Creepster at work

Good grief!! I would make hr do something now!! You also need an escort to and from your car.

Some guys (and girls) don't pick up on hints because they are either too stupid of full of themselves. Judging by him forcing his coffee on you im thinking both. Best to be very direct and say look I just started here and if my boss sees you here all the time I'm gonna get in trouble. Im happily married and I'm not interested.

Do they do background checks there? He's prob harmless but If he doesn't get it or you feel threatened talk to your boss or hr right away.

Keep bugging HR- lots of time their hands are tied as they have to go through "process". If you have an Ombudsman, speak to that person. Let your co-workers know of your discomfort so they keep an eye out as well. He sounds scary.

Direct is best. It may be unpleasant....but its unpleasant *anyway*. Can it really get much worse? You don't have to be rude, but be direct. And firm. "I've got work I need to do. Please leave. Now." And no smiling. No engaging. No nodding along while he talks. [we women like to deliver info with a smile...which can seem like a mixed signal to the socially dense].

Just say what you have to say and then either stare at him until he leaves, or ignore him.

Oh wow that is creeeepy. Are you able to shut the door and if he comes in just say - "sorry I'm on a really tight deadline I need peace and quiet"? If not absolutely tell HR again and again until something is done.

I had a guy at work who was creepy towards me, used to email me all the time and ask what i was doing - ALL THE TIME. Once I was coming back from lunch and me sprinted for the elevator to get in the same one as me, then asked me what i was having for lunch and if he could see it?????? And then he tried to follow me home after our xmas party, ended up calling some other guys to come and distract him while I got in a cab. Thankfully he was made redundant not long after that and I blocked him off all social media so that he couldn't add me on anything.

Creepiest thing - he worked in the HR department for a while.....

Direct is best. It may be unpleasant....but its unpleasant *anyway*. Can it really get much worse? You don't have to be rude, but be direct. And firm. "I've got work I need to do. Please leave. Now." And no smiling. No engaging. No nodding along while he talks. [we women like to deliver info with a smile...which can seem like a mixed signal to the socially dense].

Just say what you have to say and then either stare at him until he leaves, or ignore him.

I like this advise!!!!

Yup, gotta agree with the others. You have to be direct. You can't beat around the bush but be direct. Simply, "You spend too much time in my office, I'm sure you have your own work to do and I need to do mine." Or, "I'm not comfortable with you visiting me."
When you speak to HR, you've got to use the buzz words, "This guy is creating a HOSTILE ENVIRONMENT for me. I have spoken with him and he still comes around, you need to do something now."

From my experiences with personnel management and from my training:

Tell this guy one time that he is making you uncomfortable and report the conversation to your Human Resources rep. If you arent comfortable telling him yourself, you can lean on HR or his supervisor/manager. They have an obligation to do an investigation and/or to act to end this behavior, whether that is this guy's intent or not. This kind of interaction from him is clearly harassment. I would do something sooner rather than later. These things too often escalate. Be careful.

All of the above - also, start logging when he is in your office, how long he stays, what he says etc. You will want to have this in writing for HR.

I agree. Take down everything. Including the date and time of every single time you have talked to his supervisor, your supervisor, and HR. That is very scary, and yes, HR has processes that they have to go through but it should NEVER take long if you are very uncomfortable. He should have already been told to not enter your office as it could be seen as Sexual Harrassment if you conttinue to feel uncomfortable. They should not be dragging their feet in telling the guy to stay out of your office. Do not let up, either. He sounds very creepy especially the unasked for Coffee his way...

Liza - You do not have to put up with this individual or his games.

http://www.equalrights.org/publications/kyr/shwork.asp

Look at this link and print a copy. Give one to HR and leave one prominently on your desk so Mr. Leach sees it if he walks in. Inform HR that if they do not take action, they will force to pursue other avenues. Hopefully this guy's boss has a boss.

If you can use your phone to record video, set it up so you can record his conversation and you telling him to quit harassing you.

Have your husband visit you at work, walk him around introducing him..gets to that guy a nice firm handshake and a glare.

Thanks everyone for the great advice. I am good friends with the people in HR so I called her after work and we talked about it. She also suggest logging it. I am going to let my boss over me know what is going on. The HR manager said she will tell his boss of what is happening so we can stop it. I know this doesnt only happen to woman men gets harrased to. I felt like I did something wrong to make this happen to me. I am one of those woman that constanly smiles in conversation and a happy person in general. Maybe my attitude gave him the feeling that I was giving him a open invitation.

I'm sorry that happened I had something similar a few years back when I was waitressing in a small town. Guy comes in with his kid before school and they order coffee - him regular, the kid decaf. Now I did think that was cute and I'm pretty sure I smiled. Believe it or not, my job as a waitress involved me being NICE to the customers. This guy thought it meant I was interested. He started coming in more often on my shifts, sending me flowers, hanging out outside the restaurant, etc. He truly was stalking me. So the Ice Princess came out...I definitely wasn't interested - I went to high school with some of his kids! (like I said, small town).
So this guy starts hanging out at the coffee shop in the gas station telling people all kinds of rumors about me - how I was mad at this woman or that woman because he was talking to them, telling them I was jealous and I was planning to kick their (you know what!), you get the idea.
So one day I stopped into the gas station to pick up some coffee and the girl behind the counter corners me and says this guy told her I was going to come start a fight with her. I had honestly never seen this woman before, I had no idea who she was! I told her so. And I explained this whole fantasy world this guy made up all because I was doing my job.

Yup...I had a creepster before there were laws against them. Yuck!