YOUR MOTHER IN LAW>>? PLEASE ENLIGHTen ME,,

My MIL is wonderful and sweet. My own mom is a head case, and my MIL told my now husband when I moved into the neighborhood that I was going to need a friend, and that he should be my friend. He was awkward and shy, and a few years older, but we fell in love. She's always been a supportive person, and sometimes a little too intrusive, but I love her very much.

let me just say i packed my crap and moved to another state to get away from her evil. she runs on hate and destruction.best advice i could ever offer is to look at inlaws before saying i do.

I'm very lucky...mine is great (she's actually thanked me for taking good care of her son, and minds her own business). A lot of my girlfriends are not so lucky, so I know enough to appreciate a good one!!

I'm divorced and I get long better now with my ex mil than before! I even went to Hawaii for a memorial service with her when no one in her family would go! I really think a lot boils down to communication, I didn't think she liked me when I was married, I think sometimes the son gets in the way! Lol

used to be a nightmare omg

She's OK, but thank goodness we live three hours away. She has three sons and one daughter and the only child who counts is her daughter. At Christmas one year, she told me that there is no one she loves more than her daughter: my father-in-law and husband were right there. Wow! I lost all respect for her then.

I could go on and on about the things she's said, but to what purpose? I've come to the realization that she's not malicious, she's just clueless about the impact of her words.

I tolerate her out of respect for my husband and father-in-law. They are two of the sweetest men to walk the face of the earth and the last thing I want is to hurt them.

Mine is a PITA. I'm glad that we live 11 hours away, but it makes the visits here seem to last an eternity because they stay with us and are around 24 hours out of the day with no break. She's overbearing, nosy, rude to me and doesn't respect anything I have to say about any subject, especially concerning our 2 sons.

She and I are really close. I say she is the best thing I got out of the divorce besides the children. She does some things that I don't like, but all in all, I really love her!!

She is the devil...doesn't talk to me nor my Wife, and was trying to play favorites with the grandkids.

My mother in law is so juiced up on various meds she is a basket case.

My MIL is so awesome!! I love her so much! She is one of the best people I have ever met and it is truly a gift that she is in my life. She knows all the good and bad about me and still loves me. I know I can call her anytime and just talk about nothing in particular or ask her for advice. I trust her more than I do my own mom. If anything were to happen to hubby and I, our children would go and be with my MIL. No question! I just wish she lived closer. She lives in the next state and takes about 8 hours to get there. My FIL passed away a few years ago. Wish she would consider moving closer to us or just come for an extended visit. BIL and SIL also live up our direction. So if she came up here, she would be close to 2 out of her 3 children. But for now I enjoy the time we do get to spend together when we go to visit her.

I haven't seen her in almost one year and I can walk to her house...

I loved my mother in law for the first 15 years I knew her. We got along great. Then she started to attack my husband. Now we don't get along so great.

My mother -in -law is the best!!! She looks after all of us!!!

For the most part I get along great with my in-laws. MIL is generally nice and kind-hearted but, like most MIL's has a couple of habits that drive me bat-**** crazy.

Primarily is that she is the enabler in my in-law's house. My father-in-law is obese and is Type II diabetic and seems to have little to no impulse control. Yet the MIL has to have sweets (cookies, cake, cupcakes, you name it) in the house. And on top of that she's always buying sweets "to bring over" because there's not many in my wife and my house (there's a reason for that) and pushing sweets and food on my kids.
Example - last weekend we went to see them. My wife's aunts and uncles were going to come over to see the kids before they leave to go back up north (they're snowbirds) so we decided to get together at the in-law's place for lunch since it was sort-of in the middle. We show up just before 11:00, family is supposed to get there between 11:00 and 11:30, we'll cook out as soon as they get there.

MIL - I bought some cookies, do the kids need a snack?
Me - No. No snacks right now, we're going to be eating lunch soon.
MIL - How about some fruit instead? I have bananas and strawberries and watermelon.
Me - No, we're going to be eating lunch in about a half hour, I'd like them to actually eat it when we do.
MIL - Well, are you sure they're not hungry?
Me - (inside voice is saying many bad words) I think they'll be fine.

This was followed by, as soon as they finished eating lunch,

MIL - to our 4 year old - Do you want a cupcake for dessert?
Me - (relenting, she ate all her lunch, and I'm OK with her having sweets, but she's notorious for just eating the frosting and I hate wasting food...) Katherine, if you want a cupcake now, you don't get any treats later. And you had better not just eat the frosting and waste the rest of the cupcake.
K - OK, Daddy, I won't waste it. (Katherine proceeds to just eat the frosting and throws the cupcake away ("I don't like it, Daddy.") :mad:)

Jump ahead a few hours to dinner. We eat, everything's good.

MIL - Katherine, there's one cupcake left, do you want it?
Me - Remember how I told her that if she had one earlier she didn't get one now?
MIL - Well, I thought maybe she'd want one...
Me - Remember how I told her that if she had one earlier she didn't get one now? And how she wasted the last one you gave her? No cupcakes or any other dessert you may have stashed away in the house, she's had enough sweets today.
MIL - Well, I thought she might just want something sweet...
Me - **SCOWL** (which ended it, by the way)

There is one other thing she does that drives me nuts. If we invite them over for holiday dinners we normally share the meal (we'll make certain parts, they'll make others), which I'm OK with. But what drives me insane, and some may not think this is a big deal but it makes me batty, is that she'll bring pots and pans and whatever utensils she thinks she needs to make whatever she's making because "I didn't think you had any." WTF!? I know I shouldn't let this one bother me, but it's pretty insulting (at least to me) when you don't think that your mid-30's daughter and her husband don't have anything beyond a dorm-room kitchen. I can understand her bringing some specific, exotic tool that you'd need to make something, but pots and pans? Baking sheets? Because you didn't think we had any? Really?

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