Does anyone else find this disheartening?

I dont think you should post other ppl's pictures without their consent

Yeah but then again what's disheartening to me is that even though my starting weight was lower than your current I didn't look as good as you do AT ALL!!! and even how much I'll lose, I'll never have that waist-hip ratio you're sporting ALREADY!!!!

so stop posting these pics of yourself right now! SNIF!

i am with you on the whole feeling deflated thing. you and the other posters here are correct, there are a lot of differences in people's bodies: we carry weight differently, some of us look healthy at a weight that makes another person look heavy and another person look sickly, some people can eat anything & be fine, others have to monitor every calorie that goes in, some bearly exercise & get results, others have to work their a$$es off to see even the slightest result.

as i type these words, i find me laughing at myself a little because last week i was bascially asking the same question. and while i seem to be perfectly capable of providing you with a logical answer, i am having a hell of a time internalizing it myself.

here's the deal (a little hourglass to hourglass tough love, if you will): you and i share the hourglass figure that ladies of the 1950s & 60s would have done anything to achieve. unfortunately for us, the popular media that we have grown up with gives us the impression that while marilyn monroe was a knockout, she probably wouldn't have made it in the industry today or at least not without going on a diet to trim down her shapely hips (can't imagine them complaining about her 24" waist). i WISH that popular media would include more images of shapely women, but until they do we are going to have to quietly remind ourselves every single day that we are beautiful too, even if our body doubles never make their way onto the airbrushed cover of a magazine.

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OP, I think you look fantastic! If you get to 155, you'll still look fantastic! You have the body I wish I had, but I have no hips or booty.


I think you have the perfect body. The first example of the other girl has some black shorts, and part of a black chair behind it. Very much an optical illusion. Had she been wearing bikini bottoms in the first picture, you would have probably thought she looked great at 155. Also, the lighting of the second picture is much better for the coloring in her skin, and it is a top-down photo taken from further away from the mirror. All these things make a big difference in how you perceive the photo. I think she looks underweight at 134, IMO.


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Don't feel deflated, just keep on your journey and recognize that as all bodies hold weight differently, goals may change. I'm realizing that I have a small frame (had no idea, always thought I was "big boned" even when I was thin), so now when I hit my original target, I'm going to re-evaluate if I'm good or if I should go for 5 more lbs since with small frame the target is moving.

Good luck - you look fantastic!!!

No offense to the other girl; but I think you look better than she does!

Sometimes I look at how far I've come and where I want to be, and I feel great — and then I see something like this


This girl is the same height as me, and her "start" weight is the weight I want to be at when I maintain. Now logically, I know that everyone holds weight differently and my body may be more fit than that when I reach the same weight because I've been incorporating so much exercise, but it's still frustrating on some level. For an idea of how my body holds weight, this is me right now at 169 (14 pounds above her start weight)



Am I letting things get to me too much, or does anyone else have similar experiences?

I think you're letting this get to you too much. That other girl's thighs touch at her starting weight. Yours don't. You've got a hip to waist ratio I'd kill for. Don't worry. Keep up the hard work. You look good know, and you'll look great then.

YOU LOOK GREAT!!!... I might have missed the point of the post.

Everyone carries their weight so differently. And everyone also has a preference as to what weight they are comfortable with. I am also trying to get down to 155 and am 5'7".

Here is a picture of me at 155 (Where I'm trying to get back to) and I think I carry it very differently (not better, not worse) than the before picture. I don't ever aspire to be anything less than 140, simply because I know how hard it was for me to even maintain 150-155.

I never share this picture but I wanted to show you that you are not alone in your boat and that I think 155 can be very pretty (that is not meant to sound conceded lol)