My stepdad is hurting not helping /venting

Yeah you should try and sit down with your mum as well, but don't attack him about it. Don't get all zesty on his *kitten* just yet, as this will just put him in the corner and he will be all defensive probably. Maybe even suggest that you guys work out together, share a diet plan if you can manange to convince him.

He always does this to me when I want something... There was nothing else in the house to make something good, and I had no choice but to eat it since I only had about 450 calories inside me for yesterday. And now this morning was my weight day, and I weighed 208.5lbs. Last week I was 206 and there was no pizza that week...

First things first - if he is always doing this to you - then BOTH you and your mother need to sit down with him.

Secondly - you always have a choice. Was there nothing in the house because you didnt want to cook anything? Was it time to go grocery shopping? You cant use the excuse that the pizza was the only thing you could eat. I dont know if you have your driver's license ( I see from your profile youre 18), but if you do, you could always go out and grab some groceries to make a healthy meal that was within the calories left for the day. You could go get a good workout in to earn some calories back to have a decent meal.... you could always get more exercise to accomodate the fact you ate the pizza.

If you are 2.5lbs more, its because of the salt of the pizza (you had sausage and pepperoni, the pizza sauce, salt in the pizza dough). Your bloated from the food and the fact you still have the food in your system until the next day you go to the bathroom. You didnt gain weight at all.

Yes - your stepfather is being a jerk IMHO... but you need to hold yourself accountable for putting anything and everything in your mouth.

Good luck with the discussion with your stepfather - he better get his act straightened out.

He was heading out to get something to eat and since I was low on calories, I asked him to get me 2 grilled snack wraps at McDonald's. (He said he was going there and since I liked them I thought it would be ok to have them) He says alright, but when he gets home he brings in Sausage and Pepperoni pizza from Little Caesar's... He always does this to me when I want something... There was nothing else in the house to make something good, and I had no choice but to eat it since I only had about 450 calories inside me for yesterday. And now this morning was my weight day, and I weighed 208.5lbs. Last week I was 206 and there was no pizza that week... I think it's time to get some support in my family to help me, and not hurt me. I might begin to just make my own dinners despite this problem.

Stop blaming other people for what you are eating.

I just looked at your diary and you eat so much junk food, what your stepfather brought you that day is the least of your worries.

Start having some real food instead of junk. So many hotdogs, biscuits, pizza, cupcakes, crisps, potato chips... the list is endless!!

Take control, cut out all the junk and the weight will literally fall off you and you will not be hungry either, not after eating so many empty calories.

Do not ask people to buy you takeaways, that way they cannot tempt you.

Seriously, that one thing he bought you did not make you gain weight, what made you gain weight is the accumulation of the rest of the stuff in your diary.

Fast food seems appealing because it takes no effort to prepare it, you buy it and go and then eat it - no effort to prepare, no effort to eat it and to top it off, there is no effort to pile the weight on because that is what junk food does, it piles on weight.

If you are really serious about losing weight, you are going to have to make changes and those changes will entail cutting out fastfood, cutting out takeaways and start consuming some food that is good for you and not just convenient

The pizza didn't make you gain weight. I had six pieces last night and had a loss this morning.

That might be because of your metabolism. Also, it depends on what kind of pizza you had as well.

I had six pieces of bacon mushroom pizza from Dominos. I am 36 with 2 children and have had an abdominal surgery. I guarantee at the age of 18, your metabolism kicks my metabolism's *kitten*. With the food you are eating, and the activity you are logging, you must be starving most of the time. Even if you just started adding some fruits and vegetables without making any other changes, you would start feeling better, have more energy, and 2.5 pieces of pizza wouldn't cause you to gain 2 pounds. If you want to lose the weight, you have to take control and you have to make the decisions. Did your stepdad make you eat pizza for breakfast this morning too?

The pizza didn't make you gain weight. I had six pieces last night and had a loss this morning.

That might be because of your metabolism. Also, it depends on what kind of pizza you had as well.

You didn't gain weight you are retaining water. Don't worry about, drink lots of water. My mom always told me when I said I don't like that stuff in the house "You're the one counting calories, not us." Which essentially meant I'm responsible for me. Just because I'm counting calories doesn't mean I make others change.
I understand having nothing else to eat, but modify =] take off the meat or only eat half the cheese.

Today is a new day =] chose to be successful

Wow, your food diary is horrible. Pizza and donuts for breakfast??? What is that?
You are 18, time to take control of your own life and not depend on your parents.
Tell them to start bringing in healthy foods for you to make or go buy your own groceries.
You will never lose the weight you want to eating any of that garbage. I know you said you where cutting back but that junk needs to go now not cut back.

He was heading out to get something to eat and since I was low on calories, I asked him to get me 2 grilled snack wraps at McDonald's. (He said he was going there and since I liked them I thought it would be ok to have them) He says alright, but when he gets home he brings in Sausage and Pepperoni pizza from Little Caesar's... He always does this to me when I want something... There was nothing else in the house to make something good, and I had no choice but to eat it since I only had about 450 calories inside me for yesterday. And now this morning was my weight day, and I weighed 208.5lbs. Last week I was 206 and there was no pizza that week... I think it's time to get some support in my family to help me, and not hurt me. I might begin to just make my own dinners despite this problem.

