My best friend wont talk to me

Did you borrow something from her and forget to return it? Kind of sounds like she was trying to make a point by borrowing a book only to return it right away???

You're not in kindergarten anymore.... if you want to know what's going on, ask her!
Or, if she chooses to act as though she is in kindergarten then just get on with your life like a grown up person and let her do what seems right to her.

She took it, left, them returned it a few moments later. I could barely hear he say thank you to me as she left. Idk what to say or do. But that kinda made me feel used.

She might be trying to make a point with that. Not sure what is it, but maybe it's worth asking.

If you are truly good friends, you should make her tell you what's the matter. How can you make it better if it's a mystery? You dont' want someone being sulky and pouty at your mother's party; it could spoil everyone's good time. I say make her talk!! :smokin:

As an adult I know longer have friends who I am not comfortable telling how I feel. Being able to be honest is the hallmark of a good friend. If she can't do that then she is not your best friend anyway. Did you lose a lot of weight? Is she jealous?

I suggest being the "grown up" and just asking her what's going on. Tell her you would still like her to come to the Easter dinner, but want to make sure you two are on good terms prior to it!

This would be my suggestion, too. Just email or text her to say you would like to talk before Easter dinner if she was still planning to come. If she ignores the message, I would assume she's not coming to dinner.

Sorry you're going through this. Good luck on working it out.

I don't know, but people who give the silent treatment tend to do it with a lot of different people in their lives.

I would say, give it a shot and ask her what's happening. But don't dwell on it, as she is not treating you the way a friend treats a real friend.

I've had a sister and cousin do the same thing to me, but I wasn't the only person they were giving the silent treatment...it was a pattern of behavior for both people. (In fact it's a form of emotional abuse).

She might be an internal processor. That's how my boyfriend is. When we get in fights, he gets really quiet and won't talk to me about how he's feeling because he needs to sort things through in his head. It takes a while to blow over but eventually we make up.

It's really hard for me because I am an external processor, and I'm used to dealing with conflict by talking through it. Since I work out things that way, I want to deal with the issue and sort things out at that moment. This is hard for him obviously because he needs that time on his own to sort though his thoughts. So I have to slow down and sit back for a while and then he needs to come forward and talk eventually.

It helps that we've discussed this. When you two are on talking terms again, you could discuss how you each handle conflict and how the other persons' handing of conflict affects you.

Why don't you have a mutual friend pass her a note in Gym Class asking her what's wrong?

As others have said, I'd ask. No point trying to second guess if you've not got a clue. It may be that someone else has said you did or said something about them or it may be that they are going through something pretty stressful in their life and they took it out on you (as we tend to with our loved ones).

One other thing I'd consider is, what was the book she borrowed? Returning it so quickly was either making a point about you having borrowed something or she might want to tell you what is wrong that way (for instance if it was a book on someone going bancrupt or getting cancer). Might well not be, but who knows... and as I stated at the start, you wont know until you ask.

Hope it works out.