Funny, but not-so funny question....

nikii14
nikii14 Posts: 403 Member
edited September 18 in Health and Weight Loss
As some of you may remember, a friend of mine is writing a book based on her struggles with her weight. She has been doing alot of research and polling both men and women with certain questions and I found this to be an interesting one that really makes you think.

Would you rather be overweight and very attractive OR skinny but very unattractive????
I still don't know my answer :ohwell:

Love to know your thoughts :smile:
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  • nikii14
    nikii14 Posts: 403 Member
    As some of you may remember, a friend of mine is writing a book based on her struggles with her weight. She has been doing alot of research and polling both men and women with certain questions and I found this to be an interesting one that really makes you think.

    Would you rather be overweight and very attractive OR skinny but very unattractive????
    I still don't know my answer :ohwell:

    Love to know your thoughts :smile:
  • icandoit
    icandoit Posts: 4,163 Member
    True beauty is within

    I would go with the fit and decent
    That falls between the overweight and skinny:happy:
  • kerrilucko
    kerrilucko Posts: 3,852 Member
    I don't really want to be "skinny" but if skinny means at a healthy weight, then I would rather be that.
  • GTOgirl1969
    GTOgirl1969 Posts: 2,527 Member
    I would rather be a little overweight...that can be fixed :ohwell:
  • mommared53
    mommared53 Posts: 9,543 Member
    I'm overweight now and don't consider myself to be especially attractive so I'd rather be skinny and very unattractive. I don't know any of my family (parents, grandparents) that lived to be over the age of the mid 70's and I'd really like to live to at least 80. Being very unattractive isn't a hindrance to reaching that goal like being overweight is. It's the beauty that comes from inside that matters more than outward beauty anyway.
  • lifesaver
    lifesaver Posts: 132
    overweight and unattractive... because I could work it off haha.
  • MontanaGirl
    MontanaGirl Posts: 1,251 Member
    Yup - I would go with the overweight and very attractive. A person can lose weight, generally, fairly easily (yeah, right. You know what I mean :laugh: ) But ugly is ugly!! My fav comeback to people who comment on my weight is yeah, I'm fat but your ugly and I can lose weight!!
  • Jewlz
    Jewlz Posts: 135
    I would rather be overwieght and pretty. but like she said true beauty is from within
  • wagsgirls
    wagsgirls Posts: 144 Member
    i would definately say overweight and very attractive. according to all the studies i am considered overweight, but don't really feel like it(at least not until i look at myself!:sad: ). i'm 5'5" and weigh about 180. but i do not look it(not to sound vain or anything:ohwell: ) but i still feel that i am attractive. i see to many people trying to be skinny because they think they will be more attractive but all they are doing is becoming less attractive. i know a girl from school (way back when! i'm 31 now she's about 28) she had ed problems back then, but now she is a mother of 2 and is going through it. she thinks she looks great but everyone that knows her is saying otherwise. she is maybe 100lbs. body looks like a 15 yr old but yet looks so aged. i just don't get it. i mean yeah i want to lose weight and definately need too and want to look good, but if it's me now or that then i'll stick with what i have as long as i stay healthy! i don't mean to offend anybody.:heart: plus i agree with the beauty within! you can be a beauty queen but if your a snot then nobody wants to be around you anyway!
  • ToTheLove
    ToTheLove Posts: 357
    Actually...

    I'd rather be thin and unattractive...
    Why?

    Because I'd be healthier...

    And there's always make-up, right??
  • TwistedLiquid
    TwistedLiquid Posts: 28
    this is definately a chick question you can't be overweight and attractive thats bull.
  • icandoit
    icandoit Posts: 4,163 Member
    this is definately a chick question you can't be overweight and attractive thats bull.

    :noway:
  • abbychelle07
    abbychelle07 Posts: 656 Member
    this is definately a chick question you can't be overweight and attractive thats bull.

    A lot of guys and girls would disagree!

    I pick overweight and attractive. That way you could have hope to lose it and be thin with a pretty face.
  • cinandchris
    cinandchris Posts: 229 Member
    I have seen many pretty overweight people. I choose overweight and attractive.
  • MontanaGirl
    MontanaGirl Posts: 1,251 Member
    this is definately a chick question you can't be overweight and attractive thats bull.

    Only to a prejudiced male would that be bull. I've seen a lot of overweight people who were very attractive. Of both sexes. Obviously not you though, twisted.
  • yoginimary
    yoginimary Posts: 6,788 Member
    I think many people are missing an important point - you can be healthy and overweight and unhealthy and skinny. Depends what you mean by each of these. Let's just use BMI for easy classification. Would I rather be 28 BMI and attractive - you bet! Would I rather be 45 BMI and attractive, not really.

    It's been so long since I had an ideal BMI, I don't remember what it feels like :laugh: Even when I wasn't overweight, I was never "skinny".

    All things being equal (healthy and the inability to change what I was), I would still rather be overweight. I think my husband likes a little cushion.
  • MontanaGirl
    MontanaGirl Posts: 1,251 Member
    I think the psycological reason behind the question is whether we would sacrafice to be thin or attractive. But, marywilldiet, you are correct in the "real" world. It is possible to be overweight and healthy. Overweight doesn't have to mean obese! And it is possible to be thin and unhealthy. But when you are only presented 2 options to chose from, you don't get to make up more options if the question is for research purposes :ohwell:
  • yoginimary
    yoginimary Posts: 6,788 Member
    I think the psycological reason behind the question is whether we would sacrafice to be thin or attractive. But, marywilldiet, you are correct in the "real" world. It is possible to be overweight and healthy. Overweight doesn't have to mean obese! And it is possible to be thin and unhealthy. But when you are only presented 2 options to chose from, you don't get to make up more options if the question is for research purposes :ohwell:

    Yep, I agree, but some people were saying they would rather be thin, because then they would be healthy.
  • carrierella
    carrierella Posts: 109 Member
    I find the "this must be a chick question" ironic, actually.

