShanRunning Posts: 885 Member
    I'm quite selective with whom I FR and whom I accept. But I'm a total b*tch. I'm surprised all my friends haven't jumped ship already...

    Your *****iness turns me on:devil:
  • Fit_and_Healthy
    Fit_and_Healthy Posts: 52
    Can't imagine you are to picky with 173 friends!
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    Can't imagine you are to picky with 173 friends!
    So what if she has 173. Do you know how many thousands of users are on this site? I have 144...if I accepted every.single.FR, I would have...well, I don't want to think about how many I would have. Probably a lot of ghost usernames whom I knew nothing about and just got a lot of wtg's and nice burns. It may take a bit more work keeping tabs with that many friends, but it can be done.

    Just because she has what you would consider a lot of friends doesn't mean she ain't picky.
  • tbresina
    tbresina Posts: 558 Member
    Wow, I guess I have different thoughts on "friends". I would seriously never turn away someone for any reason, we are all in this together and my thoughts are the more the merrier and if they lose their way while they are one of my friends I would be there to help them get back on track, isn't that what this is all about?
  • Fit_and_Healthy
    Fit_and_Healthy Posts: 52
    Can't imagine you are to picky with 173 friends!
    So what if she has 173. Do you know how many thousands of users are on this site? I have 144...if I accepted every.single.FR, I would have...well, I don't want to think about how many I would have. Probably a lot of ghost usernames whom I knew nothing about and just got a lot of wtg's and nice burns. It may take a bit more work keeping tabs with that many friends, but it can be done.

    Just because she has what you would consider a lot of friends doesn't mean she ain't picky.

    Lol, why so srs? Easy there tiger
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    Lol, why so srs? Easy there tiger
    You say tiger, I say b*tch. Tomato, Tomahto.

    :wink:
  • DominiqueSmall
    DominiqueSmall Posts: 495 Member
    I guess I'm a little different. For me, those requests mean I have an opportunity to encourage someone else without expectation. I love encouraging and lifting others so for me if someone has the guts to ask me to friend them, I say YES, because I know I can help them on their way and their journey. Life is hard enough as it is. A new friend here and there makes it that much better.

    Hope you are having a great day!
    Dominique
  • Fit_and_Healthy
    Fit_and_Healthy Posts: 52
    Lol, why so srs? Easy there tiger
    You say tiger, I say b*tch. Tomato, Tomahto.

    :wink:

    With my x-ray specs on, I can see you are really a soft lil kitteh!!! :tongue:
  • Wreak_Havoc
    Wreak_Havoc Posts: 597
    Love that attitude! Read both the posts and profile and not even going to insult you by "adding you" LOL

    I've been here since Oct 11 and only pulled my head back to daylight in Feb after adding 10 more pounds. I have one friend and they asked to add me in the first week. We offer encouragement on milestones and setbacks, but pretty much leave each other alone otherwise. I'm putting this program through the ringer as unlike to 15-50 pounds most seem to need to loose, I have (had) 116. A whole person! So no one asks the "Fat *kitten*" as a friend and that's fine. This is for me. For those that need lots of friends, Good for you! And for those that don't, Good for you too!

    Here's to a lighter you! Cheers!
  • _snw_
    _snw_ Posts: 1,298 Member
    Wow, I guess I have different thoughts on "friends". I would seriously never turn away someone for any reason, we are all in this together and my thoughts are the more the merrier and if they lose their way while they are one of my friends I would be there to help them get back on track, isn't that what this is all about?


    and there it is. the puppydogs and rainbows i spoke of initially. (it never fails...)
  • _snw_
    _snw_ Posts: 1,298 Member
    Can't imagine you are to picky with 173 friends!


    heh. go ahead and keep imaging that. ~wink~
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    initially I made quite a few fr's, but as my list grew I realized that I couldn't keep up with everyone. I don't really make friend requests anymore, but accept most of them as long as they send me a message and don't act like a creeper.
  • ccnjc4e
    ccnjc4e Posts: 142 Member
    I am a *kitten* when it comes to friend requests, I rarely ask to add anyone, but people usually add me, I like to think it's because I'm hot, but I know its cause they like to stare at my manboob cleavage.

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:


    I don't have a lot of friends..maybe 15. But that's okay. Most of them post interesting things and I help support whenever possible
  • delilah47
    delilah47 Posts: 1,658
    Wow, I guess I have different thoughts on "friends". I would seriously never turn away someone for any reason, we are all in this together and my thoughts are the more the merrier and if they lose their way while they are one of my friends I would be there to help them get back on track, isn't that what this is all about?


    and there it is. the puppydogs and rainbows i spoke of initially. (it never fails...)

