My husband is trying to gain weight and I'm trying to loose

I am not a stay at home mom, but I have two men, my skinny husband and adult son. I cook for them on weekends and sometimes during the week. Funny, but the longer you are on a healthy kick, the cravings for their fatty food isn't as strong. This morning, I made a half package of bacon, sausage, omelet fried in the bacon sausage grease and muffins. I didn't take one bite. I served it up and went back into the kitchen and made my protein shake with banana, peanut butter, apple butter, skim milk and whey protein.

The key is to force yourself for one week to NOT eat what they eat-not even a nibble. It will get easier to do if you get past this first week. But, you obviously have done something right, since you already lost a lot of weight. Good for you!

I feel ya! My husband is diabetic, with high blood pressure. I cook to keep him healthy, which is actually good for me, too. However, lately he has been losing weight, and I don't want him to lose too much. I already took him shopping for pants that had to be tailored to not droop where his butt used to be. I should have that problem!!! Anyway, I cook food that is healthy for both of us, and I just give him bigger portions than I eat. He likes to eat, he just gets busy and skips meals if I don't set it out for him. This is not good for his blood sugar! I always ate less than him, but was still way too heavy, so MFP is a godsend for me. It keeps me honest about my portions. Just because hubby can have whatever he wants, doesn't mean that I can! I had to make peace with that. It isn't fair, but that is what it IS!

My daughter is gluten intolerant, dairy intolerant, must avoid soy and a few other things that are very common. So, good thing that I like to cook from scratch. Taking everyone's needs into account is quite a task, but I do it because I love everyone, and want them to be healthy. For them, it is what foods they can eat. For me, it is how much. MFP is training me to judge portions more honestly than I did in the past. There might be a lot of great food around here, but I don't have to eat it all! And, I am learning to cook amounts we will eat, without so much extra. If someone wants more of a main dish, I know they have had plenty, and I don't feel bad offering them fruit or cookies and milk. I hope this helps you. They will adjust to not having unlimited amounts of food around if you cook closer to what you all actually need.

When I started cooking healthy my fiance lost like 15lbs I think, he started getting worried cause he wants to maintain at 163. I cook everything for us. I will try to add more calories to his, while adding more filler to mine. For example I made a cheese and broccoli soup the other day. To his I added ham and cheese, to mine I cut it with low sodium chicken broth and added more broccoli. I ll make like a skillet and I'll add extra meat and potatoes to his, then put on like cheese and sour cream. If I am making mexican I do like turkey meat with kidney beans and onions n peppers, I'll put his on a tortilla and mine on a bed of romaine. So its just adding in little calories and carbs for him and cutting them for me. Just little tweaks here and there really add up.

Good luck! I don't have much to suggest. I think you're smart to want to stay away from all-you-can-eat places. It's likely you've already thought of them, but you don't have to use the same strategy every time. Some options are to
* not go and eat an especially flavorful but lo-cal thing your husband wouldn't want
* go, but some all-you-can-eat places will have a buffet, but also a menu. If you can go to one of those, order off the menu. Don't go to the buffet at all.
* go, but treat the buffet as a one-time thing. Go once, select a reasonable portion size, focus on the things you should be eating and don't go back up. If you can manage it, this has the advantage of letting you take smaller portions than many restaurants serve.
None of these are perfect. Hope you can find a combination that works for you.