I'm just going to vent for a second.

Aww sweet pea!! I know you don't want to hear this but you are still young. You are worthy of the best man for you AND THAT MAN will find you to be the most interesting, beautiful, wonderful woman in the world. He is out there and when the time is right you will find each other. I am most worried that you want a boyfriend so much that you might settle for less than what is right for you. Don't do that! Be patient, enjoy being single, and learn to love yourself unconditionally. You are perfect the way you are. Go listen to Pink "F-ing Perfect" or Selena Gomez "Who says?" and be happy that you are the wonderful you that you are :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

I am just going to go with what she said. Mainly it's because I don't recognize of the musicians she mentions (who understands the music you kids listen to?).

There's nothing wrong with being picky.

It's all about compatibility. I was in a relationship for almost 6 years, and he would have likely stayed had I not left. The connection to me just wasn't there anymore. People grow apart, we change, we can either grow together or move further apart. Many people aren't in the same place as where they started off.

It's all about connection. These girls you speak of have met someone who has matched them.

I wouldn't compare yourself to other girls or be discouraged. You just haven't met someone who you really click with. There is someone out there for everyone!

I ended up dating someone for a short period (5-6 months) of time after my first relationship ended, we concluded that we weren't a good match for each other. I don't regret the time spent because I learned what I want in a future partner throughout the way.

Take every experience, don't look down on them, live & learn. Don't be so down on yourself, you have plenty to offer, and it will be noticed. :flowerforyou:

You're 19 and the fit, feminine type that I find quite attractive. So if you can't find/keep a significant other, what hope is there for the rest of us?

If you were local to me, I'd ask you out in an instant.

There are a lot of idiots out there. The other side of the table is dating women, which is no picnic at all.

Don't just think with your vagina though. Choose a guy to be with who is more than just looks. The exterior matters, but what is inside matters more. Good character is what counts. So someone hot, smart, fun, treats you well, but doesn't let you walk all over them.

You're probably more mentally mature than guys your age.

To be perfectly honest, I find the shy type interesting.
I'm not sure what exactly you meant when you said that you're not interesting, but I guess that's all subjective. I find shy people interesting, other people find me interesting, everybody's different.

I'll tell you what my mom did all throughout my life. Date geeks. They typically have good hearts and take a women for who they are. My husband is a geek, and there is nothing more attractive to me then inteligence.

I was just about to say that all of the good guys rarely leave their basements, so that's why you can't find them! xD That's where I met mine, and we've been together four years... tomorrow. xD

I was pretty sure no one would want me as a high-achiever (scholastically) with rock-bottom self-esteem (hey, Mom told me no one would xD), but then I found someone. The thing is, it happens when you don't expect it. Look at who comes for you first when you're upset, there might be a perfect guy closer than you think.

Good luck\!

Aww sweet pea!! I know you don't want to hear this but you are still young. You are worthy of the best man for you AND THAT MAN will find you to be the most interesting, beautiful, wonderful woman in the world. He is out there and when the time is right you will find each other. I am most worried that you want a boyfriend so much that you might settle for less than what is right for you. Don't do that! Be patient, enjoy being single, and learn to love yourself unconditionally. You are perfect the way you are. Go listen to Pink "F-ing Perfect" or Selena Gomez "Who says?" and be happy that you are the wonderful you that you are :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

This pretty much sums it. For me, when I quit looking so hard, he found me. Don't be in a hurry by any means, I was in a hurry at 19 and spent seven years with the wrong man. When we divorced I swore I was done at least until my son was grown, But my current husband made that impossible.

You found me
When no one else was lookin'
How did you know just where I would be?
Yeah, you broke through
All of my confusion
The ups and the downs
And you still didn't leave
I guess that you saw what nobody could see
You found me
(Kelly Clarkson)

Listen to Haven't met you yet my Michael Buble: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1AJmKkU5POA

Aww sweet pea!! I know you don't want to hear this but you are still young. You are worthy of the best man for you AND THAT MAN will find you to be the most interesting, beautiful, wonderful woman in the world. He is out there and when the time is right you will find each other. I am most worried that you want a boyfriend so much that you might settle for less than what is right for you. Don't do that! Be patient, enjoy being single, and learn to love yourself unconditionally. You are perfect the way you are. Go listen to Pink "F-ing Perfect" or Selena Gomez "Who says?" and be happy that you are the wonderful you that you are :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

I am just going to go with what she said. Mainly it's because I don't recognize of the musicians she mentions (who understands the music you kids listen to?).