    I'm at the other end of the spectrum. Tried the friend thing and found I do better without anyone saying "atta girl" etc. It all sounds um, superficial and distracting. I know my food diary is in order and I eat healthy. And I, on the other hand, expect a lot from myself and a lot from other people as well. I wouldn't be inclined to give praise for what I consider day to day obligations. I realize many people need daily praise and encouragement. I say more power to them; do what works for you. I just learned at an early age that my future and well being has to be, totally, my responsibility.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    You have other friends besides me? :angry:
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    You have other friends besides me? :angry:
    Yes...me :blushing:
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    You have other friends besides me? :angry:
    Yes...me :blushing:

    Well who could hate her for that. :heart:
  • _snw_
    _snw_ Posts: 1,298 Member
    You have other friends besides me? :angry:
    Yes...me :blushing:

    Well who could hate her for that. :heart:

    you should love me ~more~ for that. i want q's tongue in my mouth on a daily basis.
  • delilah47
    delilah47 Posts: 1,658
    You have other friends besides me? :angry:
    Yes...me :blushing:

    Well who could hate her for that. :heart:

    you should love me ~more~ for that. i want q's tongue in my mouth on a daily basis.

    geez, this was interesting for a while there.. :sick:
  • EmpressOfJudgment
    EmpressOfJudgment Posts: 1,162 Member
    Wow, I guess I have different thoughts on "friends". I would seriously never turn away someone for any reason, we are all in this together and my thoughts are the more the merrier and if they lose their way while they are one of my friends I would be there to help them get back on track, isn't that what this is all about?


    and there it is. the puppydogs and rainbows i spoke of initially. (it never fails...)
    Ugh. yeah, I'm the same way. We are not all in this together and it is not the more the merrier. If I have nothing in common with someone there is no point in friending them. If they will be easily offended, we should not be friends. If they are going to talk about God all the time, I don't want to friend them. If they just want to be my friend so they can stalk me and send me sexy PMs I don't see the point. If they are too lazy to take the time to read my profile and tell me why they want to add me as a friend, I don't want to spend my time on them. Not everyone is here for the same reasons. You can't just say "we are in this together." We are all at different levels with different needs and there are many clashing personalities. This isn't kindergarten where we all have to be friends and hold each others hands and sing songs.
  • Schmarrn
    Schmarrn Posts: 22
    i do not turn away people who add me, only if there's no message with the request. i do not add anyone either unless another friend suggested one of their friends for support to that person. i like to keep a small number of friends because is easier to support them, tho latelly i have been on a big setback in my life and i havent supported anyone like i used to.
  • carlie_carl
    carlie_carl Posts: 285
    Ive made quite a few friends, I dont ever reject someones request, the only time I delete is if the person ahsnt been on for well over a month, but I dont have many friends on here and the ones I do have I interact with quite often and one friend I talk to like she was sat next to me lol

    I do understand people been picky though, especially if they dont use MFP to socialise or dont like been requested to boost someones number of friends
  • Karrix
    Karrix Posts: 288
    I add everyone who friend requests me. I'll only delete those who haven't logged on for awhile or who are negative / starving themselves.
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    I think I can count on one hand the people I've sent FR's to. I have to really really think you're cool or have shared some moment in the forums with you to do that. There's no real criteria to meet.

    I accept most FR's, unless their profile shows signs of neediness or being too new.
    - I don't pat people's backs for staying in their calorie range.
    - I rarely ever pat backs for exercise.
    Needy people and new people expect a lot from their friends usually. I feel I would let them down. Actually, I'm sure I would.

    Oh and I delete people with whom I never interact. They don't post on their feed, they don't comment on anything, etc. I also delete friends who are absolutely oblivious to the fact that I'm a person and fitness isn't my whole life.
  • blueeyedcristi
    blueeyedcristi Posts: 304 Member
    I just joined 2 weeks ago tomorrow and already feel like I need to go through and make some major cuts. For me, I'd rather have quality than quantity. There are so many on my 'pals' or 'friends' list that I've heard barely a peep from...only a handful I actually enjoy interacting with. If that makes me a a bad person than I'm a bad person :tongue:

    I have a chronic illness and I'm sure there are some on my friends' list that get tired of hearing about it - I hope they read this and feel free to cut me if they'd like. I get tired of living this way and enjoy coming here for an escape. Just my two cents, whatever they're worth.
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