Stop blaming other people for what you are eating.

I just looked at your diary and you eat so much junk food, what your stepfather brought you that day is the least of your worries.

Start having some real food instead of junk. So many hotdogs, biscuits, pizza, cupcakes, crisps, potato chips... the list is endless!!

Take control, cut out all the junk and the weight will literally fall off you and you will not be hungry either, not after eating so many empty calories.

Do not ask people to buy you takeaways, that way they cannot tempt you.

Seriously, that one thing he bought you did not make you gain weight, what made you gain weight is the accumulation of the rest of the stuff in your diary.

Fast food seems appealing because it takes no effort to prepare it, you buy it and go and then eat it - no effort to prepare, no effort to eat it and to top it off, there is no effort to pile the weight on because that is what junk food does, it piles on weight.

If you are really serious about losing weight, you are going to have to make changes and those changes will entail cutting out fastfood, cutting out takeaways and start consuming some food that is good for you and not just convenient

Actually I am serious about the weight loss thank you. I have actually cut back because I would normally have eaten double that amount if it wasn't for this site and the friends I have on here that help me. Have you ever heard of cutting back in small steps before, and then get off of it?

I think the point that is being made is to stop eating so much of the processed and "fast" foods. A peanut butter and jelly sandwich made on whole wheat bread is far better for you (not to mention more satisfying) than a package of pop tarts. And its still portable to take to school.
You are right it IS about making small changes but there are a lot of days where you are eating these types of foods at every meal. Start with one meal at a time; breakfast for example, and eliminate the quick foods...make some oatmeal or over the weekend make some low-fat muffins that will last through the week.

As much as you don't want to admit it, the PP is right...you can't blame other people for what you are eating. And if it is such a continual problem, why not go with him so you can ensure you're getting what you ordered.

Some people fear others success! It is time that you take control of your life and do not let the actions of others influence how your actions. Your health is your responsibility. Next time he brings pizza home and you feel that this is all there is to eat....pick off those nasty sausages and pepperoni and eat just one piece of cheese pizza but do not eat all the crust. Always keep fruit in the house; if necessary keep a bowl in your room. Always keep protein bars in your purse or workout bag. Today start cleaning up your eating habits...I did not check your food log but today choose to clean up your snacks. Once you've got that under control try cleaning up your breakfast. Not saying that I eat perfectly but feel free to checkout my food log anytime. Keep in mind I am a work in progress or I wouldn't be here. I have lost 70 pounds in 2 years and I have a long way to go. :blushing:

I have also looked at your diary and you are not eating enough real food. If you can reduce the amount of processed food you eat and replace it with some real food made with real ingredients, you can actually eat a much greater quantity of food with a lot fewer calories/fat/sodium.

By no means am I an expert, but try adding fruits, vegetables, and lean protein every day. You will feel better, look better, and probably lose some weight, too.

Agreed with the others, and as someone living from home eating my parents food (oi.) Why not go shopping with them, and grab a few things just for you? I grabbed a nice low cal and high vitamin and fiber cereal, it's called Malt-O-Meal with honey. it tastes just like frosted flakes, but it gives me sooo many nutrients. I measure out a full cup, and a half cup of skim milk, and it's wonderful. I also get granola bars to have as snacks, and I get "chips" made out of air popped popcorn for when I get that urge to indulge So even indulging becomes less bad. Also, I looked at your diary... you NEED to be eating more calories!! I meet my goal every day, at least, even after a ton of exercise. I will force myself to eat more even if I dont feel like it, lol. Or ill have a glass of milk to up the calories. Also, make sure you drink plenty of water! the fluctuation is probably from water weight

Did you eat 2lbs of pizza? I don't mean to sound rude, but don't put a less that stellar week on someone else. Own it and move along. 2 pounds is not that big of a deal.

Wow - people are being rather unforgiving here. Yes - diet needs improvement - I'm sure she's heard the message. At 18, I had no bank account and I didn't have my own car. Going to the grocery to go shopping for family food was not a feasible option for me. Step back and remember what it was like to be living with your parents. It's very sad if this was the only thing in the house though - not even a can of tuna for a sandwich? some cheese and vegetables? Even cheerios would be a welcome change. I do have to agree with other posters about getting mom on your side as well. Who does the shopping? If it's mom, you should make and effort to go with her and find some easy meal alternatives to stock up around the house. Read the labels on what goes into the cart and try to find less calorie-rich alternatives. Try adding some sort of fresh or frozen veggie at every meal (canned stuff is loaded with sodium as well) - limit the starches and pre-prepared foods.This sounds like a situation where the whole family doesn't know how to eat and buying inexpensive fast food is a regular occurrence. I'm 5'8 and weigh 142 and I myself have gained 4-5 pounds from one day to the next just from sodium, esp when I am close to my period. I am extremely sensitive to the stuff. That being said, your processed food and fast food diet is loaded with the stuff. Until you get off that kind of food, it's going to be very difficult for you to track losses with any regularity. Also, drink more water - it takes me 2 days of drinking 3+ L a day to flush water weight out for me.