Arrrg...needing to vent!

So I just need to vent for a second...... :mad:

I just recently saved enough money to go to a lawyer to begin the process to get a custody/visitation schedule set up with my sons father, my ex. To give a little background, I live in PA and my ex moved to NC by his own doing 3 years ago.... therefore being almost non-existant to my son. : ( Anyway, we have not had any sort of schedule by which to plan any visits for Tyler and my ex to see each other. My ex has been basically flying by the seat of his pants, giving me little to no notice when he wants to see Tyler and it is very disruptive to our lives. My son has had to very abruptly at times changes his plans which can be very disappointing, but he idolizes his father and always wants to see him when he can.

So, to bring us to today.... My ex got my lawyers letter in the mail stating that we have taken action and will be notified shortly of a court date in which we will meet infront of a mediator to nail down a vistiation schedule in order to bring predictablitly in all parties lives. My ex was NOT HAPPY. I will not go into the conversation only to say that 2 parts frustrate me incredibly and more that tick me off.

He felt the need to attack me as a parent and belittle me in the 'faults' he sees in Tyler. :explode: One thing that will put me over the edge is critizing me as a parent, when he has been nothing but an almost absent parent for years. Just so that you guys are aware... not to toot my own horn... but my son is my pride and joy. I am so proud of what a lovely young man he is considering the tough times we have been through. I have had people come up to me at school functions and such to tell how polite and genuine Tyler is. Ohh how to make me feel so proud!! He he such a good boy. So for my ex to tell me I am doing things not up to his standards is insulting and infuriating.

The second thing that ticked me off is that he threatened that if he was in anyway is 'f**#%-ed' in this process his mother will file for sole custody of Tyler. WHAT!!??? Don't even go there. :explode:

So all in all, I am very frustrated because the purpose for this is not to take Tyler away from his father, but rather I want to enable it by having a set schedule in which Tyler can look forward to seeing his father rather than anxiously waiting to see when that will happen and my ex has undoubtable put on his fighting gloves for no reason.

Sigh... I hope that this doesn't get too ugly, because I don't want to see a battle. I just want PEACE.

So please keep my and Tyler in your thoughts and prayers as things begin to happen here within the next few weeks. I appreciate your support.

Thanks and have a great weekend all!! :flowerforyou: