2nd time round

Welcome back! Sorry to hear you had problems with your foot etc... but 1.2lbs per week is do-able, you're so right!

I'm usually lurking around here and am trying myself to get motivation the second time round. I have the motivation kind of, I'm just horrendously impatient and always want to see results fast (a problem, I know!).

I'm sure we can do it this time!

I too am a second time around gal and I am so glad you posted. I am 41 and have 5 kids (yes their are twins in there) and I live in a house with super skinny kids and husband who can eat anything and not gain a pound. I lost 100 lbs. three years ago and had a difficult time once I reached my goal. I had thought I would feel differently about myself when I was fit and trim but I still felt fat and had low self worth. I had a major meltdown and traded in the diet and excercise for therapy. My biggest problem is once I reach my goals I panic and sabotage myself. Ilook at myself sometimes and remember my Dad comparing my mother to other women and telling her she was fat and ugly. My mother would then spend days starving herself and then bingeing. I cannot recall how many diets my Mom put all of us kids thru and the excercise classes too. I spent most of my childhood trying to comfort my mother as she cried in my lap telling me all the cruel things my Dad would say to her. Today, I hear those comments like a broken record in my head and they are directed at me. Three years and a lot of therapy later, I am now ready to try this again! I hope I can do this and stick with it once I reach my goal! I am competative with myself and I like pushing myself to workout a little harder each day. I am tierd of this fat tire that has grown around my middle and the flappy arms. The breaking point for me was losing the Toilet paper spring while I was on the toilet and practically killing myself bending over to pick it up!! Sad but this is my get real moment with myself. So, anyway let's do this thing!!!! I have been adding a few more minutes to my routines each day and now I am increasing the intensity level too. My poor French Bulldog is worn out from all the dog walks and I end up carrying her when she just sits down and says are you insane lady. Anyway, I look forward to reading your posts.

In it for the 2nd time-
Hannah

Hi Everyone,

I too am a second-timer and I can use some friends for support as well. I'd like to friend each one of you, if that's okay. :flowerforyou:

My goal is to go from my current 208 pounds to 135 by my 55th birthday, which is about 18 months. I have a goal to lose 1.5 pounds per week and if i do that I can reach my 73-pound weight loss goal by September 2013.

Lynz, I like what you've written about drinking water (no juice or hot beverages) until your stomach is empty and then eating. That is how I started the day--drinking water--and after reading your entry I am now inspired to take that approach all throughout the day. I also like the idea of the small plates because my biggest problem is portion control. :drinker:

Hannah, I think it's awesome that you've managed to lose 100 pounds in the past. That is an inspiration to me that it can be done! I too am fighting the battle of the mid-section bulge--sometimes I cut off my air supply when bending over from the waist, and I have flabby arms as can be seen in my profile pic. I really want to see LESS of me when I look in the mirror.

Hbunting, I know what you mean about wanting to see results so I finally decided to track inches as well as weight and I maintain my motivation when I see the inches going down, even if the pounds are pretty stagnant. :ohwell:

Geigemarie, welcome to MFP. :happy:

I've decided to do blog entries this time around to help remind myself of what's working, pitfalls and anything else that comes to mind.

Hi Chicadee!

I, like you, am much the same. This is my 2nd time around, but the first time, my heart just wasn't in it. Once upon a time, in a land far away, I was SKINNY. In fact, I got to be UNDERWEIGHT. I have always been a bigger kid, but at age 16, I got put on anti-seizure medication and one of the adverse effects was weight loose and almost complete lose of appetite. I went from 185lbs to 123lbs in a matter of 7 months (and no, for the record, I don't recommend this- it was not healthy). But for the first time in my life, I was thin, and still didn't know it. I was still convinced, even as I wore a size 6 dress to my prom, that I was fat. *sigh* If I could turn back the clocks...

I have since stopped that medication around 2010 ( I started in 2006) and gained a butt-ton of weight back and then some. I have a very naturally slow moving metabolism, so that worked against me in conjunction with at the end of my skinny days, I finally started to eat whatever I could (Not diet, but regular coke, sweets out the wazoo, pizza with the grease still puddling on it, etc). I grew fond of my horrible eating habits and once the medication stopped circulating...oops! I was back to 185lbs. SInce then, I have had a series of ups and downs and because I am a comfort eater, I did just that, I ate. I am currently 205 lbs (and this is the first time I have publicly admitted it) and yes, I "look good for my weight" (or so I'm told, but really, I just dress well and wear BUNCHES or flexwear) but I am not satisfied to look "good for my weight". I want to look good for anyone and, above all, be healthy this time! I will appreciate it this time around so much more because I am actually working for it opposed to being given a little pill that magically made me thin (and for the record, my body became used to that medication, so even if I wanted to go back to that, I couldn't). I'm actively working out and am extremely conscious of what I eat. Yoga and Pilates are life savers, they mentally relax me and work me out, too!

In any case, I feel you, and also need the support! We can support each other I really think it helps to look at others plans of actions and take something away from that; to be surrounded by people that have a common goal. It's gonna be tough, but I know that you can do it if you are dedicated enough. I'll be routing for you, if you route for me, too. I wish you all the best, and lots of good luck.

Here's to looking even more fabulous than we do now!
Mandy

P.S. If you want any information on Yoga (if that interests you) please let me know I know of several amazing links and books that are the best.

I'm not a 2nd timer, but I am always looking for more friends to both help and support each other, I was always ashamed of how I felt, I have a long journey ahead of me, but I am determined to do it, people will see me walking and stopping for a deep breath and always ask me if my car broke down, I kindly say no, thank you for asking, but I am walking to burn this fat away!!! They all smile and wish me luck, so yes even though I am obese I am no longer ashamed of my body, I now think of it as a work in art, meaning I am working on it to become thin and healthy!! Please feel free to add me!!!