PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

Okay first off, you have lost weight and kept it off, so good job. This is less about being a diet and more about making it your everyday life. If you look at it like it is a diet and you go "on" the diet and "off" the diet then you are going to continue to yo yo. This is my lifestyle, period. I am constantly aware of the food I put into my body and even when it is a candy bar or potato chips (which I had for lunch today) but I enjoy these things in moderation. You still have a life to live and ENJOY but you just need to decide that this is going to be a lifelong journey, not a diet.

I couldn't have said it better NotParis. Quite often it's a not a physical or physiological barrier which stops us achieving what we want, in anything, but a psychological one.

I would gladly help you stay motivated. I am 57. I was skinny/fine (haha) util my mid-30's. I have enjoyed life, but watched a lot of it as a FAT person. I would give anything if I could go back and do it again as that size 7 I used to be. My life has been great, but I am angry that I lived .a big part of it fat. I let myelf get diabetes because I was toooooo LAZY to get healthy. You have all the time in the world ahead of you. You CAN DO THIS. YOU MUST DO THIS! DONT trade in the joy of being healthy, looking cute and feeling great for food today. You eat it, you poop it, it's gone.....except for the fat. Life is SHORT. You live it, it's gone. Dont trade stupid food for a healthy life like I did. You CAN BEAT THIS. i FINALLY am winning the battle. down 20 pounds in 2 months. that's good for me. i exercise daily and i feel much better. I am not going to have another single freaking birthday being FAT. I have until November. We can help each other.

try buying new workout clothes! it seems stupid, but it always motivates me! i bought a new pair of nike running shorts today and i'm excited to go work out tomorrow! (i already ran today or else i would go today lol)

edit: another thing i do when i'm not motivated is just put on my workout clothes and go. the hardest step is the one out the door. don't think about it, just do it! works every time

The best thing I can say is shake up your whole routine from time to time. I have to do this or I fall into a rut and backslide into my poor habits again and again. If you're eating the same things day after day, week after week, stop and cook completely different things for two weeks. Do the same thing with your exercise routines. If you work out and home or at the gym, if you do the same thing every single time it's going to get boring unless you really love that one thing you're doing or love a routine.

For me, when I get bored I get self-destructive with both my diet and exercise habits. While I love exercising, I also like to be lazy and can not stand daily routines for very long. Make it interesting and/or make it social and I'm there.

Oh yeah if I see a good Groupon or Living Social deal for Zumba, Yoga, Pilates, Boot Camp, etc for 30 days, I buy them and hold on to them to use when I get BORED lol

My motivation is the mirror! If I don't like what I see, I don't care what the scale reads. You look at yourself completely naked, assess your weaknesses, and zero in on them. If you only work out 3 times a day, that's three weaknesses you can work on, and in a month you'll already be a new person.

When you feel your motivation slip and your heart just isn't in the fight, change your strategy from one of wt loss to wt maintenance. You won't feel defeated by gaining wt and the undoing of all your hard work. I recommend being emotionally kind to yourself and giving yourself a break but creating a definition that you think you can succeed with of what that break will be. I'm not saying put a time limit on it - but do that if you respond well to that. For me, a short term time limit would stress me out and I would probably binge. But, if you just tell yourself "when I'm ready" and make your focus maintaining your new wt, it will be excellent practice for maintaining your newly achieved wt loss goals in the future. A good learning opportunity.

I TOTALLY agree with Carri, I am exactly the same !! I also bought some new workout clothes today because although I already have loads, its a physcological thing, the same as wen u buy a new dress u cant wait to wear it and i find the same works when i buy some new workout clothes, it motivates me to go home and start working out !! And as Carri says the hardest thing is getting your gear on and starting working out but once you start your fine. What I find really works for me if Im not in the mood is I put my workout clothes on and then I do some light cleaning (washing the dishes, hanging out the washing etc) and once you have started moving, you think well im dressed now I might aswell work out !! its like trying to trick your mind but it does work I find !! Try it see if it works ! But regardless fair play to you, you have lost the weight and in some ways I feel that puts you in a better position than most because you for one KNOW you can do it as you already have. Think back to how you felt when you had lost the weight and how pleased you were with yourself..........you need to get back into that mind frame and just go for it.................SUMMER IS COMING !! :happy:

Don't think of this as a diet, think of it as a lifestyle. As a dancer I know that the more veggies you eat the better your body feels-notice i didn't say fruits. A lot of fruits are good when you're young because the carbs give your body a high boost of energy but as an adult they slow you down. So to stay on the bandwagan find yummy healthy recipes that you actually want to eat and read up on the horrible side effects of all the everyday processed junk.(Lots of it can cause cancer) My mom trained my brain and i'm to the point where just the smell of fast food makes me want to throw up. I can't walk into the school cafiteria anymore because the smell makes me sick! My friends and i eat in the library. (Ice cream however is a whole other ball game!) Also it's good to give your body ONE overeat day a week where you eat 1-2 hundred calories over your normal so your body doesn't go into starvation mode-for me this means my icecream treat!! Also i find when i'm in a rut and feel like giving up on everything, and i see how far i still have to go with exercising i look back at how far I've come, play some motivational music and dance my butt off!!! I promise if you train your brain to HATE foods that are bad for you your life will be much easeir. Also read how some of the things are made-like chicken nuggets(i used to love these) they're made of the bone and fat of the chicken. THE BONE. EWWW!!! Needless to say i've never touched one since. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!

I know how you feel. Try getting a diet buddy that way you guys can keep each other motivated.

My diet buddy and I weigh in every Monday morning and report our weight. We also put £3 each into a pot. If we gain weight we have to pay £10. When we have enough in the pot, we will treat ourselves to a spa day. Whenever either of us is struggling we phone each other for support and a good talking to.. It really works