90lbs down - When will I FEEL the dfference?????

Unfortunately, no one can really tell you that. For me, it really was when I could shop in the normal section instead of the plus size section. And when I start feeling like I haven't accomplished much, I start looking at side by side comparison photos to remind myself how far I've come. And try not to focus on how far I still have to go.

You are neither fat or frumpy. You have achieved major success during the time that you have set about losing that 90 pounds. You are receiving compliments from friends and family and quite rightly so. You should IMO,continue to receive these compliments because you are still achieving major things,most notably,you are turning back time. You are wearing clothes that are making you feel good,your confidence has soared and along the way,you have given so much support to others. Take a real good look in the mirror,it's time to start seeing what others see and start liking what you see. You are an absolute 100% diamond.

I know exactly what you mean. It'll take time to adjust. And until you do, every time you catch yourself in the mirror you'll get a lovely surprise because you won't be expecting to see a slim person there!

I too am feeling the same way. I haven't lost a lot of weight, I didn't really have a lot to lose. I had though become very soft. I have had three children and I was eating like my kids did,so I I was barely fitting into the largest size pants I had ever been in. Now I am slowly getting rid of the softness and increasing muscle. I am guessing once my body fat % is lower I will feel better. I know that the number on the scale is not my goal. I am at the smallest size I have been including while in high school and I am 10 pounds heavier than I was at that point. I would recommend if you can start weight training. It has helped me slowly start feeling better about how I look in the mirror.
Hope that helps.

I haven't lost nearly as much as you (17lbs so far). I don't see a difference in me or feel a difference but I have to keep telling myself that I've lost 17 LBS!! I've lost the equivilant of a 7 month old child! That's a big accomplishment. I just have to focus on the facts rather than my feelings. I think that if I focus on those things sooner or later my feelings will catch up. Congrats on your weight loss!

Stop worrying about weight and start working on fitness itself and you will feel it. I know I have and others i have worked with.

I'm in exactly the same position as you. I know I've done amazingly well, but I also struggle to feel the difference. I wore a size 12 dress today and STILL felt fat, even though when I started I would have had to get a size 20.

The thing with the picture is true... put it somewhere you can see it all the time.. After 7 months and 2 days I finally got rid of all my baby weight... I felt awesome when I finally could see myself in my old jeans and mini skirts... I look at my before and after pics and just feel great!!! So far, 17 pounds less and I'm looking to loose at least 32 more!!! I'm very motivated!!!!

That's nearly impossible to answer. After years of being heavy your brain just gets used to seeing yourself that way.... I've lost almost 50 lbs, I'm a size 6/7, but I still look in the mirror and feel fat and frumpy. I'm hoping once I reach my goal I'll be able to see the person my husband says he sees.

I have gone from a US size 18W to a size 12, and I still don't "feel" thinner. I do, however, take a lot more pride in how I look every day, which helps. I bought clothes that fit nicely, hang nicely, pants that fit properly, colors and cuts of tops that flatter me well, and I wear jewelry (necklace, rings, earrings, bracelets) and a matching handbag or wristlet every day. I never used to do that stuff, but I like that I do it now. It makes me feel more like I am proud of my new body even if I don't really "feel" it (if that makes any sense).

i know you aren't fishing for compliments, but I have to say..... WAY TO GO!

For me, I lost weight a long time ago but didn't really "feel" any different. I guess I was expecting the heavens to open and a parade of unicorns to shower rainbows and butterflies on me. It didn't happen.... and I gained the weight back over a period of time.

THIS time, I am making sure to log and keep track of how hard I work, so I have proof that *I deserve this*. I worked hard for it. Never, ever forget how hard it was and how far you've come. Take a moment to smile at yourself in the mirror every day and say, "Well done, you!" Take ownership of your new body, love it, and feed it well.

Long live the skinny woman! :happy:

Try doing like the Biggest Loser and put the weight back on in the form of weights strapped to various parts of your body. It doesn't even have to be 90 pounds. I lifed a 40 bag of salt the other day and couldn't believe I used to carry almost twice that much. How did my poor body handle it? It didn't!! It kind of helps you realize how far you've come and how thankful your body and joints are to you. Of course my naturally negative mind thinks "Now if I could just lose ONE more of you..." but I'm still working on that negative mindset ;-) My mind and body are a constant work in progress.

I feel that way at times. I know I've lost weight, but still feel like the fattest person in the room.

Yesterday was the first day I had gone to looke for new jeans, I tried on a 22, then a 20, next an 18, then a 16, finally a 14 fit! A 14 from the Jr. section not the Plus section. That was a real motivator!

You've been heavier longer than you've been "small" - of course it's going to take time to re-envision yourself!

You have made amazing strides and incredible progress - and you may not FEEL thin, but it's important at this stage to realise you are still seeing your "old" self in your mind's eye, and give yourself kudos at the smaller size. For me, realising that my mental picture of myself isn't accurate was a HUGE thing.

My breakthrough came when I was with my partner somewhere, and he pointed out a woman with a body I envied. I got upset! I was SO MAD - and he was confused! I cried "why would you point out a girl like that when I look like THIS?!"

And that's when he said that she and I had the same sort of body! I was completely flummoxed, so he asked me to point out what I thought I looked like - and then it was his turn to be bewildered, because it was completely not how he (and, it turned out, others) sees me.

Perhaps something like that might be helpful - find someone you trust implicitly to help you get a visual on where you were when you began - and where you are now? That was such an eye-opening experience for me, I can't even tell you.