There's nothing wrong with being picky.

lol...you don't know who Pink or Selena Gomez are? I'm 40, and I have all of Pink's music & some of Selena's on my iPod! Partially because I have a 16 year old daughter. Go listen to those two songs....you'll get them once you hear them.

I officially love ALL of you for responding. I feel a million times better. lol Thank you. I'll be friend requesting all of you in about 3 seconds!!!

Glad you feel better!

Honey it really doesnt get any b etter. There is no such thing as Mister Right. There is Mr Flawed, but flaws I can live with. At 33, divorced and in a relationship at this point, I still very much agree that boys are dumb. But there is no way around that.

I also will tell you that after some major soul searching I found that at times I am pretty dumb myself. But in our own way we are all a little flawed. LOL. Chin up!!!!

And as my favorite saigon kick song goes (from the 80's) "love is on the way". There is a lid for every pot we just have to find the one that fits the best

ok, so i hear constantly Boy's are dumb, That is genderlizing. The way to find a relationship is all in how you go about an meet people. And where you meet them. It's not that boy or guys are stupid, we just mature at an older age. When I was younger I lived by this saying. Boys have to have some toys, there easy and fixable. Younger guys are just into entertainment... When we meet "the one" love is complicated and over our heads, and not fixable but a learning curve.... Hense why when we get more mature we can adjust......
I will also add Most guys Want what they can't have....

If you're looking at guys within your age range then yes you are going to find a plethora of guys still stuck in that "I only want the hot chick who puts out" mentality. And there's an overwhelming supply of those girls, even older ones. I'm not saying every guy your age or slightly older/younger is like that, I have a guy friend I've known since junior high who's a year younger than me who has never disrespected a female. Same with another guy friend I had in high school, he was a sweetheart to his girlfriend, loved her to death, and she broke it off to be a tramp and he was torn up for a year about it.

Shyness can affect possible flirting/dating scenarios but if the guy's looking for more than a booty call he'll chip away at your shell until your real self pokes out. As for the self esteem thing, I know that all too well. You don't necessarily have to love yourself before someone else can but you definitely need to find positive points about yourself, physically and personality-wise. Write a list if you want and even if for right then it's small, you can know that yeah okay you're not the airhead lots of young guys want, but you're this and you do that and you can make people laugh or whatnot. For years I used my humor to make friends and it boosted my self esteem because I was using a good thing I had and getting good results.

And I mean this in no mean way or anything because believe me we've all gone through it at some point but spending time actively searching for a guy or feeling bad because you don't have one isn't going to get you one sooner. Some people, it makes them more desperate and I've seen firsthand how much of a turn off that is. I had a best friend for 9 years and she wasn't what you would call attractive in many senses and for years she casually dated guys and only got serious with one who actually planned to marry her after 2 years together (she was 19 at this time, I was just turning 18) but something happened and he became a psychotic, possessive creep who harassed us both for 6 months after she ended it with him. After a year went by she started going stir-crazy to get another guy and she was harassing male coworkers for dates even though they never had anything in common with her, she flirted with customers and bragged once that she'd been offered a quickie in the broom closet at her job and online in forums we both attended you could have sworn she was a cat in heat, but no guys were biting because of it. It actually absorbed her so much that when I began dating a long time friend when I was 20 she tried sabotaging my relationship and stopped being a friend.

The long story short of that is, it's fine to want a boyfriend and to want that great bond you can get with a genuine one, but sometimes it's better to wait and make other stuff your main priority (and I'm not insinuating this is your #1 priority) and let the process be more natural in the sense of you happen upon a good guy or he comes up to you for a chat and things progress.

Me personally I didn't date until I was 20 and I'm still with him but after a really nasty incident when I was 16 (a boy at school spread a rumor I was his *kitten* after he forced a kiss on me then threatened to kill me if I said otherwise to people, and he actually had a knife on him when I told the principal and he was arrested the next school day) I didn't really look. But when my guy expressed interest and I, in a very odd way, expressed it back then everything settled into place. Life's weird when it comes to relationships of any kind, especially the romantic. But don't be discouraged by what you see around you, a lot of those are superficial and the only way they ever stay around one another a long time is often if they accidentally have a child. (and I mean no disrespect to those coming from that, my reference was to middle school/highschool students who are purposely irresponsible or the girls who think a baby will make the straying boyfriend stay)