    The statement comes from an overweight man.

    Does that mean all overweight men are as unattractive as you think all overweight women are?

    There is no such thing as actual UGLINESS... unless it is exuded from a repulsive personality.

    In Love,
    Carrie
  • icupfunny2000
    icupfunny2000 Posts: 470 Member
    i think ill take what i have .... pretty and overweight :tongue:
    j~
  • MontanaGirl
    MontanaGirl Posts: 1,251 Member
    i think ill take what i have .... pretty and overweight :tongue:
    j~

    Bravo!! Yes, marywilldiet, your quite right :happy: I forgot some said that!!
  • KathyR
    KathyR Posts: 67 Member
    this is definately a chick question you can't be overweight and attractive thats bull.
    I am extremely over weight and am very pretty inside and out, beauty comes from within and if you act like your dumpy and dont care, it isnt gonna matter weather your skinny or not. One has to love themselves before someone else can see what to love. When you get older one will not keeps thier looks on the outside so all they have left is the beauty from within. Seams to me all you look at in people are the outsides. And that my friend is sad.
  • auntkaren
    auntkaren Posts: 1,490 Member
    I would bet if I and a slender woman with not much looks, were sitting next to each other at a public place, a man will go up and strike a conversation with her before they would with me, the fat one. :wink: But right now being slender is the healthier of us both no matter what people think of her looks, plus her being slender makes her more attractive then fat. Just the way the world thinks in my opinion:glasses:
  • TwistedLiquid
    TwistedLiquid Posts: 28
    I understand some people are simply butt ugly, like me and some are absolutely gorgeous regardless of weight, But I argue that you can be attractive and overweight. Regardless of how smooth clean and round beutiful eyes and skin you have, The fat is simply unattractive. Which is why Im here. Im tired of looking and feeling like crap. Which is why I think this question is ridiculous. No one can even come up with a straight answer they have to justify and fix the problem, hence the "I can lose it anyway" and "Skinny is healthy" This question is absurd.
  • auntkaren
    auntkaren Posts: 1,490 Member
    this is definately a chick question you can't be overweight and attractive thats bull.

    No I believe she said the survey was for men and women for the book. But there has been many times in my overweight years that the comment to me would be, you sure have a pretty face. I know there are a lot of overweight women out there that have heard the same thing. Those that said that just didn't finish what they were thinking, .....but your fat. So is attractive the right choice of word for describing their appearance as ugly? Can't a man be overweight and be handsome? Okay I just read your last post, and understand more of what you are saying. As I stated in my answer the world , society judges that fat is ugly.........or unattractive .
  • KathyR
    KathyR Posts: 67 Member
    I understand some people are simply butt ugly, like me and some are absolutely gorgeous regardless of weight, But I argue that you can be attractive and overweight. Regardless of how smooth clean and round beutiful eyes and skin you have, The fat is simply unattractive. Which is why Im here. Im tired of looking and feeling like crap. Which is why I think this question is ridiculous. No one can even come up with a straight answer they have to justify and fix the problem, hence the "I can lose it anyway" and "Skinny is healthy" This question is absurd.
    NOT all men think the way you are. My husband thinks im the most beautiful and atractive person to be seen and i weight 286 pounds He also thinks other over weight woman are pretty that we see.
  • KathyR
    KathyR Posts: 67 Member
    And another thing while im hot about this now...... I think it is rediculas to sit here on this site and tell all overweight people that they are not atractive. If you choose to look at yourself that way go ahead...
  • TwistedLiquid
    TwistedLiquid Posts: 28
    thats right the poll states overweight and very attractive. I didn't say overweight is ugly. I am saying overweight is unattractive. Therefore I cannot believe anyone can be "overweight and very attractive". I believe only someone with insecurity issues would state something of that nature. Just admit it overweight is unattractive. I also don't understand the beauty from inside statement. Have you seen those surgery videos our insides are disgusting some people couldn't be surgeons because of it. You may be an extremely nice person careing, loving, and outgoing but your insides are definately not beautiful.
  • KathyR
    KathyR Posts: 67 Member
    thats right the poll states overweight and very attractive. I didn't say overweight is ugly. I am saying overweight is unattractive. Therefore I cannot believe anyone can be "overweight and very attractive". I believe only someone with insecurity issues would state something of that nature. Just admit it overweight is unattractive. I also don't understand the beauty from inside statement. Have you seen those surgery videos our insides are disgusting some people couldn't be surgeons because of it. You may be an extremely nice person careing, loving, and outgoing but your insides are definately not beautiful.
    OMG now your being dumb about things and i for one am NOT insecure beauty comes from within means who you are inside, your heart, the way you act, the way you feel, the way you percieve yourself to others, your personality and so on there are alot of men and woman who think that a bigger person is more atractive then thin so it is all in the eye of that person.
  • TwistedLiquid
    TwistedLiquid Posts: 28
    "comes from within means who you are inside, your heart, the way you act, the way you feel, the way you percieve yourself to others"

    yes I will give you that. I dont mean to stir things up but I simply didnt agree with this question. I'm sure you are a great person, and I am not directing any of these comments directly to you.

    I know most people don't like my comment on overweight not being attractive but everyone knows its true whether they admit it or not.

    Everyone hear wants to feel healthy and "look good" (not overweight)
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